hello i'm 24 and i have 3 kids. I just took two hpt's and they show i am preggo again. (we have been secretly trying for a year to get pg again.)
My mom will freak when i tell her. Whats the best way for me to break the news to her?
2006-08-18 13:29:19 · 26 answers · asked by naightengale 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
the biggest issue with my mom is mainly that shes my nest door neibor and she (and my dad) still think i'm 12.
and yes i am married to the father of all my kids!! married for 6 years now.
2006-08-18 13:45:00 · update #1
Call her up and ask her when she will be planning your baby shower....then say ohhhhh gotta go and see how long it takes her to call you back lol.
2006-08-18 13:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and straightforward. "Mom, I'm pregnant again. It is what (your husband) and I wanted". You're married, you have had other children. It doesn't seem to me that you endure some terrible danger because of your pregnancy, or that your relationship is going down the drain and having another child now is not the best for everyone involved. As a mom, I would worry if my daughter had some medical condition in which a pregnancy would be "life threatening", or if she was in an economical situation where having another child would be unwise. But other than that, if you wanted this baby so much, I believe she should be happy for you.
2006-08-18 21:12:55 · answer #2 · answered by CRNananana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are obviously happy about this, so just let her see your happiness, and if she starts criticising you for being pregnant, shout at her for not being happy for you, burst into tears, and blame your hormones!
Okay, I know that's probably not the best way to go about things.
I think that you should just come out with it. She's gotta become aware one day that you aren't 12 anymore.
I know this wasn't the best answer you'll read, but I hope that things will get easier and that your mom wont be too hard on you. If she is, remember the crying/hormonal thing! :)
Good luck!
2006-08-18 20:58:27 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult. Can you financially and emotionally care for a 4th child? IAs an adult, you don't have to do things to please Mommy anymore.
I would invite her over for lunch and say "Mom, I have some wonderful news! I'm pregnant!" If she gives you ****, listen and then tell her "I'm a big girl now and I don't need your approval"
Or you could just wait until you are showing, and when she asks why you didn't tell her you can say "Because I was afraid of your negative response, and I'm really happy about this, so I thought I would let you figure it out on your own!"
2006-08-18 20:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! After I had the first two, my mother acted strangely, also! And I was older than you. Some people just don't understand having more than two kids! We love our big family, and would gladly welcome another member if it happened, although we think we are done! Wait a while. No need to deal with the stress if she will be negative about it. Don't let anyone spoil your happiness. Just tell her quite simply you are expecting, and so thrilled! Shame on her if she tries to put a damper on things. Good luck to you!
2006-08-18 21:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by alone1with3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your 24 years old and it is your life you should be able to get pregnant when you want to get pregnant. just go to your mom and say momi'm 24 i have 3 kids and i am doing a great job and i love having kids and well i have another one on the way and you shouldn't get upset because your not the one that has to take care of them i do and i love it so please just understand.
2006-08-18 20:37:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are trying to get pregnant then you should celebrate this wondeful news. Congratulations!!! Your mom should be very happy for you, if you tell her you were trying. If she has issues about your youth and number of kids, remind her how wonderful family gatherings are going to be and how your age will give you the stamina to keep up with them all. Enjoy your blessing and try to keep mom in the loop so she sees it a positive, not something to be ashamed about.
2006-08-18 20:35:33 · answer #7 · answered by katy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by telling her that you and your husband/boyfriend have been trying to get pregnant for awhile now..see how she reacts, then slip in "And we succeeded" if she freaks out, then let her know that you're sorry she's not happy for you, but that you and your husband/boyfriend are VERY happy and when she decides to get over it and realize IT'S YOUR LIFE, she can let you know. In the mean time-she needs stay away if she's going to be negative about it. It really isn't up to her to freak out! She sounds very controlling. DON'T let her do that..she will ruin your marriage/relationship!
2006-08-18 20:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by YUM-ME 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well listen I'm a girl in the same position as you, Just sit her down start by sayin well; mom don't get angry i'm pregnet again but my other kids are doing fine and i have responsibility and it's my body my choise p.s. I'm a 14 year old girl and if i can firure that out then you can too.
2006-08-18 20:38:56 · answer #9 · answered by Did You SERIOUSLY Just Ask That? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if she's like my mom, she will know the minute she sees you. But I'm tryin to put myself back to when my daughter was pregnate. She had two boys, then a miscarrage. Then one day she said "Guess What" I said "You're pregnate again"? . Well, I thought she needed another baby like a hole in the head. She had two boys, with whom she had to have complete bed rest, and had just had a miscarrage. She was already having trouble with her dork husband (who had training for a good job and good pay, but all he wanted to do was make pizza, or deliver pizza, and only part-time, the loser) When they came to "gramma's" I fed them anything but pizza, hot dogs, or bologna. I kept fresh fruit and vegtables for them to snack on. It didn't take them long to figure me out, and with in ten seconds of coming through the door, they'd all be out raiding my refrigerator, and I didn't mind one bit! Well, I know I got off track, but they're my grand babies, and I love them. Any ways, she gave me a beautiful blue eyed blonde grand daughter, So my point being that no matter how you do it, just do it soon, be honest. Even if she freaks out, when the baby comes she will love it, she's a grand mother, that's what we do! But if I may add another comment? Slow down honey, we haven't had a world wide flood recently, and you don't have to try to populate the earth! LOL! Seriously, though, it tears down your body, and you are still so young. (Just thinking of My baby girl, I guess.) Good luck, and best wishes to you. (and Congratualtions!)
2006-08-18 20:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by vspaulo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why will she freak, your 24 and have 3 children already.
2006-08-18 20:35:23 · answer #11 · answered by Katie Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋