I always keep asking the same question but i dont get many answers. Please answer it as fully as you can as this is a very important question. I know this mght sound strange but i am scared of the idea of having sex. Is it ok, or there is something wrong with me? Please answer it and i will be greatfull. Thanks!!!
2006-08-18 11:07:46 · 9 answers · asked by Angel From The Hell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
XXXXXXXXXX having sex for the frist time is a scary thing. I have so much on our minds. Will he be turned on by my body, will I make the right moves, what if I can't figure out what to do next, will his body trun me off, will it hurt? Believe it or not we are have gone through the same feelings. I myself was afraid of sex in the beginning. Look at me now, married with four children. Now I'm trying to help my kids go through puberty and not be afraid to talk to me about their personal problems. I have a twenty years old whos also a virgin. I think she is also afraid of sex but once you realize that sex is not what you really want the whole world changes. Making love is a better name for it. To make love is a wonderful thing. Especially when it's with a special person whom you care deeply about and want to take that next step. Prostitutes have sex, when you have a one night stand with someone you've just met is sex. Please don't confuse sex with making love it is two different things and involve different emotions. When you make love for the first time it will be loving, and tender and sensuous and desirable and passionate and you'll smile for months. No, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you or being afraid to MAKE LOVE. And when it does happen, look at it as making love and not having sex and everything will be beautiful. And please remember. NO GLOVE< NO LOVE!!!!!!! Good luck hun.XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-08-19 13:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being scared of having sex is not that unusual. If anything to some degree it is a good thing because it shows you think about things and care about the consequences of your choices in life. Sex is something that should not be taken lightly. However I hope it is not the act of sex its self that your scared of. It is normal to be scared of what you haven't done but when it comes to sex the key is to relax, enjoy, and realize there is no right or wrong, only what is right and wrong for you.
2006-08-18 18:15:12 · answer #2 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong with you... you are just not ready for sex yet, wait until you find the right person you develop enough mutual trust with to have this experience together. but never trust a person in a way not to use protection, you ALWAYS have to use at least a condom.
many of us are afraid of the unknown, that's just normal. and sex which takes an important place in our society and is still unknown to you, frightens you cause you have heard and seen so much but haven't experienced it yet, so don't worry just wait! I'm sure that you won't die as a virgin!!!
2006-08-18 18:20:07 · answer #3 · answered by julesloveslife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The idea of sex is frightening to some. There is nothing wrong with you. This feeling means you are not ready to experience it yet. In time and with the right person your attitude will change.
2006-08-18 18:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by soliberating 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've never had sex, of course it's natural to be scared. I wouldn't blame you with everything you've probably heard. Let me tell you, it's not all that great unless it's with someone you LOVE. Most of these beanheads out here, they don't care. As soon as they quench that thirst, they're done and if they really are a beanhead, they'll avoid you like the plague...trust me..WAIT UNTIL YOU'RE IN LOVE TO HAVE SEX...STAY A VIRGIN FOR AS LONG AS POSSIBLE.
2006-08-18 18:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by Tasha D 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are. Unless you are totally prepared mentally, physically, and emotionally then do not do it. Wait till you are older. Do you have any idea how many people have STD's and lie about it. Are you willing to get every partner checked out before you sleep with them? Do you have condoms? Hate to be all doomy and gloomy. I just hate it so many people are pressured into sex.
2006-08-18 18:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by hello 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im afraid to
cause of all these things with aids
and stuff
like i want to but for one thing im 13 and not a slut
so i dont want sex now
but later
if u do definitly use protection
2006-08-18 18:14:33 · answer #7 · answered by whycantifly74 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No there is nothing wrong with you and I consider you smart for thinking that way!
2006-08-18 18:16:04 · answer #8 · answered by toughguy2 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no there is int nothing wrong with i think you are smart for thinking that way there are so many disease's and you can get pregnant so keep that on your mind and i wish you luck
2006-08-18 18:14:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋