so is she just being selfish or what?
2006-08-18 12:32:35 · 28 answers · asked by michelle b 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't think that the word "selfish" is quite right, but I do agree that she is not giving your friendship any thought. The fact that she does not like your fiance is an easy available excuse.
I think there is a lot going on with your friend right now. Jealousy could be one thing. As you prepare for your upcoming wedding, all the things that are involved is strengthening her jealously. Why you, type of thing.
Another is that in the back of her mind, she feels that as a friend you are abandoning her, giving up your friendship for him.
She senses that things will change and she does not want that to happen, so by not going to the wedding maybe she can stop it.
Perhaps a talk with her that you will always remain friends might help. A re-assurance that you need her friendship will help, and perhaps you can find her something "important" for her to do for your upcoming wedding will make more at ease and happy for you.
2006-08-18 13:09:21 · answer #1 · answered by Tweek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me. You could tell my friend didn't like my boyfriend/fiance and didn't want to come to the wedding. I found out why three months later....he cheated with her before the wedding and she broke down and told me later. I regretted her not telling me before I married him because now we're divorced. There's a reason your friend isn't coming to the wedding. I'm not saying he's cheating or with her for that matter, but you just need to come out and ask her what the deal is. If you can't get an answer out of her, you might want to ask your fiance if there's any reason HE can think of why she doesn't want to attend your wedding. (Don't be on the offensive, but nice about it). Our scenarios could be very different, I'm just sharing my experience.
Good Luck.
2006-08-18 12:41:32 · answer #2 · answered by D L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why contained in the international would your fiance desire him there? certain, it can be awkward to not invite human beings, yet for that reason you extremely shouldn't invite him. Your fiance desires to inform the coworker in an excellent way that this is a almost continuously kinfolk, destination wedding ceremony and also you had to diminish back. obviously, when you're inviting different coworkers from a similar position, that can make it so a lot extra sturdy....both all or none, i assume.
2016-12-06 09:18:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well u really need to find out the reaasoning behind the fact of why she doseent like him, if she has a good reasoning, like hes a dirtbag then understand were shes coming from. If she's just being jealouse then ignore her u dont need friends like that, a matter a fact shes not really ur friend anyways cause friends wouldent do that to each other. So just let it go and do worry about.
2006-08-18 12:40:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's so much that she is being selfish. She probably feels sad because she feels like she is losing a friend because soon you will be getting married and things will change. Your first priority will and should be your marriage before anything else and sometimes that's a hard pill to swallow for friends that are close to you. I'm not saying that your friend is going to lose your friendship 100% but a lot will change. And don't lose sleep over her not wanting to attend your weddding and don't let anyone ruin your special day. It will be her loss, not yours and good luck to you. :)
2006-08-18 12:39:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
they could have had a relationship they aren't telling you about or he hit on her. or she saw him cheat on her, honestly i think you need to seriously talk to her about why. It could be something really bad or it could be something simple like she is jealous of your happiness. It really depends on you friend if she is really your best friend than she's be there if she is worried about your best interest she won't be there, how could she stand by and watch you make the biggest mistake of your life. I know I couldn't. But no I don't think she is being selfish at all.
2006-08-18 12:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you value your friendship it would be better if you found out why she doesn't like him and accept what she tells you. A lot of people know things about others that could be just rumors or could be the truth, you are in a unique position to help him dispell those rumors so ask her, then ask him, no matter how outlandish it is. This is only if you value both of them.
2006-08-18 12:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by Marcus R. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might want to talk to her. She might have a crush of him and is a little jealous of you. Tell her even though you are getting married that you can still hang out with each other.
she might be thinking that since you are getting married that you will not have time for her
Good Luck
2006-08-18 12:42:41 · answer #8 · answered by momof3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your friend usually this selfish? Are you sure your fiance hasn't done anything to your friend? Have you discovered why your friend dislikes your fiance?
2006-08-18 12:39:28 · answer #9 · answered by skris 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, she is.
Ask her why she feels the way she does, but no need to beg her to come to the wedding. Its YOUR special day. If she doesnt want to be there then you are probably better off if she stays home.
2006-08-18 12:39:21 · answer #10 · answered by mand 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋