I'm 24 yrs old btw & married to my high school sweetheart, but my eye has been drawed to someone in another country. This person doesn't even know that I excezited, but I can't stop thinking about him. I'm at a lost I've been married for 6yrs & have had 3 kids with the guy I'm with, he sez he loves me but lately I don't feel the way.
2006-08-18 11:29:47 · 26 answers · asked by Daizy Blackrose of Slytherin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Also my hubby & I have tried the go away thing in past & yes I have tried to forget said person. I've tried for about say since Feb & also my hubby was my first offical boyfriend & my only one I've ever had. When I met him he was going thru a hard time in his life & I was only 14 at the time & him 16, we didn't married til I was 18. As far as the said person my mind keeps wondering to he's not an internet thing. Also I've had a kinda shelttered life & haven't seen much of world. >>>>In middle school I was the shy girl scared of being rejected by the hot looking guy on campus & still kinda I'm. I'm one confused & scared little duckling.
2006-08-18 12:01:19 · update #1
I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD RETHINK YOUR FEELINGS FOR THIS OTHER GUY. YOU NEED TO IMAGINE LIFE WITHOUT YOUR HUSBAND. YOU PROBABLY WOULDN'T HAVE 3 BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN. AND ALSO I THINK THAT YOU HAVE AN ATTRACTION TO THE OTHER GUY NOT LOVE. AND MAYBE YOU SHOULD TELL YOUR HUSBAND THAT YOU ARE NOT FEELING THE LOVE THAT YOU ONCE FELT. MAYBE YOU GUYS CAN FIND A BABYSITTER AND GO ON A WEEKEND CRUISE.
2006-08-26 08:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by Le'Le 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not uncommon for the spark to go out in a marrage of 6yrs, especally as most of them have been filled wiht childbearing and diapers ect. First, cut off all contact with this mysterious "other". Its just a crush, and will fade in time. You need to re-aquaint yourself with your pre-mommy sex life, and i'm sure your hubby will be more than willing. Get a sitter and go away for the night/weekend, and don't talk about or think about the kids. They will be fine without you for a few days. romance each other, see a show, eat at a restaurant without a kids menu. if you are still feeling restless, see a counselor, either alone or as a couple. They see this all the itme and can help alot.
2006-08-18 18:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by parental unit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if your husband wrote this same question asking about some woman who didn't even know he existed ,and he was wondering should he leave you and the kids because he has been with you so long. I know that would hurt you so bad!! You would be thinking what are you going to do now since he is the only man you've known. You would be like how could he do this to me and our kids. to know he was thinking about ended what you have for a woman he has just been thinking about. You would cry and tell ever body and every body you told would think he was crazy, some may even ask if he is on drugs? They wouldn't believe he left you for a fantasy. You would want him to work it out with you, you would wonder what you did wrong for him to even consider leaving you. So if you wouldn't be hurt by him doing this same thing to you and you would understand then go ahead and do it. Let all your friends and family call you the crazy one and ask if you are on drugs?
2006-08-26 02:29:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you made a commitment with your hubbie and it's normal to have feelings for someone else but it seems as if it's just a little fantacy with this other guy and the reality is with you already. When you are in love you just know it's love because you are both on the same level and it's real.
2006-08-18 18:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by aluminum22rocker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say its not a crush nor it is love.. its just the internet thing.. not meeting someone in real life and talking to them online only makes your mind transform them into these perfect human beeings when in reality they are regular people.. its ok to feel close to someone... i would say u r only worried cuz this is the only time u had any type of interest in another guy other than your hubby and you feel guilty cuz of it... if you really think about it between you and yourself i think you will find out that he's just a screen name on your screen that you spend some time with for entertainment purposes but at the end of the day you will always lie where you belong... no worries in my opinion... it might be just a fantasy :)... hehehe... enjoy it ;)
2006-08-26 05:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by Ilyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a committment. It takes alot of work and communication is key. Your husband and children deserve your best efforts at repairing your marriage. It is impossible to reconcile a relationship between two people when there are three people involved. The answers to resolve the problems in your marriage are IN YOUR MARRIAGE not outside of the marriage. The answers are in the committment you made to one another. My grandparents have been married for 60 yrs. they say the key is to never fall out of love at the same time. I am not saying that you deserve a life of misery, but my gosh give him a chance. He can't fix what he doesn't know is broken. COMMUNICATION.
2006-08-18 18:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by Nina V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some conselling. Your children and your husband do not deserve this. Go back to when you fist met your husband and remember what made you fall in love with him in the first place. Do special things together and fall in love again. Do the right thing.
2006-08-26 18:18:03 · answer #7 · answered by Big Bama Fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are just coming up on the "7 Year Itch". I would say, being that you aren't in any intimate (and no, I don't just mean sex) relationshipwith this stranger, that it is only a misplaced yearning for romance. Maybe you should investigate couples workshop ? You are very young. Why don't you try to do something for YOURSELF (I know, easy for me to say), and rechannel this into loving you a little better.
Take it slow and easy.....
2006-08-18 18:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by GiGi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to take that person off your mind and focus on your 3 kids and your husband. here you have a man that loves you dearly and you hve feelings for someone else? 4 god sakes the guy doesnt even know u exist so leave him out the picture!
2006-08-18 18:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by *+*sArAh*+* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and search through your feelings on the current situation. Is this where you want to be for the rest of your life?
2006-08-26 18:26:00 · answer #10 · answered by blonde_guy67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋