my boyfriend and i want to have sex and are very ready for it but is 16 to young of an age?

Question

ok we want to have sex but his parent s want us to them so they know we are protected we have been going out for 4 and 1\2 months now and were think we are ready but we dont have a place to do such a big step and feel comfrotable so should we wait untill we are older and we both know we would have a place to have sex and not be worried?

Answer 1

Wait. Just do heavy petting. Save it.

If you are going to ignore that advice, at least protect yourselves. I know you are young and in love... Sex at your age is loads of fun, lots of passion, and feeling.

Just don't get pregnant, kids deserve mature parents.

Answer 2

Well, I don't think that there's any magic age, when you are suddenly ready. Everyone acts like 18 is THE age, the age you become an adult. But what does that mean?
Personally, I think people know when they are ready. Being an adult is really more of a state of mind. Mind you, I don't believe a ten year old can be considered an adult, no matter how mature. But I digress. If you are careful, and prepared emotionally and psychologically, I see no harm at 16, but at 16, that is highly unlikely.
This is touchy though, because at 16, most people aren't prepared when they think they are. This is mostly due to our society and how we treat our children, but I'm not going to really get into that, because it will take all day, and I'm lazy.
Our society acts as though you should make sure it's with someone you love. I call bullshit. That's what I did, that's what everyone I know did. You know what happened? They got hurt.
Why? Because they're 16 and up until then, they were treated like children. At 16 in this day and age, it's not likely that your parents taught you how to be an adult, and even more unlikely that you have learned on your own.
Yet again, I don't care how mature you are, you do not have the life experience to protect yourself emotionally. You may be responsible about it, but that's it. Use birth control and use condoms, like you should, but not much besides life can prepare you for the emotionaly crap that comes with "the first time". If you love this boy, chances are you'll break up and get hurt down the road. That's how it is. I say do it now while you're young. It'll hurt less later. If this sounds cynical, it's not.
It's true. But it's okay, because someday you will find someone, and it will be even more special than the first time.
I'm just saying, try not to attach to much to it. Really it's the media and society telling you how special it is, when really, I mean it can be, but it doesn't mean it has to be. Just keep that in mind.
Oh, and don't go out of your way to do it. It's not a big deal.
It seems like a big deal at your age, but when you've had a couple of long term relationships, it can get boring later on.
Don't overdo it now, because you'll just burn yourself out.
If it happens it happens. Don't force it.

Edit:
Also, when I said it's not a big deal, I meant in the sense that, when you're older you won't look forward to it as much. I'm not saying that sex should be some casual thing you do with a lot of people, because it's not. It's something that needs to be reserved and thought out.
The other people on here are trying to protect you the best way they know how. The thing is, you probably wont' listen to them, because it sounds like you've already made up your mind. I'm not going to tell you what to do though, I'm just trying to tell you how to protect yourself emotionally. The thing is: you will lose your virginity some day, and it's better for you if it's sooner rather than when you're 24 and just when you think you've become "normal", feelings attached to sex come along to mess that up, and the normal you knew is gone. It's better to do it before you've settled down, so that you can figure out early on where you stand with sex. Just don't let your hormones dictate your choices.

Answer 3

Do you really want it or its a "want" of your boyfriend. I am a man and i know i can say bluntly to you," Since we are already 4 months in the relationship, can't we do it?" Who do you think would be benefiting from this, you or your boyfriend. When you get used to doing it, who do you think would be benefitting from it, you or the guys who have made it with you. I don't think jumping into the wagon just because everyone does it, is the best decision you would be doing. Maybe someone would say its your life its your choice. But it also doesn't mean that you have to choose, despite lack of wisdom over the issue, since maturity does always comes with age, you're just 16. It can be noted that pre-marital sex between teenagers does always jeopardize your well being and would have influence in your future. I firmly believe that there is no such thing as safe sex, i always viewed it as responsible sex, not safe sex. I don't say that you are not resposible. Reaching the age 16 have it brought you enough sense of responsibility?. But let us put it this way, are you responsible enough to face whatever consequences your decision of having sex would bring? I'm sure you can't blame it to your parents if there are things to blame for, simply because they were not there when you and your boyfriend decided to do it. I would say think twice before doing it if still in doubt, think thrice.....i do hope you know what you're doing at age 16. We do have a saying here in Asia, "you can't completely spit out a mouthful of hot rice, after you swallow it." I hope there is some wisdom in that saying. Give yourself time to grow and enjoy sex if you are really ready and that the right time have come, thats the day you say "i do", because 4 months is not a gauge of your readiness. You don't have to learn your lesson the hard way, take the easy road to learn it. And learn it the right way.

Answer 4

ok first of all you only have been dating this guy for almost 5 months! second you are way too young! Trying to do what you see on tv and movies! You should wait too until you get married! Trust me, you might regret it later. You don't know what you are getting into. Having sex with a guy only makes you so emotionally attached to the guy, and I don't think you are old enough to handle all this stress. So you wait until you at least finished high school. The longer you hold out, the better you'll look then an easy girl! And if your bf can't wait, then he just ain't worth it!

Answer 5

you should wait. there is no such thing as "100% protection" except for abstinence. you havent been together long enough to try something like that. keep morals in mind. would you rather try it now? or try it when your older with someone you truely love and you can honestly say to that person that you waited and saved yourself for him? not saying you wont be with your boyfriend 4 years down the road, but a lot of highschool relationships dont last very long. keep a good head on your shoulders.

Answer 6

I don't want to sound like an old woman or your health teacher, but being sexually active is a big thing. If you aren't careful, you can get pregnant or contract STDs. I don't think you should start having sex until you think you are ready to face the possible consequences of being sexually active. If you aren't ready to have a baby or deal with STDs, I don't think you're ready.
Good luck!

Answer 7

This has become a legal question, and no adults on here will voice their approval, even though half of them were probably sexually active at your age. If you do decide to go ahead and do it, make very sure you are protected. Personally speaking, if you have to ask, then you're too young to go ahead with it.

Answer 8

you are both to young you really don't know each other 41/2 months is not enough time to say you are ready to have sex. can you honestly say that you know him or her long enough what happens when you graduate and go off to college is he or she still going to be the one i say take time know yourself first then get to know your partner and thats going to take up more time so by the time you know yourself and your partner you will not have time for sex for at least four or five years so dont rush into anything when the time is right you will surely know wait for true love

Answer 9

wait. You are young and have not been going out that long. 4 months may seem like a long time now, but it is not. It is a very short time.

Answer 10

Yes you really shiuld wait please!!!Because sometimes even when you use protection you can get pregnant and then think how hard your life will be lease wait till your at least 18?!