Anyone else have this problem?? She whines every night when it's time for bed eventhough she knows she has to go to bed at the same time every night. And she whines every single time she doesn't get her way. She will be 7 in about 1 week. I keep trying to teach her about her attitude and how things in life wont' always go her way and she needs to learn to cope, but MAN!!
Anyone else have this problem??
2006-08-18 12:16:25 · 21 answers · asked by msjuliet2005 4 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
I tell my daughter that I can't hear her when she speaks in "whine" then I ignore her until she uses her regular voice. If it's about going to bed I just point at the bathroom for her to go get ready and make sure she knows I'm completely serious. I won't say a word to her or listen until the whining stops. It usually works. I've also heard that you can charge them for whining, one quarter every time they whine. When they see that piggy bank emptying out, they usually change their attitude. Have a whine jar, just like some people have a cuss jar.
2006-08-18 12:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find my mother was right when it comes to whining...IGNORE, IGNORE, IGNORE!!! Your daughter is trying to show you who's boss. You need to be firm and fair with the way you speak to her. Don't let her see it frustrates you. If need be after she's gone to bed or done the chore she was supposed to do, excuse yourself and go scream in a pillow! (You'll feel better!) But NEVER let her see it's affecting you in any way. Once she realizes (and she will) that YOU are boss and what you say goes, she'll stop whining and start obeying. It's almost the same mentality that you use with dogs, except your daughter can understand English :) Hang in there, don't give up, it will all get better with time. Hey just think only 6 more years until she's a teenager and then look out!!!
Good luck
2006-08-18 12:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by megandenae2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like a liberal? Psshh...compare your child to Michael Moore or Sean Penn, then you wont think your child whines all that often.
Whiny *** liberals...
You have to discipline your child more often! SPANKING IS NOT A BAD THING! IT TEACHES YOUR KID WHAT IS RIGHT AND WHAT IS WRONG! Whether you believe in "hitting" your child or not, spanking and smacking the kid isn't going to hurt her, not even physically! It'll sting her, AT BEST! She'll cry, whine about that for a lil while until she gets used to it, and then she'll stop whining about stuff because she wont want to get spanked, and then she'll also learn ethics and morals and she'll learn that LIFE is not always a delicious box of chocolates like Forest Gump said so many years ago...
give her a spankin when she whines! It'll do her good!
2006-08-18 12:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by drQuiggles 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have 4 kids and I have been through this way too much. It's frustrating and it sucks! This is much easier said than done, but probably the best way to make it stop( it's worked for me) is to ignore them and tell them you've made your decision, they can go to their room if they want to keep it up. I know it's hard and you feel really bad sometimes, but you should start noticing a difference within about a week or so. One of life's hard lessons. But you'll see how much better things are when it works, for you and for her.Good luck and God Bless!!!
2006-08-18 12:34:02 · answer #4 · answered by feathereafter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you ever give in to the whining? If you do, you have taught her that whining works, she will get what she wants. Get tough, grow a backbone and start now with keeping with what you say the first time.
2006-08-18 12:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 10 children I think it comes with the age. This is how I handled whinning and even temper tantrums when they were young and still use it with my grand children (one 6 year old)
When they star whinning segragate them. Make them go into another room away from people or even outside, ignoe the whinning and it will stop. I found segration to work best. They have no one to whine too so it stops. I told them don't come back until you are finished whinning.
2006-08-18 12:26:53 · answer #6 · answered by DEE L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my kids are now 9 and 11, but they had a would whine once in a while. I find that consistency and persistence is what works....don't give up and always be the same.
However, I must say it is easier to give advise to someone else over their kids, and it is easy to see what is wrong when one is outside the circle...lol....isn't it tough when it is your own kids and you are with them 24/7?
2006-08-18 12:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by Rosie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have kids, but I helped my sisters and brothers raise their children. I know exactly what you're going through! I think it's just a way for kids to express themselves (since they don't have the maturity to do it in a better and more tolerable way). I don't think people ever really grow out of it...as we get older, we just adapt to people's responses and find new ways of "whining." Hang in there!
2006-08-18 12:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by mdel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep teaching her that she will not get her way by whining, and hang in there, I know it is SO frustrating to hear.
2006-08-18 12:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by mand 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son whines about it a little, and he is 11. He use to cry when he was younger, but as he grew his thoughts grew with him. Now instead of him crying he'll say "Mom, your no fair, but I know ...life isn't fair." and I'll say your right. and he will just go to bed.... so they do grow out of it.
2006-08-18 12:26:03 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Hot Chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋