I have to admit when she told me I wasn't as excited as I was the first time because I was really hurt when she lost the baby not to mention the fight that almost broke us up. I didn't really have time to get over it because I had to be there for her and the things she was going through both physically and mentally. She's figuring out that I'm not as excited this time, I just don't want it to end out the way it did the first time...Any helpful words?
2006-08-18 12:14:22 · 11 answers · asked by Taz7705 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Am 31weeks preg and at the start of my pregnancy they couldnt find a heart beat for my baby and they told me i was going to miscarry.. my husband was so upset and always had doubts thru out my pregnancy with fear of the 1st months.
the best advice i could give you is.... be there for your wife and explain to her that you really want the baby your just taking a day at a time because you want everything to be ok.
i asure you that once your wife is over the 3/4 month stage where the chance of miscarriage is very rare your attitude will change, and when u see your baby growing on the monitors and hear his beating heart youll soon be filled with excitement and love.
good luck
2006-08-18 12:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is the truth, and ONLY if it's the truth, try this:
"I am so excited about us having a baby. If I seem less excited than last time it's only because the loss of the first baby is so recent that I can't help but dread the worst happening again. I am hoping and praying that everything works out well and I will be here for you in every way, but I am still dealing with the memory of what happened such a short time ago."
Also, what triggered the fight? Did you say something stupid? Whatever happened, learned from that mistake and avoid it. Most importantly, be there, Your actions over the next few months will speak much more loudly than the words that anyone could put in your mouth.
I wish you and your wife and your unborn baby well.
2006-08-18 12:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by Bill F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I am so sorry for your loss, I have been through 3 and it wasn't easy but for every person it is a different process to get through. Obviously this pregnancy is a surprise at most and is hard for you but this is something she and you must have wanted since you are having unprotected sex. She needs to know that you are happy so that she can be happy. The less stress on a pregnancy is a great thing. She needs your approval and needs to feel that you want this child as much as she does. Remember that this is a good thing and even though you will never forget the loss do not let it control your life and moving on with this pregnancy. Good Luck!
2006-08-18 12:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by natmys333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her, she's your wife after all. Tell her that you're still grieving over the loss of the first baby and still feeling terrible about the fight you two had. Explain to her that the pain of those two events is what has taken away the joy.
2006-08-18 12:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this must be rough on you too. I hope you will be incredibly patient and supportive - even if you feel a bit lost at times. Sometimes these things just straighten themselves out, and she could go on to have one or more healthy children. Please get her to a doctor and make sure she takes his/her advice. Try to stay positive and not to put any extra stress on her or on yourself. You'll feel better as the pregnancy progresses in a healthy way. Congratulations!
2006-08-18 12:24:11 · answer #5 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congratulations mate,your gonna be a daddy!!i know exactly what your going through,don't miss something this important cause your afraid so is your wife now go give her a big hug and explain to her whats goin on in your head at the moment,just be there for her and enjoy this pregnancy,good luck bud
2006-08-18 12:26:17 · answer #6 · answered by verons_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is amazingly possibe to be pregnant after a miscarraige. when you consider which you miscarried (sorry approximately that) which skill you're nevertheless waiting to get pregnant. bypass on your dr, and get a blood try. after having your miscarraige you would be seen a extreme danger being pregnant wherein case the faster you come across out, the faster you may get the care u would desire to have a effectual being pregnant. best desires.
2016-10-02 06:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by hulon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been through miscarriages and it tore one marriage apart... but i have also had babies after miscarrying...so there is hope that the same thing won't happen this time..... especially once they hear the heartbeat... try to be supportive of your wife during this time...she is probably just as scared as you are....
2006-08-18 12:21:06 · answer #8 · answered by myheartisjames 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be supportive. Hope for the best and if you believe in a god, pray. If not then just be supportive to her and think positive.
2006-08-18 12:20:14 · answer #9 · answered by Fatboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you are scared about losing this baby too...which you obviously are... and she should be able to understand.
2006-08-18 12:20:51 · answer #10 · answered by iadevilwoman4ever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋