I am almost 30 (sept. 23), married, with 2 children, and let me just say, I got the game all messed up. Somehow I thought that when I got married and had children, every single ounce of sex appeal I had, needed to go(and I was a sexy little chocolate thing:)) . Now, after almost losing my husband (long story), I'm stuck wondering who in the hell I am!! I am a full time college student, and maybe about 10 lbs. heavier than I was in my prime. Being on that campus brings out all of my insecurities. I've heard about sexy moms, but are they really out there? Are there really women in minivans that can still turn heads, and be sought after by their husbands. I feel like I'm trying so hard to recapture something that was gone a long time ago. Bottom line- I want to be confident and sexy, but I still want to respect and care for my marriage and children. All the sexy moms....are you out there?
2006-08-18 13:04:48 · 6 answers · asked by tbmommy 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
Girl, you need to go to a salon and have a full makeover, and then go buy a couple of new outfits that accentuate your attributes. Sexy is all in the attitude and how you carry yourself. So, go leave your kids with your mom and have a you day!
2006-08-18 13:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by trickygirlb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say if you also had a job, but if I am reading this right, you are going to college full time, raising two children, and you are someone's wife. You seem to be feeling like you have lost who you are. Please don't think I am downplaying your feelings, but what you are feeling is normal.
We don't stay stagnant in life, and the woman at 30 that you are now, is NOT the woman you were at 25. So you need to decide if you are grieving for that 25yr old, or just afraid to be who you are now at 30?
If being sexy is defined by what you look like, you are not givng yourself credit for everything else that makes you worthy. Self worth is sexy. Does your husband only love what is on the outside? Do your children? Or more importantly, do you? Your question should be, why am I limiting myself to such a physical role as a woman driving a minivan who can turn heads(I guess towards your sex appeal)?
I'm going to go out on a limb here and say you don't take any time for yourself, you do for everyone else and your whole day is run, run, run and there is never any time for you to unwind or relax. You sound exhausted, emotionally and psychologically.
If you are going to learn to accept and love yourself you are going to have to get to know who and what you really are, and that means you HAVE to spend time on yourself. Exercise is a great way of doing that, and walking is the cheapest and easiest way to exercise. You will lose that extra weight you don't like, and have a quiet time just to yourself to think. Don't take anyone with you, not even the dog(if you have one.). Demand this from your spouse if you have to, my guess is, he spends time on himself. In the end, he will also reap the benefits. Good luck.
2006-08-19 00:07:41 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost 30? Still young babe. I am a bit older than you and I give 20s a run for their money. Sexy is about personality, not what you wear. It helps me to keep a song in my head like' Baddest Chick' I walk with my head up high and nobody can tell me that I am not the finest thing going. Lol. You can be sexy driving a golf cart! Its all about confidence. Think like the little engine that could instead you think ' I got it going on' even if your hair is a mess. Take it from another sexy chocolate thing, sexy-ness gets better with age!
2006-08-18 20:24:07 · answer #3 · answered by MajesticEm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 lbs heavier after 2 kids does not sound bad at all. You just need to remember, at the campus all that matters to those people is sex. People who know what sexy really is would not hesitate to look at you.
2006-08-18 20:13:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, baby!!!!
so what if you gained 10 lbs, that's not the end of the world... start working out (if you aren't already) and go to victoria's secret and buy the sexiest damn thing you can find. strut your stuff and be proud to be a mom! I like to think of myself as a MILF (Mom I'd Like to F*ck) and that changes my whole outlook on myself.
2006-08-18 20:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by ♥sweet♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ready to date again? or simply try your mojo on some guys to see if you still have it!
suggestion: go watch how stella got her groove back
k0o0o0o0oL
2006-08-18 20:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by Mango 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋