My girlfriend and I have been thinking about having a child in a few years but, I have some concerns about what the child might go threw having two mothers and no father also how to go about having a baby, vitro is very costly, and i herd that there is a chance of catching something with artificial insemination. im not comfortable doing it the old fashion way lol.. So im really confused
2006-08-18 13:38:49 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think it is o.k. as long as the child is not pushed to believe in your sexual preference and can decide for themselves.
2006-08-18 13:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm very glad to hear this question, and no there's nothing wrong with having a baby. Sure it may go threw difficulty's growing up but everybody does. If your strong parents and work together you will all be fine. As for the artificial insemination, no you can not catch something. Maybe in the old days you could but now it's all in the doctors hand. Like giving blood, you have to get tested, although it will be costly. good luck and please write me back, about what you decide
2006-08-18 20:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by Ivy Leaf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The kid would be ridiculed in school. Kids don't belong in a lesbian relationship, it's hard enough in this world as it is. I know a lesbian who had a child through in vitro. Her and her partner are no longer together and it is a mess! She is having so much trouble raising the child on her own, and also the child goes back and forth between the lesbian homes. I wouldn't take the chance on having a baby, the kid would probably end up with issues.
2006-08-18 20:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im totaly cool with your life style but that is your choice but the poor child has no place to run when he or she gets teased and you know it will happen, kids are just that way but dont be selfish by not giving that issue some thought.
The child will be loved and I think it is better then a foster so I am having a hard time like you to come to a conclusion on your question. Does it have to be an infant or can it be a 13 or older kid who also needs a loving home? then you can ask there opinion on this. What ever you choose, best of luck to you and yours.
2006-08-18 20:59:30 · answer #4 · answered by teddybar67 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that same sex relationships are ok but that's because the ones involved feel comfortable that way. There are no guarantees that a child raised in a same sex parenthood will feel comfortable. It may or may not be a way of life for him/her. I would consider the probabilities of friction after a long term based on contrary opinion from the grown child. After all sooner or later he/she will grow to be an adult with hi/her own personality. You may be disappointed with your decision if that happens. Then again, I may be voicing the devil's advocate opinion. And everything would be fine. The choice is yours and I hope you'll be happy with it.
2006-08-18 20:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should raise a child with two mothers. What if it is a boy. The boy will need a father to do manly things with. Sometimes the father is needed to help discipline the child. Plus the kid will get laughed at during school for having two mothers. Hanging with two women the boy my turn out gay and that is not good.
2006-08-18 20:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by Marques L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and get artificial insemination. If there is a risk it is very minimal. But I think they screen all doners for any diseases. And who cares what others think !! As long as a child is loved, that's all that matters. And don't you dare start mentioning the Bible! This has nothing to do with that. If you are in a good relationship that is all that matters. Good Luck !!
2006-08-18 20:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by Teslajuliet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think its fine. Many children are brought up with a single mother or single father and don't ever have two loving and supportive parents. I don't believe it to be any more or less beneficial to the child to have parents of two different genders.
I don't think your child will have any problems socially, because I believe that in the future people with different sexualities will not only be accepted by the public but by the government, too.
2006-08-18 20:49:37 · answer #8 · answered by Lucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this question will be a Catch 22 for many more years. In one sense, the child may grow up being made fun of not from other children, from people in general. But I think if you and your partner are loving and caring that beats anything! There are so many straight couples out there who abuse their kids, so many broken homes and yet it's ok for them to continue to breed.
I say go for it! Just from early on you need to be confident and be in it for the long haul because it will not be easy. But nothing ever is!
2006-08-18 20:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by trendymusic75 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the child grows up around it he or she won't have any bias against the situation, but when school starts they already were raised not to hate gay people that they'll b cool with it. Plus in a few more years it'll be more accepted. I mean i'm 14 and my family are homophobes to the extreme but I have no problem whatsoever with gay people. so As long as you love this child uncoditionaly it will love yall back!!! Hope I helped.
2006-08-18 20:44:56 · answer #10 · answered by philly princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not recommend this, as you will make the child think that lesbian is good and is normal, just think as a parent would you want your child to be a lesbian or something?
If you do.. then here's another pointer why you should not..
All children have their mothers and fathers. Your child would be so call "outcasted" as he/she might not fit in with the crowd.
Hope you think twice...
Cheers1
2006-08-18 20:46:29 · answer #11 · answered by THE ONE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋