First off, I hate the word cheat & I would rather hear someone say that they were in a marriage and tied down to a family without being in love with their husband (or wife ). To me there is little difference between having children with someone you aren't married to and sleeping with another man (That seems to be okay) Vs. Sharing a house with someone you have children with and sleeping with another man (which makes you a whore).
Remember when we were single and trying to hook up with every good looking man we saw?
Then there is the sad fact of life that your husband (or wife) was the one who stood in front of God (as you put it, not every marriage happens in a church) and made promises that they couldn't keep. So you're saying that we just suck it up and be happy being $hit on day after day.
Remember there's kids and BOTH are the parents.
Sorry but I'm a bit fed up with some of the holier than thou questions and answers, most from people who will change in time? Comments?
2006-08-18 13:01:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Did I mention that I am happy! And did I say I was doing anything outside my marriage! No I didn't, I'm saying that there are two sides to every coin. So why all the "Cheat" words thrown around?
2006-08-18 13:11:39 · update #1
people are entitled to their opinions..some are based on facts, some are based on personal experiences, some are just plain judgemental...either u believe them or not...bottomline is, its your life, do whatever u want with it, live it like u want it to be :) and be happy :)
2006-08-18 13:22:33 · answer #1 · answered by just me:) 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sorry did you have a question??
I am a married woman and have been married for quite sometime. I love my husband and value him this is why I would never "cheat".
I have children and if I were unhappy as it sounds like you are the best thing you can do is leave him. Then you will be happy and your children will see you happy and want that.
But if you would rather just cheat then get a divorce, now that is just ignorant. There is no point in staying married if you are even thinking of cheating why stay. You must not love the person you are with.
Get out of the relationship, you have a very poor attitude on what marriage really means.
You probably shouldn't be married at all.
2006-08-18 13:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie P 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What an odd thing to get on your "high horse" about!
It is cheating and it is hurtful and dangerous, if you have made a commitment to someone and you are unhappy you need to work it out or leave.
You say you are fed up with holier than thou answers, well quit asking creepy questions. I am serious I feel sorry for your mate if this is really how you feel.
What a wing nut.
By the way, I read your other questions and all I have to say is "WOW, I hope you don't have kids"!
2006-08-18 13:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Mad Maddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheat is the only word for it.
Same word is used for people who deal from the bottom of the card deck. They are not playing fair.
My daughter once asked me why they called it that, too. She said she loved her boyfriend, but she couldn't help looking around and seeing other guys she'd like to go out with.
I asked her, "Well, how would you feel if your BF was going out with other girls?" (She was VERY possessive of him, and NO, she wouldn't accept that, at ALL.) So I said, "Well, that's why they call it cheating... if you wouldn't want them to do it, then you shouldn't do it either. If you really don't want to be tied down to him, then don't tie HIM down. Let him go."
Perfect? Well, no, maybe not in every way. But in THAT way, yes, I AM perfect. I would NEVER do that to my husband and I never did it to a boyfriend either.
DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO UNTO YOU. It's as simple as that.
2006-08-18 13:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
god wants us to make marriage holy, but he also wants us to be happy and doesn't expect us to be miserable. Children will be better off growing up in a divorced home than in a home that is constantly being fought in. If you can't get along and don't want to be married then you should get a divorice. They SHOULDN"T stay in the marriage "for the children"
2006-08-18 13:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by ~*~marine~*~chick~*~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-06 09:18:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is cheating whether you are married or not. Being in a relationship or married and you sleep with someone else is cheating. Whether you love the one your are with or not.
2006-08-18 13:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like guilt talking to me....what behavior r u trying to justify and why r u so angry at everyone else. Seems u r the one with the problem.
2006-08-18 13:19:45 · answer #8 · answered by CJBig 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
apparently you're not married you're co-existing with a piece of paper that really means nothing but benefits.........why did you get married in the first place? seems to me like you just want the security of knowing that there is always some one at home incase you don't find "mister right now" tonight.
2006-08-18 13:07:49 · answer #9 · answered by num1accent01 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
dont go diving into things head first and you might not end up in a shitty marriage. if youre that unhappy, get a god dam divorce.
2006-08-18 13:08:41 · answer #10 · answered by SpankmasterFlex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋