my husband has not been paying the mortage and we are served with a claim for possession shall i start on the absinthe
2006-08-18 10:54:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really feel for you.I left my home ten years ago with 2 kids,I didn't even have a coat.I lost everything.Cut your losses and go.Take what you can.I started all over again,you can too.Keep positive,family are always there for you.
2006-08-18 11:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I bet it's been! I am so sorry! What did you husband say? Did he just not have the money, or what excuse did he give if it's not financial. I mean a house is not a home. You can start over if it's the problem is financial, he should have been honest with you and told you how bad things really were, but stand by him if he is sincere and you trust his reasons. If not, pack the your bags and move in with family and friends. My ex-sister-in-law done this to my brother, she wasn't working, and she was "taking care of the bills". She took his paycheck, and paid the least she could to get by with for 3 months. Then took the money and ran when the papers were served. He had no money, no house, no insurnace, truck was fixing to be repossessed. He had credit cards in his name that he didn't know about. About 30,000 dollars in cards and loans he had no clue. He came home from national quard camp to a empty house with the papers on the dollar. She left him 1 plate, 1 fork, 1 spoon, 1 knife, a washcloth and a towel. She even cleaned out the refrigator. She didn't leave a peice of soap, a cracker, or a roll of toilet paper. She took everything, but the 5 things I mentioned. The water and lights were cut off too! I mean I know my brother is not perfect, I could live with him either, but my Lord, to do this.....They had been married 13 years. I mean leave if want, but be fair, she had never worked a day in the marriage, he provide well for her. She cleaned him out, then left a parting note telling him that the 9 year old boy who was the apple of his eye wasn't his. The reason I am telling you this, is because my brother, is a survivor, he kept the house, he kept his truck, with a lot of help from family. Five years later, he's happily married, and is making the most out of his life. His 13 years of marriage costed him over $125,000.00. My brother is a welder, so he makes decent money, he's has worked his butt off to pay off all these debts. His son, morally not physically, comes to visit him all the time, because he loves his "Daddy". So, you can live through this and come out of it. I am not saying it's going to be easy, Lord knows that, and you may have to put your pride in your pocket, but it can be done. File bankruptcy, so you can save the house, in some states you can do this...check with a good bankruptcy lawyer. Or just pack your stuff and start over.
I am so sorry, I know you are hurting, and I wished I knew just the right words to make this all better you for you. Please, check with a lawyer if that's something you might want to do...know you aren't alone...Wished I knew the why's ...I am going to give the benefit of the doubt, he just couldn't pay it, not that he didn't want to...so help him, he must be feeling so bad too. Talk to one another, something he should have done before now, Good luck and definietely will be praying for all of you. God bless us all.....
2006-08-18 12:43:29 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what absinthe is but someone should start paying the mortgage also you can refinance. I know a broker, very well! A couple of em actually and If you live in the state of Maine I can hook u up if you are interested.
2006-08-18 16:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by doesitmatter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought Absinthe was illegal in most country's because of it's toxic....whatever. Sorry to here about you situation. But i believe he has a plan and it involves screwing you. I hate to say it, he might be saving up to leave you. Start making preparations. Making the money to pay the bills is the man responsibility. so if he's not taking care of his household, then you have grounds to divorce him. Talk to your family and make sure that if something happens you have there support. I sincerely hope I'm wrong, but please be careful.
2006-08-18 11:08:04 · answer #4 · answered by subjex@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So is it safe to assume your husband and not paid the bills and has been telling you lies all along? I am sorry if that is the case. I would start packing my stuff and move in with family and friends, he can figure out where is he going to live on his own.
2006-08-18 10:59:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
leave and then start on the absinthe.
why people lie like that. that is someone you married took vows and love n all that. and hes just decieved you. and cus of that you may loose your home. sad very sad on his part.
hope all sorts out for you..
2006-08-18 11:07:25 · answer #6 · answered by jaynieleigh22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Absinthe will cloud your judgment. You should speak with a lawyer as soon as possible.
2006-08-18 10:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
been there... and survived! Am surprised you havent hit the bottle before now! ha! You'll come thru mate .. this too will end, and he'll get whats coming to him in spadefulls. Have you got family or friends that can help at all?
2006-08-18 11:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
clear the bank account, grab the valuables, then run girl. Run for the hills. Then get knocked up and the council will rehouse you- perfect!
2006-08-18 10:59:42 · answer #9 · answered by TotalBitch 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's a shite situation! But it isn't the worst day of your life. You will have that to come. And then again.
Tough I know, but you will survive.
2006-08-18 11:16:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋