What would you do if your best friend told you he was sexually attracted to you?

Question

But you like him as just a platonic friend.

Answer 1

You have to let him know that he is important to you and you love him too much to destroy the friendship that you have . The friendship is much more important than a sexual relationship could ever be . Tell him his friendship is much to important to you to ever jeopardize , and If you had a sexual relationship and it for some reason didn't work out it could destroy the friendship as well . Tell he is just too important to you to ever risk loosing him as a friend .

Answer 2

You may get a gut response. I did. My best friend told me exactly that. That he was attracted to me. I did not feel that way back and I told him because I wanted the friendship, but not the sexual component. He didn't get the message at first and sort of pushed his hand. What a turn-off. Do you know what happened? I actually began to get physically sick... like a stomach ache, because I really valued this guy, but not that way. It all depends upon how much your friend forces his hand on you. The person I was dealing with didn't "get it," so I stepped back and closed off the friendship for three years. We finally opened the friendship a little while ago and so far, so good. Control issues. Try to find out if your friend is into controlling you. Be aware of this kind of thing. If he gets pushy about the sexual part again - you probably should just tell him straight out that sex is not part of your interest in him, but where this gets difficult for both of you is if you find yourself attracted to him, or are unsure of what your feelings really are. If the two of you are friends, then respect should be a component. All I can tell you is to play it by ear, and trust your inside feelings with him. If it starts to become a runaway train because he doesn't get it like my friend didn't, seriously consider stepping back or out. Bottom line is how you are getting along with yourself, and then - the rest of the world, if you know what I mean. You can draw this all to a halt if it gets too steamy for you but if you have to go that route, be sure you tell him why. Make sure he understands everything was fine until he began to force the sexual element. Good luck to you, by the way. It is a delicate balance, because you want to honor your friend, but make it clear you cannot go where he wants to take you. Sent with good energies from Chris in South Portland, Maine, U.S.A. (I am 63 years old.)

Answer 3

Tell him just that. You like him as a platonic friend.

Answer 4

That's a really good question, I think it all depends on the person on how open their sexuality is. Some will go for it, just to experiement, some will would be offended and turn their back on friends like that , I personally would probably experiement...............

Answer 5

Tell him thats not what your into. If he is really a friend he will understand and back down. If not then maybe he was just hanging around to try to get to know you.

Answer 6

I would tell him that I really cared about him but that he wasn't my type. That if he wanted to, we could still be friends but he would have to realize that there is no chance of having an intimate relationship with me.

If he was really my bestfriend, he would respect my feelings.

Answer 7

I would tell him that I appreciate that he could be honest with me and I am very flattered. But we are great friends and I do not want to do anything that would ruin that friendship.

Answer 8

I've had that happened to me. It lasted for about a year (from his side) but we never made too big a deal of it. He accepted the fact that it wasn't mutual.

Answer 9

I'd just be honest with him, and maybe try to help him find somebody like me that he could fall for!

Answer 10

I would tell him that I was flattered but I like you as my friend.