do you think it is possible to be too pretty to have a happy life?

Question

i feel i have a lot of negative feeling towards me because i am pretty. i am not big headed, or arrogant, or snobby or any of those things, in fact i am quite shy, but at the same time i can see how i look in the mirror..i don't feel i deserve to be discriminated against in this way!

Answer 1

You are discriminating against yourself. Are you sure others feel negative towards you, or whether it is you placing unrealistic expectations on yourself and worrying about what others think of you? Give yourself, and others a break, by thinking the best of them until you have reason not to.

Answer 2

I don't know how old you are, but I honestly believe that the self esteem and confidence issue has a place in the early and tender heart of a child. If your words are true, you sound as though you are very confident and self sufficient and I applaude you for that position. I also feel that perhaps there is this little bitty bug inside of you that is not quite so sure of herself and because you have the outside make up wrapped in beauty, you have enough wherewithall to realize that 'beauty' is only skin deep. The fact that you are shy indicates that you have not been given huge over doses of self esteem - in other words, you don't have a big head about your beauty. I pray that you are not discrimnated against - usually it's the other way around. The beauties usually are the ones whose doors are opened. I am not so shallow that I don't understand that the women who the world thinks are beautiful may not have their own set of problems. I emphatize with you my friend. If you are loving, and kind, considerate of other people, willing to help others and think of others before you think of yourself, giving to your community, church or other community organization, uncaring if your face is made up when you get up, nor caring about the clothes you wear, not caring about pleasing people, but rather, pleasing God and doing the right thing - then you know what I have to say - God bless you! You have your head on straight. I have learned that many "beautiful" people are more messed up than those of us who don't make the magazines. Being beautiful can have its own set of downfalls. Personally- I'd rather not be. I'd rather know that people love me for 'me' good - and bad - rather than the face - because we all know - IN TIME - THE FACE HAS ITS OWN PLACE TO GO. Nothing stays the same. Everything must change. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Oh, shut up. Just the fact that you would even ask that question makes you big headed, arrogant and snobby. It also shows that you have a serious need for attention, and since you are not getting enough attention in the real world, you had to try to get the attention on the net.

Answer 4

You don't deserve to be treated badly just because you were gifted with good looks. If men discriminate, its probably because they find interest in you but don't really know how to show it other than bullying. If other women discriminate, it's common that they are jealous of what you have.

However, if a person was mature and secure with themselves, then they wouldn't feel the need to discriminate in the first place.

If they can compensate for their looks in another area (i.e. really good in sports or work), then they wouldn't need to be competitive in the aesthetic areas.

It's good that beauty doesn't inflate your head, most would find that to be a hard and admirable characteristic to have. But put it into another perspective, if you weren't as attractive as you state, then wouldn't you feel jealous of another person that was?

For now, just ignore it.
If you are in school, you can just ignore the drama that comes with it.
If you are an adult, then you can just brush them off everytime you see them (you could do that when you are in school, too).

But either way, you shouldn't feel the way you do about it.
Just be happy, you can be!

:)

Answer 5

To be pretty is not as nice as everyone thinks
Most men want you cos your pretty for your body - nothing else. Most of the attention you get are NOT from nice people. Everyone else thinks your lucky but they dont know that constant attention from the wrong kind can lead to an unhappy life
The girls want to be your friend cos your pretty or they are just nasty to you. They pretend to like you but they dont really. There is a lot of competition bcs they only choose to look at the shallow part of the attention you get
Or they hang around with you because of the attention you get - so they can get attention too. Enjoying it but not realizing that infact not only is it tiresome but it can make you unhappy bcs its not from worthwhile people.
I know what you mean most people dont understand. I USED to dress like a boy just so i wouldnt get any attention only as i got older did i realize that i can now handle it a bit better and therefore wear what i want smile say thank you and move on. Thats bcsim older and if i dont enjoy the beauty now there will be no more time left

Answer 6

Count your blessings but realize that beauty can be as much of a "handicap" as anything else. Many people will be envious of you and will want to sabotage your obvious advantage. The biggest hurdle to overcome with beauty is you must not rely on your physical attributes for everything in your life. Beauty does not last forever and people make the mistake of basing accomplishment solely on this. Remember you also have a mind (hopefully) and spirit which are in the long run, much more significant than anything else. In other words, keep things in sensible perspective but do enjoy your prettiness!!

Answer 7

Yes it is possible. Being pretty is a nice experience as I may say. Though some people will annoy you all the time with compliments or harassment.
You shouldn't worry about it, worry how you manage to live your life happily and at peace with yourself. So others can see that good, positive reflection in you instead of your good looks.

Answer 8

Get some minor surgery. There's very simple things that they can do, insignificant and tiny nips and tucks which just reduce the symmetry in your face a little so making you look less pretty.

I'm the same. I get a lot of negative feelings because of my good looks and I'm seriously considering the above. Think about it.

Answer 9

I totally understand what you are saying. My sister and I have always had that problem. We are smart, attractive women. Not snobby or conceited. It seems that people assume before even speaking that I am either less than intelligent or stuck up. I think we should focus on surrounding ourselves with people that are not so shallow. Also, try finding people that have enough self confidence to not be threatened by your outer beauty. They do exist. good luck!

Answer 10

Funny you should say that. I had a very close platonic friend who was a model. But whenever we went for a meal or a drink, men would stare at her all the time. It started off being amusing to me, but soon I got very curious and asked her how she felt. She said that she used to notice, but now she blocks out the attention.
What annoyed her more, was the attitude of other women.

My advice is that whatever is happening in your life, you can always choose to be happy.

Answer 11

No I don't. Its possible to be extremely ugly, would you be happier then? Stop assuming that people are being negative towards you, or that if they are its because of your looks. Its far more likely to be the way you treat people.
Just be yourself and stop blaming the way you look for the way that other people treat you; they're really not that shallow.
Try counselling or cognitive behaviour therapy. Deal with it and move on.