i have seen that ex-married people sometimes get along better as friends as me and my ex. i sure laugh when i see her boyfriends mad and going crazy,, i tell them welcome to the club in coming to your senses
2006-08-18 12:38:54 · 26 answers · asked by quitelovableman 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I, too, get along much better with my ex-husband than when we were married. Mainly, because we grew up over time and our maturity level was not the same as it was when we were married. Sometimes the people we marry the first time around was nothing more than a learning experience and you take that with you into your 2nd marriage and trust me, my 2nd marriage is nothing like my first and I finally found Mr. Right.
2006-08-18 12:48:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its because the pressure and all the annoying things no longer both you. Oh yea and the big part no sex is involved. Its amazing how sex can complicate everything. I know several people who are now great Friends after they divorced. I also know several who will kill each other if they are in the same room. So I think a lot has to do with really letting go and moving on with life.
2006-08-18 19:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its because sex is wrapped up in so much emotion that friendship does not have. Some of it is chemical attraction, if it wanes in one partner nothing can change that, and then the other partner feels bad. Some of it is just the biological difference between men and women. A sexually unloaded situation is always easier.
2006-08-18 19:44:08 · answer #3 · answered by jxt299 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're married you have so much pressure on yourself, got to get money for the family, got to take care of the kids, got to clean the house, got to do this and that. But as friends, there's no worries, because you don't have anything with eachother to worry about. That's how I see it.
2006-08-18 19:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by mysteriousmystery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but we should just be friends.
Really? I don't know, I invented that routine. It is usually done to prevent hurt feelings and such. I have been a victim too many times to believe the 'just friends' routine.
2006-08-18 19:44:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what i'm doing today, i always treat my wife as my best friend (vice-versa). Last July 28 was our 10th wedding anniversary. That's right, when you found your next mate, treat her as your best friend. You surely can get along . . . better... a lot better.
2006-08-18 19:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by dingdong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because as friends, there is no expectation or presssure to meet the other persons standards. Usually friends accept each other for who they are, not whom they can change them into.
2006-08-18 19:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by jmiller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because sometimes, you can deal with someone as a friend (read: part time) but living together and sharing your lives can be a nightmare.
2006-08-18 19:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by Soy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you don't have to see each other all the damn time. You don't have to yell at someone to do the dishes or squeeze the bottom of the toothpaste tube.
2006-08-18 19:42:52 · answer #9 · answered by Suspicious Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because the stress is gone. My ex and I get along great now because i know, what he screws up doesn't affect my life anymore. lol
2006-08-18 19:44:37 · answer #10 · answered by mevsthekids 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋