Will me and my ex get back together or is it over for good?

Question

We had been together for two and a half years before I got pregnant. He broke up with me when I was seven months pregnant, no big fight just kind of said he couldn't "do" the relationship any longer. Since then I gave birth to our daughter, and he helps out a lot with her! We still talk as if we're the best of friends. What I mean by that is I can pick up the phone and call him at any hour and we'll laugh and make jokes and talk about our families and our jobs and our baby! However, he is dating a girl right now who is six years younger then him. I don't know whether he is serious with her or not. They are always breaking up and having little fights but even so they are still an item. I am totally heart broken and still very much in love with my ex. I don't know whether us getting along so well is an indication that down the road we will end up together or if he is just trying to remain civil for the good of the all.

Answer 1

Sounds like the civility issue to me.

Answer 2

Keep it as it is for as long as you need. You have got the best of him right now. He is not ready to take it all on, and has opted out of the really scary bit.
He is probably not really serious with the new girl. He is probably not serious full stop. Let's hope he doesn't get her pregnant too, and run out on her like he did to you.
Whatever you do do not get involved back with him, get pregnant again, yourself.
You don't say how old he is, but whatever his age, he's a bit of a silly boy.

Answer 3

I'm not sure sweetie, I wish i had a answer fo you. But you have to think of yourself and your daughter that you brought into this world. I sounds like that he wants to be there for and the baby, but he wants to move on with his life.Its sounds like your still young and have alot going for you. Its good that you still have the good commuction towards each other. As long as he is in your child life that is all that matters. Mayb someday down the road you might get together again, but girl dont hold your breath. Move on with your life and there is someone out there for you. I wish you all the best of luck in what your searching for. Good luck with the little one.

Answer 4

All I can say to you is would you want to get back with someone who let you down at the time you most needed him? Life is a long time being with the wrong person.

Everyone deserves to be with someone who gives them 100% and you sound like a really patient positive person. It's great that you have a great friends relationship - it's brilliant for your child. Be happy with that.

If he seems to want more in the future - make him earn your love! If he really loves you he will go the extra mile.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Realistically - He is being CIVIL - He IS with someone else now. So now you must move on. Be friend's etc with him for the sake of your daughter but MOVE ON - In Australia there is a group called parents without partner's so I am sure there'd be something similar where ever you are. I know it's hard as we've all been through it but life does get better and believe it or not there IS someone who is out there just for YOU.

Look you guy's split for a reason - maybe he is immature. I don't know without knowing him. Pls don't rely on him coming back and get out there & get a passionate life!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

u have to be careful... u may just be what he needs, and even wants, but he can't own up to it. he's scared to commit. he plays w/ girls 6 Years younger.. =T even tho he has a daughter now. i think he may be using you, not necessarily on purpose..but knowing that u love him and care about him and will give the time of day when he needs it Allows him to go out w/ other people, and still come back to you when the other girl is annoying. so u are this backup, "wonderful" girl who he is treating very badly by NOT committing to you. :(... i'm really sorry ur in this situation..a lot of people do this to their exes...because they still have feelings. but if he wanted to be with you, he would do it, no question, no hesitation. it is probably obvious to him that u would come to him in a second....but he is not taking that opportunity to love and take care of you. that means ur relationship, wehther friends or more, will never be on equal footing, where u will be taken care of and loved and respected... u will ALWAYS be fighting for his attention and respect...to no avail.

i would suggest working on yourself and ur daughter.. u have a family to raise. make urself happy, take care of urself, exercise, work out, take care of makeup and hair, look and Feel awesome. :) beautiful. next, work on your brain..study, help ur daughter study, read the news, be well rounded so u will be able to talk w/ friends, family and even strangers about anything. develop ur own opinions and have an open mind. work on ur relationships w/ friends, family and make new friends. once u get ur life up and running, all u need left will be a *good* man to take care of you, just as you would him. not someone whom u love, but he treats u badly and takes advantage of you. someone who will take care of ur needs, satisfy you, so that u are never wanting or needing attention, or starving for love from him. when u are confident that You are a wonderful mother and wife, how could u expect anything less than a wonderful husband and father? therefore, do not take any less than what u deserve. i'm not saying "don't talk to this jerk" anymore. i'm saying, he may be a nice guy, and he may care about u, but it's just not enough for you. u deserve better. someone who will never let u DOUBT his love for you. good luck..if u keep working on urself, u will know how much u are worth! :) always seek what is happy, healthy, and positive in ur life, and u will be fine~

Answer 7

well, since you act like best friends that does indicate there could be more between you two in the near future(kinda like the past before you broke up) those little fights dont work good in strong relationships, thats how my parents broke up, they were never married so it wasnt bad. they still lived down the street from each other.

Answer 8

well to be honest, he had the opportunity to be with you and chose not to be. i don't mean to sound harsh, it's hard enough to get over an ex when you haven't got a child together so my heart goes out to you, but it does sound like he has moved on. he sounds very involved with your child so he obviously isn't scared of that situation. i think the best thing you can do is concentrate on your child and try to dis-associate your feelings for him. in time, you will be able to move on from your feelings and find someone who won't dump you when you are 7 months pregnant and very vulnerable.

Answer 9

You never know. You could get back together and be a very good family. Or you just might stay very good friends. What ever happens happens. Maybe sometime you should ask him. So this way you can stop wondering about it and know.

Answer 10

i see the makings of endless drama on the horizon. it could keep a lot of people stimulated for a long time. in between get togethers and breakups , there's no telling how many relatives could also get involved, which might interfere with nascar viewing, but what the hell, it's good clean american fun, after all, is it not? you could intersperse your breakups with him to his shuttling back and forth with the other little missy. it could become a reality based tv show, who knows. best of luck! :-)

Answer 11

sounds like you are getting along for the baby, i think i wouldn't forgive him so quickly for ditching you when you needed him most it means he'll quit on you again later as well. you need to get over him you can do better i'm sure.

And one of the things the courts counselors mention is his relationships are none of your business anymore so don't talk about them it just creates hard feelings and problems. it should be a business relationship