My boyfriend and I recently started talking about having a baby, he already has a child and is older than me, but he says that he wants to marry me and make a family with me. I love him so much but I am young and I dont know if I am ready to have a baby yet, I have alot left to do for myself. Will a baby be an obstacle in my future dreams?
2006-08-18 12:49:39 · 11 answers · asked by twiinsgirl316 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
In my opinion, if there is any doubt in your mind, don't do it now. I was living with my long time boyfriend when I became pregnant at 26, unmarried. I am glad I waited agewise. I had all my kids by the time I was 30. And my husband is father to all 3 of my children. SOOOOO glad I waited. It's not something you can change your mind about after it happens; AND did he tell the mother of his child the same thing to get his way??? Sometimes young people think they are in love, especially if someone treats them like a queen,(especially if they are not used to that) but children change your whole life. Not to be rude, we LOVE animals, but my son got a cute little puppy, so he knows he's not ready for children, just with that responsibillity and experience - and a puppy is NOTHING compared to a baby. PLEASE WAIT!!
2006-08-18 13:09:06 · answer #1 · answered by mabell1025 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know for a fact that you are not ready to have a baby then you need not have one now. He wants to marry you? That's great and all but are you ready for that? If your boyfriend really loves you will he will wait until you are ready to have a baby. Go after your dreams first. There is always time for you to have a baby. If your not ready for a baby and you have one you might end up regretting it.
2006-08-18 12:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow tell your boyfriend to put a wedding ring on your finger first, IF you are even ready for that commitment. which, you better decide before the word baby even comes up again. if you don't know if you are ready to have a baby yet, then you most definitely are not ready to have one! taking care of another life is a wonderful thing, but most definitely will change the course of your life. i'm still just speechless that a boyfriend would even talk of having a baby without having commited to marriage first and that means walking down that isle BEFORE the words "lets have a baby" come up again!
2006-08-18 13:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by annie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready, then you have your answer. If you have a child that you don't want you will just end up resenting it. And you will raise an unhappy child. And yes, a baby will be an obstacle. They take 110% of your time for years.
2006-08-18 12:59:23 · answer #4 · answered by Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just Tell Him That You Would Like To Awile. That You Want To Find The Wright Person For The Father Of My Children.
2006-08-18 12:59:13 · answer #5 · answered by mks 7-15-02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not ready talk to him about getting married first so that you can be sure everything will be secure enough for a baby. Don't have a child until your sure your ready!
2006-08-18 12:53:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me, he told me that he wanted a baby & we were gonna get married. We had a baby girl, never got married 12 years later he married my cousin (last weekend). My suggestion would be go through with your dreams & maybe later your dreams will be to have a baby but don't change your dreams!
2006-08-18 12:59:53 · answer #7 · answered by Lysa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have doubts go with your instinct. Obviously you are well aware that you are not ready to be a mother. Also, I would dare to say that from your statements you may not be absolutely sure that HE is the one for you otherwise you would have jumped to marriage with him. Tell him NO baby's until you are ready!! Who knows, in 6 months he may be history and you may find your SOUL mate with whom you will be willing to sacrifice "future dreams" for LOVE!
2006-08-18 13:00:52 · answer #8 · answered by Eye of Innocence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you??? If you are 18 and younger then don't have the baby. It will just be a hold on your future right now! You need to wait to make sure that you can handle and take care of (financially) a baby. And if he can't wait then that's his problem.
2006-08-18 12:54:33 · answer #9 · answered by coniisland 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have a baby till you are married....Lots of men say this and never stick around...Look at his previous relationship that he has a child in he probably told her the same things....
Be careful.
2006-08-18 12:56:09 · answer #10 · answered by Farmgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋