Why do people ask if it's ok to cheat on their spouse - serious answers please?

Question

I'm trying to understand how people can rationalize cheating on the person they swore before God to be faithful to. If they don't love them anymore or are that unhappy why not get out? I just don't understand that kind of thinking and lack of morals. Any thoughts on this?

Answer 1

AMEN! Finally, someone who believes that marriage is not only a vow to each other, but it's a pact you make with God. If you aren't happy, please respect that person who you married before God, family, and friends know! I have always told my husband, that if he wanted some other woman, please tell me first, even if it's from the pay phone at the hotel. Respect me enough to know first. I have been married for a little over 26 years, and I have never thought about cheating! When you promise, you keep your promises. If you can't keep your vows and promises then say so, and don't be unfaithful. Let your "love of your life" the one who trusted you with their heart know that the feeling isn't mutual anymore. I don't understand it either. Some cheating spouses, say they didn't want to hurt them! That's not love or concern..I don't understand either. You get married to one person! You stay with that one person. If you can't then get out! Just like you said. Morals if they had any, they wouldn't be capable of doing this. Thinking they aren't, or at least not what I would call rational thinking anyways. Adultery is one of the greatest hurts that a person goes through. The victim has to learn to trust again-to love again, and unfortunately sometimes this doesn't happen. So, they are alone or go into another relationship that's not happy or healthy. I am looking forward to reading everyone's answers. Thank you so very much for letting me answer your question, it was nice to hear someone speak the truth!
God bless us all.........................

Answer 2

Little secret: no one cheats via coincidence. each and every of the cheaters i have prevalent we are those with a interesting now, consequences later mentality. i am going to't imagine myself dishonest, because i trust in communication too a lot and if it had gotten to the point the position I felt I had to seem elsewhere, i might want to be more beneficial in all probability to purely go away the different man or woman. yet to me, the litmus attempt might want to be no matter if someone is keen to flow to marriage counseling. that could want to element out a real dedication to creating issues artwork and a willingness to work out change take position to make the relationship artwork. maximum cheaters are also very quick to get teary-eyed, to swear it became an coincidence and to vow, promise and promise, yet without concrete action in the route of the relationship, it truly is only a music and dance.

Answer 3

First off, I hate the word cheat. I would rather hear someone say that they were in a marriage and tied down to a family without being in love with their husband (or wife ). To me there is little difference between having children with someone you aren't married to and sleeping with another man (Oh but that seems to be okay) Vs. Sharing a house with someone you have children with and sleeping with another man (which makes you a whore).
Then let's remember when we were single and trying to hook up with every good looking man we saw.

Then there is the sad fact of life that your husband (or wife) was the one who stood in front of God (as you put it, not every marriage happens in a church) and made promises that they couldn't keep. So you're saying that we just suck it up and be happy being $hit on day after day.

Now remember there are still kids and both are the parents.

Sorry but I'm a bit fed up with some of the holier than thou questions and answers......... most coming from the same people who in a few years will be living a much different life.
When did we women become so righteous??????

Answer 4

well..i wouldn't know what to say except that sometimes its not that easy to get out of a marriage. there might be factors involved that one can't handle by their self..kids involved..disabilities that would make one stay in an unhappy marriage just to help the other one out.....money keeps the unhappies together also...there are many reasons why one stays in a marriage that has gone bad,and sometimes to find comfort elsewhere if only for a little while,,its makes staying a much easier thing to do......

Answer 5

because they are stuck in a situation that they cannot get out. whether it is children, financial reason, etc. they would rather seek what they are missing and try to be merely satisfied in a bad situation. some people are afraid to leave in fear of their actions. every situation is different. sometimes it is not all about cheating. its about know that some one listens to you, enjoy your company, and appreciate you. lets face it, God did not make the world full of good people and some people just married the wrong individuals

Answer 6

i think they ask for peoples opinion because they know it is wrong and they just want someone to tell them it is ok so they wont feel like the scum that they are when they cheat.

Answer 7

some people fear the loss that would result in "just getting out" and try to rationalize themselves going out to find what it is they are missing

Answer 8

Because they're trying to justify something they know is wrong, but want someone else to say it's okay, to make them feel better.

Answer 9

Sure. They already have or are going to. They are trying to justify in their own mind that there is nothing wrong in doing it.

Answer 10

THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT TO DO