i have really low self esteem...how can i ask someone out?

Question

every time i think of asking the boy i like out, i tell myself that i'm too ugly for him or any boyfriend for that matter. do you agree?

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and how can i feel better about myself so i can ask him out?

i'm not a kid, i'm 13, and i dont play with dolls.
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this is another question....?

most reality shows do....
and this has nothing to do with my question.

common sense.....

Answer 1

Some of the answers you've had are appallingly patronizing and those concerned should be ashamed - though I bet they aren't. Anyway, perhaps the answer is you should think about ways of getting to like yourself better before you worry about asking guys out. If you feel more confident about yourself, not only will it be less scary for you, you'll probably come across as way cooler and less nervy, and stand a better chance of success! 13 is young - your hormones are going insane and you probably feel that you'll never get a boy who likes you, but of course you will. If it takes a year to get confidence, you'll still be young at 14, young at 15 - but of course you want to get started now. Why not concentrate on something you feel you are good at, whatever that is - getting good at something improves self esteem, gives others something to admire and you something to talk about. If you project a confident image you won't need to be the one doing the asking - people will seek you out. Although it sounds difficult, and even if there is a guy you are aching to get the attention of, concentrate on liking yourself before you worry about getting him to like you. Good luck.

Okay, I just checked your photos - you are a very pretty girl and I'm surprised if you don't know it. I bet you turn more heads than you realize. But it's you who's got to think that, not the rest of us.

Oh, one other word: it's not cool to assume that having sex with someone will make them like you more or you feel better about yourself - people just like you usually find the opposite is true. Perhaps this is a million miles from where you're thinking, but hormones do terrible things to us. Have sex when you are good and ready, and when you think the guy you like likes you back - not to get him to like you in the first place. It never works like that. And it is possible to be too young for some things.

Answer 2

omg i do the exsact same thing! i say that to myself all the time! im 13 too well im turning 14 2marrow!!! whooohooo... u know what u should think of all the great stuff about u and gain confidence... change ur look a lil..but ur really pritty... so u shouldent have low selfesteem... i cant spell..... look what is the worst he could do say no right.... well i am the same way u r i fear them saying no because im ugly or fat or sumthin that i dont notice about myself.... i used to dress like a by kind of and ppl got a weird impression of me and i had a reputation of being like 1 of the boys.... i changed compleatly and now im like every1 els... alot of people say im pritty but then there are others and i think they still see me as the boyish type.... but i am gaining a lil confidence it takes alot of time... but if u walk up to that guy with confidence and u ask him out i think he will say yes but if not u leave with just as much confidence and think there are more people out there for me...and rember at this age boys are really immature so dont ever let any of them hurt u .. i hope he says yes!!! ok ill go now so u dont have to read anymore peace out grl scout

Answer 3

Self esteem comes from getting to know who you are and what you stand for. Know that you are worth something ALONE before getting enthralled in some silly boy. You can be alone without being lonely. Join some clubs, focus on your studies. Enjoy your teenhood while you can!

Answer 4

your a cute kid. you dont need a boyfriend. be a kid and enjoy being a kid. play with your dolls or ride your bike boys will ask you out in a couple of years

Answer 5

no i don't think that nobodies ugly. u should be happy the way u are. i was like that to but i told myself that someday i would find somebody that would like me for who i am and i did. but don't listen to what people tell you. do u feel ugly on the inside. show everybody that you have confidence in yourself walk with your head held up high. show everybody that you are pretty.

Answer 6

The worst anyone can do is say no. Rejection is a risk you have to take in order to get anywhere.

Answer 7

asked this qestion a billoion times!!!! read the other answers

oh yeah how do u know simple life has scripts

and how do u kno that?

wat! ur just assuming this!

Answer 8

for 13 i think you look pretty cute.
but if you dont feel better about yourself, everyone will see your low self esteeme, and it makes people less attractive.

smile a lot, and be happy.

Answer 9

Girl, I will tell you from experience....DONT WORRY ABOUT BOYS AT YOUR AGE......THEY ARE ONLY TRBL. I'm 26 and that's all i ever thought about........Messed me up......Good things come to those who wait.

Answer 10

look never think that ur ugly..... ur not....... im me at luigi91274 on AIM or on yahoo messenger at mario42791 and ill help u out..... peace Ryan