Am I cheating?

Question

I am a married woman who is spending a lot of time with a handsome, married man. We go to work together (bus, his car) and go home together. We have occasional lunches. He invited me for drinks once (I turned it down). Once I even playfully took his pictures inside his car. My husband does not know anything about this.

Answer 1

Maria, I don't want to hurt your feelings, and I certainly don't want to judge you, but honey, you just asking the question-gives you the answer. You are cheating. Why doesn't your husband know about your friend? About the occasional lunches and such. Because it's cheating, and you don't want him to know. You haven't done anything physical with man, and I am happy to hear you turned down the drink offer. But emotionally you are sharing time with another man, You are sharing more than lunch or riding together. Do you love your husband? If so, I would break this relationship off. You are becoming to attached to this man, and eventually it may lead to something else. It may not, but are you willing to risk your marriage. If you and your husband have drifted apart and you are searching for something that's he's not giving you, there's nothing wrong in that, if you aren't together. Your husband should know things aren't right, and you should leave. Don't turn to another man before, giving your husband the respect he deserves. Don't cheat, that is the most hurtful thing you can do to someone you onced loved. So, make some tough decisions.....If you want the marriage, then honey, go home and make things right, seek counseling if you are missing something. If you want something your husband can't give you, then give him the freedom to go and look for someone too. Please think about you! What you want? What you need? This other man is married. This involves a lot of people, so please do some soul searching........God bless us all............

Answer 2

as of now its not cheating but all can surely land into an attraction and then to a relationship. If you are confident that you can maintain the required distance its ok. If you are somehow inclined towards him and feel like you need to spend more n more time with him and kind of cant be without him, you are going the wrong way. Its still not cheating coz you yourself couldn't realize this so far. Unconscious mistakes are not cheatings. Take the right step ASAP

Answer 3

Tell your husband what you are doing with this man. If, you read that first sentence and thought NO WAY, there is obviously a reason for it. If you can't tell your husband about this "friendship" then most likely you are feeling guilty. Why would you feel guilty? Well, because selfconsciously you feel you are doing something wrong. So, yes I would call that cheating. If you thought, "well ok", then I wouldn't call it cheating. I would call it a prelude to cheating, you know, its hard to keep your hands off those handsome married men. lol

Answer 4

If you are asking this question there must be something about this relationship that causes you to have some guilt. So far from what you have described I would say it is innocent enough, but be careful not to allow yourself to get to attracted to this “handsome” man. Without the daily struggle of life and living with a spouse the temptation to think that grass is really greener could lead to a mistake.

Answer 5

You know deep down you didnt even need to ask this question, but since you did, i'll answer for you in a few simple words.

HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IF HE WERE DOING THE EXACT SAME THIING TO YOU BEHIND YOUR BACK?

If it wouldn't bother you, you're not cheating, you're broken up already and he doesn't even know it.

I'm not even mad at you about it though. Not gonna give the whole when u have a good man speech cuz he probably deserves the sh*&

Answer 6

No not yet but really the question would be if your husband did that to you with another girl would you feel like it was cheating always put yourself in the others shoes and then ask yourself how you would feel if he did that to you and then you will know if it is right or wrong

Answer 7

Well would you like it if your husband was doing the same thing with a woman and not telling you? Would you consider it cheating? Rule of thumb for a happy marriage, don't you do something you wouldn't like your spouce doing! My 2 cents.

Answer 8

you are cheating . if your husband does not no about your relationship with another man then you are hiding it from him .you and this married man are skating on thin ice i suggest that you stop now before it gets out of hand. how would you react if your husband had a female freind and he caried on the same way like you are with your male cohort, so do unto others as you would have them do unto you. give your husband the respect he deserves.

Answer 9

Actions always speak louder than words!!!!!!!!!! every ones interpretation of cheating is different. If u don't think it is cheating then maybe u and ur husband and the man and his wife can all get together and talk about it. Good luck and be careful!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

Nothing wrong with a flirt as long as you don't cross the line! You need to ask yourself how you would feel if it was your husband with another woman doing the same thing.