my husband wants to go with me to a swinger club just for "curiosity" (just to look) but I don't feel good about it. For one hand I feel I should just go in order to please him, but on the other hand, I don't like it and I feel not going because I don't feel it right. Who should please the other one? up to where can one please the other one?
2006-08-18 11:34:54 · 13 answers · asked by sexy mummy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that is the first step that your husband wants you to make, and then there will be more to follow.
If you are not comfortable with it tell him and do not agree. That way he knows that you are serious about your decision.
If you chose to go then next question will be, can we try this? It looks like something i am interesting in trying with you.
Are you ready for this, stand for what you want. I dont think your husband will just through away your whole marriage because you chose not to go to a swingers club.
Good Luck
2006-08-18 11:47:11 · answer #1 · answered by misscanada_y2k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know that you aren't comfortable with doing this. Then remind him that if he was that curious he should have experienced a swingers club BEFORE he married you. Good luck
2006-08-18 11:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is a tough one. That involves sharing your husband and yourself with other people. I think I would draw the line, personally. I will do anything my husband wants in the bedroom, but I don't like to share.
2006-08-18 12:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. If you're not comfortable with the IDEA of going, then you certainly won't be comfortable there. I wouldn't budge on this one either. It's not a matter of compromise. This isn't something you want to take part in and he'll have to respect that.
2006-08-18 11:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by ceesvamp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound very happy no matter what you do. All I can say is.....do not compromise yourself, your values and what is right for anyone.....especially a guy! Looks like you have some serious marriage problems.......better take the blinders off and assess the situation!!!
2006-08-18 11:46:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's asking you to do that chances are he's just getting you lubed up for swinging relations and or threesomes. Is that truly what you want to do? My personal opinion if you don't like the idea now ................wait till you are asked to participate, you won't forgive yourself and if you can't do that how will you forgive him for asking or pushing you?
2006-08-18 11:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by Angel B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not curioushe WANT TO PARTICIPATE
in fact if he's not on swinglifestyle.com , i'ld be suprised
he's only hoping you join in on thefun as basically he want's the swing more than you do.. trust me you are heading for a divorce
2006-08-18 12:21:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK YOU NEED TO HOLD A HARD LINE WHEN SOMEONE IS ASKING YOU TO DO SOMETHING THAT YOU DONT BELIEVE IN AND DO NOT WANT TO DO. OBVIOUSLY YOUR HUSBAND WOULD LIKE TO DO MORE THAN LOOK.
2006-08-18 11:47:08 · answer #8 · answered by BAG LADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you not comfortable with the idea, don't do it.
You won't be doing yourself, or him, or your relationship any favors by ignoring your own gut feelings.
2006-08-18 11:41:58 · answer #9 · answered by luckyaz128 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it would be hard to go back once you crossed that line. i think your instincts are there for a reason.
2006-08-18 14:13:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋