i am haveing an affair with a married man, and I am married also. We really car about each other and not very happy in our marrages. The thing is that he has been in his about 30 years and me in mine about 22 years. More than that, he does not want to leave his and neither do I. So is it so wrong that we enjoy each other for a few hour every couple of months?
2006-08-18 11:19:43 · 24 answers · asked by wldflw2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What the heck why not get some enjoyment out of something to make you feel good about yourself.
2006-08-18 11:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The questions you need to ask yourself is, why dont you want to get a divorce??? Isn't life and marriage suppose to be shared by two people that love eachother and most important are happy together?? No one but you can answer that question, is it wrong that you go spend a few hours a day or month with someone you care of and enjoy being around, NO, your suppose to spend 24/7 with a person like that... If you care for this guy and enjoy his company, do you do the same with your husband??? I think all these questions, are questions you need to consider before you make your mind up. However, is it wrong for you to go around your husband's back, if you have children (ever worse) go behind your family's back and mess everything you have worked for over the past 25 years, YES.. How would you feel if your children found out that you enjoyed your "partners" company so therefore that's why you messed the family up, or how would you feel if your husband did the same to you??? All I'm trying to say is, find happiness, you live life once do what makes you happy....
2006-08-18 18:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by SharaG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is something wrong with that becasue you are living a lie. Both of you want your cake and eat it too and that is not fair to your husband nor to his wife. Think of it after 22years of marriage the time and the energy you place with this other person you could have put that into your own husband to build your own relationship. And do not think this man does not know, men are very prespective, especially if he is intuned with your body. Sweetheart please be careful matters of the heart can be deadly. And if the both of you are not happy be man and women enough to tell the other person in your lives do not be selfish. Your are only staying in your marriages for show, convience, and financial.
The both of you really need to evaluate yourselfs what your doing is wrong if you did not think so the question would not have been asked.
Again put the shoe on the other foot is tight enough or is it a Cinderella slipper?
2006-08-18 19:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by LATASHA C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask in order to justify your actions, you already know that what you are doing is wrong. Tell this man that you have to stop. You are breaking your promise to the man you married, as is he to the woman he married. You are not only lying, and cheating, you are also hurting the ones you love. If you want out of your marriage that's your own prerogative, but if you and this guy are starting your 'relationship' off like this, when (and if) you ever leave your spouses to get together chances are you will eventually want out of that situation too. My advice, 'break-up' with this other guy, and tell him why, and then go home to your loving husband and fulfill that promise that you made him on the day you married him! Then say your prayers. Tell your husband about what was going on between you and this other guy as well... not only does he deserve your trust and loyalty, he also deserves your honesty!
~God bless
2006-08-18 18:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by Girl 4 God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very wrong. Your married, and if your not happy then get out of the marriage. Would you want to be cheated on? Can you imagine the pain you 2 are causing? Cheating is never ok, but you already knew that before asking the question.
2006-08-18 18:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a wife who was cheated on, hell yeah it's wrong! If you want to be married then stick to your committment to be faithful. You swore before God to do so. I wouldn't wish the hurt and devastation I was put through on anybody. If you're not happy why on earth would you even want to stay? Where are your morals? Are you so unhappy that you want to hurt your spouse's just to get even? I just don't understand your thinking or rationalization!!!!!
2006-08-18 19:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by blustang04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm, it is wrong because if you don't want to leave and he don't want to leave his... why are you doing this still and believe me someone will found what you did and you would wished that you didn't do it first place or contiune on like this. If I found out what you did and I make sure that we will end it and finished and want that guy but he wouldn't leave his so would you go over there and do pay back???
really it is wrong what you doing don't care if you having fun but just both get divorce and then end it and then do what ever reason you want together.
You know what I mean I never image me cheating on my wife if i don't want to leave her?? totally wrong. and you asked this question wanted the answer that is my answer smile.
2006-08-18 18:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just setting yourself up for a more depressing and miserable life if you continue this. think who will be there when your old, or in trouble, the reason why your so miserable in your marriage right now is because what are you doing to make it better. obviously nothing but making it worse by cheating on him. I suggest work on your marriage instead of temporal pleasurement, you will in the end be Alot more satisfied. I promise you!
2006-08-18 18:41:12 · answer #8 · answered by kimber g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to offend you, but think about if the situation were reversed. How would you feel? We all make mistakes, but to continue is to totally disregard your vows.
It also depends on whether or not you really care about your spouses feelings or whether or not you want to live a life that is pleasing to God.
In these times when we do not know what's going from one moment to the next, it is important to consider our souls.
2006-08-18 18:57:57 · answer #9 · answered by salontiti93 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope go for it. Morally yeh theres probably something wrong with it as your partners dont know its going on so really youre doing the wrong thing by your partners as you havent given them the choice in sharing you and rather you have made the decision for them, but hey these things happen and no one should judge you.......but i have to say one thing, if youre asking this question here, is guilt getting to you?
2006-08-18 18:35:48 · answer #10 · answered by Aussieblonde -bundy'd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋