What are the benefits?

Question

I am a newly engaged woman who wants to know from other married folks (or divorced), what the benefits are to being married, and what are the risks? I am just curious as to what makes people take the plunge, or get the hell out of the pool.

Answer 1

Benefits....I don't know if you're living with him now or if you will move in together after the wedding, but living together is a great benefit and definitely a risk.

When you get married you are more likely to fight more for the relationship to stick together, you can't say i'm sick of you, we're done! You're a family and you need to learn to accept each others faults and weird habbits and anything else that they come with (baggage) and you future husband will have to do the same.

When you have someone who will stick by your side no matter what, you feel great, you always have someone to go to when you need them.

Be ready to fight a lot the first couple of years because he'll have notions of what marriage should be like and you'll have your own, you'll have to work things out to the smallest detail you know housework, laundry, dinner, how to raise kids and whether you both even want kids.

It's a journey but it's worth it!

Answer 2

Well, one reason to get married is because you love each other....the main reason that I married my husband after 10 years of living together is because he was in an accident and went to the hospital....at the hospital I was treated like a stranger....they would not let me sign anything for him or release any information to them......we had been together for 10 years and I still could not do anything for him (this is what the hospital said: You are not related to him you cannot sign) So, that was one of the big reason I married him so that we could be looked at as a family in the publics eye.......being married did not change anything besides that for us.

Answer 3

I got married because it would be financially easier than doing it on my own with our child. I saw how much struggle my sisters were having raising kids alone. I wanted to be with my baby, not at work and finding some way to paun him off on someone while I made a living.

I would like to leave now, because being 12 years smarter, I can't stand being married to someone who doesn't really appreciate me and the sacrifices I made to marry him.

Answer 4

First you get married because you love each other to commit, but legally you can't benefit from your guy if your NOT married. If something happened you would not be able to have your questions answered from the Doctors or Nurses and if he was to pass you wouldn't be eligable for his pension or insurance. So marry first for love Then for money LOL!!!

Answer 5

For me, the benefits of marriage will be a life time together, sharing our love on a physical level. As a Christian I will not share a bed with a man until we are married, so that will be a large benefit of marriage for me and the man I marry. Also marriage will allow me to always be there for him when it comes to medical decisions that are in his best interest, as "That's Me" said. The best part will be sharing all of me with him, for the rest of my life.
~God bless

Answer 6

no benefit for the man
all the benefits are for the women
as legally you can cheat and still take 50% of his earnings and force the sale of community assests aquired during a marriage, all this due to no fault divorce laws that the majority of the states ( except NY ) have

Answer 7

well; years ago getting married was the done thing alone with getting a job, being the bread winner, having 2.75 kids and a company car. But now people's views are changing, things are more open. i can say that just because you have a piece of paper; and an expensive one at that, it wont make a hoot of difference, you'll still have the ups and downs of life.
You'll never please everybody so please yourself !