talking to young girls about oral sex?

Question

I know kids are more into oral sex than I was almost 30 years ago. My daughter is almost 14 and I am not sure how to approach the subject. Quite honestly, I don't see what girls are getting out of this besides a reputation. My daughter is very developed and looks a lot older than she is. I don't think she has the maturity to go with the body and would listen to all the crap boys tell her to get her to do what they want.
Is there a young lady out there who was given advice at this age that she actually listened to?

Answer 1

Girls are not getting anything out of it except a reputation. They can please a guy without actually having intercourse. You are right, it does nothing for her. Peer pressure is HUGE in this area. Tell your daughter that it is just as uncomfortable for you to tell her as she is listening to you about it. Tell her the dangers, the fears, and the moral issues involved. I know its hard to do but you would rather do this now and keep an open relationship with your daughter than tell her about it after the fact or when she comes home pregnant. You know that one thiing leads to another. Guys will tell her anything to get it. You need to do this.

Answer 2

At the end of the day this is only to please the guy. He's using your daughters body to his own advantage and pleasure, she gets nothing from it but a reputation as a slut and even if she's not she will have. And personally, I think wether she's pressured or not, the girl makes the choice to do it, unless she's raped so if she's made the choice at that age to do that she is a slag pretty much. Anyone with a brain cell will know the only one benefiting from it is the guy so why do it? Unless you're a slag? I've known plenty of young girls who haven't had advice etc and are still virgins because they have self respect and have common sense. But seems nowadays young girls are just up for anything, and will do anything.Once someone told me they were 'pressured' Into it, and because she didn't want to get know as friget?Even though she knew after she'd get know as a slag.So if you'd rather be know as a slag than friget then that's your answer of who you really are. They just need respect!

Answer 3

I'm 14, and it's so awesome that you're a mother willing enough to talk to your teenage daughter about oral sex. I think that kinda stuff is so cool; sharing ideas and thoughts and bonding together on that kind of level, parent and daughter, etc. I don't know about other young teens, but I find talking to parents about sex etc very reassuring. I know that they're there for me and always available to talk to about absolutely anything. You should talk to her. My mother has never talked to me about sex, and while I have an extensive knowledge of sex and sexual education, I was 12 when I made the mistake of giving my then-boyfriend oral sex. Few people know this. Those who don't know me and do know this can judge me but I know I'm not a slut, I made a mistake that I regret. You have to talk to her about everything; that's what I wanted my mother to do then - instead I have very good conversations with my father about life, the universe, and everything. Make sure your daughter doesn't do something nasty that she'll regret like I did, because I wish I hadn't. I'm saving myself for at least another two or three years, and even then, I will never let myself be pressured or influenced to do anything I feel uncomfortable with.

Hope this helps... electricarizona.

Answer 4

i know u asked this 4 girls but it all depends on u some girls can fit a big 1 al the way in and some girls cant and i definatly wouldnt know what it taste like cuz im not gay or bi but 4 guys theres no different between bi n gay well if he comes some hirls love it and some girls dont sometimes its a lot n sometimes not so watever u like 2 do its all up 2 u so the more you do it the more u'll find wat u like and dont swallow the come cuz if u swallow 2 much you will have to get it pumped out of ur stomach or somethine like that

Answer 5

im a 16 year old girl and i lost my virginity when i was 15 i am now pregnant with twins. my mother never talked to me about sex or anything like that so i took matters into my own hands. i think if my mom did talked to me about it and boys attitudes towards girls at this age i wouldnt be pregnant right now. u need to tell your child about diseases and pregnancy. if i could speak to every teen out there i would tell them its not worth the few moments of pleasure, i dont think i ruined my life, i think i changed it into whats going to be a beautiful struggle. the sooner the better u talk to ur kid cuz she is very curious, trust me and shes not gunna come to you but shes needs to hear it before things are to late. good luck .

Answer 6

i really think you just need to sit and talk to her about it say listen i know your getting older and your gonna be hearing things from boys but i want you to know and then tell her about the risks std.s the reputation everything she will appreciate it

Answer 7

Well I think 14 is a good age to have oral sex, I mean it's only oral sex. As long as they don'd do anything else. Im 14 and I already had oral sex. Nothing happened.

Answer 8

well i wuz schooled a lot about sex, but not about oral sex....i wouldn't do it especially at such a young age...da only thing that's going to happen is a bad reputation

Answer 9

i'm only 21 and i can't tell you what to do seeing that i don't have children but the only answer i can think of is to communicate with her and let her know how you feel.my mother never really talked to about this kinda stuff and i had to find out for myself.all you can do is give her your guidance and let her follow it.

Answer 10

Some girls will be embarrased and swear that they never will do it.Let her know that she can catch an infection from that.just let her know if she do decide ,if she smell a smell not to do it.This is a touchy subject.