how would you react if a man that loved you when you were teenagers and now is married to someone else, just shows up one day, after years since you last saw and talked to him (not because of some problems, you two simply didn't keep in touch), and sais "i just dropped by to see you and ask how are you"?
also, what would you reply if he asks you and your current boyfriend/husband to be friends with him and his wife?
2006-08-18 10:48:28 · 28 answers · asked by Daniel D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i would be cool with it as long as there were no feelings between us .
i would be happy to have a connection to my past .
2006-08-18 10:53:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would be good with that. There was a reason why you like the person to start with (and also a reason why you are no longer together). As long as you can seperate the past from the present yeah. You can't have too many friends.
2006-08-18 10:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie I have been through this so I know how to answer this, I was 14 when I had my first boyfriend. We were together for 2 years but we never had sex. He then left me for an older woman and married her. Years later they had 3 beautiful kids and they seemed happy. But then one day he came to me to be with him. I couldn't believe it. I still had some kind of feelings for him but they were more like friendly feelings. I dropped him like a hot potatoe just like he did to me............
2006-08-18 10:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by candchotel18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be on guard. A married man does not casually strike up an old relationship with someone he loved or who loved him without ulterior motives. If I were his wife I would not be happy about my husband befriending an old love.
2006-08-18 10:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by carpediem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a good plot to a cheesy movie, but back in reality it seems a bit too foward. It's one thing to track down an old friend just to say 'hi' and to catch up. It's another thing to show up at their door and ask them to be friends with you and your partner.
2006-08-18 10:54:44 · answer #5 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be somewhat reserved at first, til I talked with him for awhile to see if I believed his story was innocent and he seemed sincere. I don't like the idea of him wanting to be "friends with him and his wife". Friendships usually take awhile to establish. It's not like you can just decide to "be friends". The whole thing kind of sounds weird to me.
2006-08-19 14:31:34 · answer #6 · answered by Just Ducky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...I'm the kind of person that as long as we left on mutual terms, I don't see why not. Because the person that you are married to should be the one and only no matter who steps in or back into the picture.....
2006-08-18 10:55:19 · answer #7 · answered by koreangurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very surprised but i would invite him in for a coffee or a tea. I would ask him what made him stop by...
And sure, if that person was special at one time to you i don't see why you cant be friends.
2006-08-18 10:55:55 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really do not recognize what i'd do. i imagine it may be a touch awkward truly... inspite of if ya'll both have moved on.. i imagine i'd merely tell him it grow to be tremendous seeing him and satisfied to work out that he's doing properly.... and go away it at that. it would want to also reason complications between him and his spouse and also you and your significant different.
2016-11-26 00:40:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be ok as long as i don't have the same feeling for him, it would be cool and it wouldn't bother me if he would ask my boyfriend/husband to be friends with, i would like it in fact.
2006-08-18 10:56:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should keep in touch with an old friend, even if you guyz have a past... who doesnt why ruin your friendship, when you can have a friend from along time ago who you can bring up memories with, or ect. i dont know, but i hope it turns out well for yooh! =]
2006-08-18 10:53:50 · answer #11 · answered by .♥.gWeNyTh.♥. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋