For Girls only (preferably white girls, but it really doesn't matter)?

Question

I want to know if anyone agrees w/ me about this (regardless of race): why do i feel like white girls usually exclude those of other races? in school i usually try to befriend white girls, and sometimes they'll act nice but won't really act as though they really want to be my friend. it seems like white girls usually cling together (especially if they're rich) and not associate w/ others. i really don't like this b/c it makes it hard for me, who likes to befriend ppl of all races, to talk to them and hang out. So, what's ur opinion?

Answer 1

Maybe you are too intense, or barge into a social group without invitation which might freak people out. Most people don't make friends based on colour but on common interests. Do what they do and maybe you will find yourself included

Answer 2

Let me first say that I am a white girl.
Fortunately I didn't have that problem, I actually had the opposite problem. I hardly ever hung around white girls, not on purpose, they just didn't seem like my type of people, probably because I was raised around Mexicans my whole life.
It really depends on the people though. Many white girls may feel comfortable because it is a language and culture they are used to, even if the other girls aren't different, they may still feel that way. On the other hand, I also have known some white girls like me that don't really give a damn what color you are, they will be your friend. And then there are some white girls that swear up and down that their casper @$$ is Mexican or black(those girls I can't stand). But I'm sure you will find some that are willing to make different kinds of friends, just stay away from the rich or popular girls, those are the ones who usually are the most biast when choosing friend (conciously or subconciously).

Answer 3

From the outside of a white girl group, it might seem like we are being mean and not including you, but we dont try to honestly. I'm sorry that we seem that way. We just get scared that our friend group will change and that you will take over. For example, some girls try and join, but they talk about their mom horribly, and they Cuss So much, and we hate that,so we don't want that influence in our group. Make sense? Again, I'm sorry if you've been mistreated.

Answer 4

Perhaps it's not because they're uncomfortable around other races (although that could very well be it, unfortunately), but because they're unsure of you as a person (though I'm sure you're nice, as YOU were the one to take the time to try and get to know them). It could be a million things - the ones you've encountered are shallow, they were sheltered growing up, etc, etc, etc. Stick with the girls that seem like they would probably have something in common with you - not the stuck up "I've got Daddy's money to spend" type. Not all of us white girls are like this - growing up my best friends were two asian girls, a black girl, a latina, and one white girl and I never once thought about the difference in our backgrounds until someone from an older generation pointed it out to me. Being in cliques means constant familiarity, and unfortunately some girls just don't want their bubble burst.
Want to chat sometime? Drop me a line at my email address and we can talk (I'm 16).
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Answer 5

I think mainly that people try to find similarities, and that includes race and culture. I don't think its just white people, I think most races are like that. I am a white girl with white friends, I didn't pick them for that reason, but I thought that we would probably be grown up the same, in the same way. I also have other race friends, they have different culture and I respect that. I don't like racist people. I think that some people just have in the back of there minds, not purposly, but because that is how it used to be. I think that maybe in a few more decades it will be resolved.

Answer 6

I think it's horrible that girls do this, I have friends of different races, and I love them all and would do just about anything for them, I dont think that it's fair what some people do, but at my school we dont really have this problem, because I guess we're not the typical high-school I mean like there are the rich people and the jocks and the nerds and stuff like that but we all get along, I can't think of anyone I dont like,and there are the popular people but like everybody is friends with everybody. I am truly sorry if your school isn't like mine because I love my school. PS I am white and I go to a mostly white school

Answer 7

OH I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU MEAN!

I'm half italian and half black. So of course I tried to befriend everyone of all races. It was actually quite hard to befriend with black girls simply because we had nothing in common and well i was raised by my italian side of the family.

My best friends in life have always been "other" than or mixed.
example:Russian,White,Armenian etc...

But I will say that it is NOT easy to befriend any white people and sometimes i feel it's because they think i'm/you are racist against them. ya know? when i went to high school they were the minority so they all either stuck together or had an identity problem. and you know, it has gotten alllllllll BAD when some french guy thinks he's black lolz

Answer 8

per chance I shouldn't answer as i might want to stick with to what sinome fool adult men stated about fat gruesome white chicks, i'm curvier then maximum, yet that shouldn't count number. to respond to your question as a white lady, colour would not make a huge difference. you'll only make it worse searching right into a relationship with a discrimination already there. maximum if us are fascinated in any colour who will take care of us like we need to be dealt with.

Answer 9

I think that maybe it's just the area you live in because I have lots of white friends, all the popular kids hang out with each other (black&white) however they do tend to leave out the kids with less money and don't dress as nice .

Answer 10

Unfortunately, there's no one real answer... I, personally believe, that it really depends on how, where, when you grow up... and who you begin the world with. I grew up in a black/peurto rican neighborhood. My best friend was black, it just never occurred to me as being a weird thing in this world.

We moved to a new "upper-middle-class-suburbia" place and it became strange to even see anyone of color at all in the area. I noticed that a lot of children were more clique-y in these areas than in my old area. The cliques all had things in common. They were rich, or they were poor, they were high-fashion, they were book-worms.... and I suppose in a community where you can count the number of black students on your hands and toes... that became something "in common" whether consciously or not - being white vs. being not.

I, like you, wish it would stop.