All throughout my life I have been a push over. People think I am way too nice, and constantly tease me thinking that I will not do anything which is what I do. Can somebody please tell me how I can stop thinking that being nice is not what I should do, but being assertive and friendly is what I should do?
2006-08-18 12:04:40 · 9 answers · asked by 120 IQ 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Other - Entertainment
People who are push overs are usually people pleasers. That is someone who wants to be liked no matter what. What is sad is that you are not being true to yourself. You need to start thinking clearly about what it is you really want. Protecting yourself. Respecting yourself. I suggest you read some books on people pleasing and co-dependancy.
2006-08-18 12:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're not so much a "push over"- but some one who "goes along to get along"- until something WORTH fighting for- comes along. There's nothing wrong with being choosy about what fights you pick. The vast majority of them are just good for making a name for ourselves anyway. If you only stand up for what you believe in- then not only can you be seen as a "nice guy" - but a good one, too. There's no such thing as being too nice; it's just a matter of how "good you are" -at it. Being good -has an assertion all its own
2006-08-18 19:21:15 · answer #2 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say no. I'm sure you are a shy person and it is hard for you to be more assertive and direct so the best way for you to say no is to tell them that you can't because you are doing something else or that you are working on a busy project .
2006-08-18 19:17:12 · answer #3 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I did was I started to speak up for myself. I stop letting people get to me. You have to stand firm and tall. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Don't back down, people would think that you're acting sh^tty, but you're not, you are just taking up for yourself.
2006-08-18 19:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just stab people whenever they ask you for a quarter or a ride or to help them move or if you would like to go to lunch with them... Then scream as loud as you can, "I TOLD YOU TO STOP STALKING ME! I TOLD YOU!" It worked great for me. No one ever f@#ks with me anymore!
2006-08-18 19:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
firm but polite
do not be afraid to say no and do not give a reason
seriuosly it works.
2006-08-18 19:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by lol 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
http://www.toastmasters.org/
Find a mentor here.
2006-08-18 19:10:31 · answer #7 · answered by helixburger 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop being a *****.
2006-08-20 10:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do NOT be a doormat!
2006-08-18 19:09:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋