Is fighting with your wife normal?

Question

Do all couples do it? How do you know when enough is enough and you are simply never going to work it out?

Answer 1

Of course! How do spend every single day with someone, deal with all their little quirks and not get annoyed? There are also times when you go through rough patches, like if things are tough financially and you might argue more. Besides, that's the way you know that you're really in love. Of course if it's always happy times, it's easy to be in love. But if you can deal with all the hard crap and still be in love, then you know your love is really strong.

Answer 2

In my oppinion, fighting is normal if it is between certain limits. Everybody would probably really like to know what those limits are exactly, but there is the trick: no one ever does. Enough is enough when you find yourself alone, with the baggage in your hand, going forward without being on the verge of despair. But if despite the fighting, you still think you love her, then maybe you have not reached that "enough". Try to be patient and try to stop a fight before it starts. Hold her, smile to her, those are things a woman simply cannot respond to by yelling...

Answer 3

When she throws a bottle of wine at you for coming home from work 15 minutes later than you said you would!! ha! Or when your trying to stop arguing and give her a hug and she rakes yr face five times with her gorgeous long nails ! That might be a good hint that enough's enough!

But then .. you might do as I did and stuck it out, until she attacked again then called the cops on ME, and acted all hysterical and I had to leave the house!!!

Don't let it go there mate. Arguing is part of life but as the good book says .. "Don't let the sun set on your wrath". Make up before you shut down for the day.. she never would .. and now we're in court.

Answer 4

All couples fight. I think the biggest help when fighting is to make sure there are no name calling, and work out the problem before going to bed (take a walk, but just don't sleep until it's worked out). Also, once you have kissed and made up, don't bring up that fight again! I believe that you can always work things out. Communication is key. Even going to a therapist for a few sessions may help, individually or as a couple

Answer 5

I think fighting to some degree is very normal. We all have periods of stress and frusteration where we vent on our spouses, but if your fighting everyday and just going in circles, there is a problem. I have been married for 12 years and we dont fight too much anymore. The first 5 years of marriage are the hardest, it is almost like each person is fighting for control. What they dont learn until years later is that nobody is really controlling anything, and its better to just sit down and talk about the real issues and feelings.

Answer 6

Most couples fight but I hope you are not talking about fisticuffs here. Because once you strike a woman, they have gained the moral high ground and believe me, the relationship is finished FROM THAT MOMENT.

If you are talking about arguing, well thats different. Most couples argue.Quite a lot of couples have "stormy relationships" , many of them in private so n outsider ever knows about it. It's when the arguing STOPS, it generally menas that both are fed up arguing and the relationship is effectively over.

You have to still be in "love" - even just a little bit- to be bothered arguing.

Remember you have to WORK at a marriage. It doesn't just happen. And believe me divorce is a world of pain, it's not AT ALL like what you would expect. It can cripple you emotionally for years.

Answer 7

I think all couples fight to a certain degree....usually over silly petty stuff and then you make up and move on and it's no big deal.

The problem is when you are constantly fighting and the fights are over significant issues that cannot be resolved or compromised by both parties in any way. Usually what begins to happen is that resentments sets in and neither party ever wants to admit to being at fault and fights begin over everything....

Answer 8

I guess it is you know! I sometimes have the same thoughts as you - is this really all worth it? But then I'm reminded of all the good things in our relationship which far outweigh the negative. We both try compromise - decide which is more important: keeping the peace this time or winning the argument / battle (which often leads to fights, and tears) - make a mutual promise to discuss it when you're not angry - that works for us.

Answer 9

Depends on your definition of "fighting". If you're just disagreeing in a manner that is grown up, it's normal. If you're yelling and screaming and ripping each other's throats out 24/7 then you either need time away from each other or need counseling. Main thing is to communicate without trying to kill each other. Sometimes fighting fairly is better than no fighting at all.

Answer 10

Everyone has an argument some times- people who say they never fall out, well, thats because they just dont speak to eachother. If this fighting is not on a daily basis, its not too bad, but if it is all the time, its come to sitting down and talking divorce, 'cos thats not normal.