whenever she comes to visit. I do the best that I can. We have a 9 month old and I focus on the kitchen and bathroom mainly. When people come over I make sure the living room looks decent but I dont do the "hardcore" spring cleaning that she wants me to do. Thankfully she doesn't live in the city, but it hurts my feelings when she says something.
2006-08-18 10:30:19 · 8 answers · asked by Ruth R 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ruth, Come on now. What I read are excuses. You can't please her and you won't be able to so just accept it. If you are truly doing your best then that's all that you can do. she doesn't have to live with you and if your husband is happy with the way the house is then up hers. good luck in the future
2006-08-18 10:39:47 · answer #1 · answered by Boxcars 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let her in ...lol
just kidding, This is actually a great time to ask her if she would like to spend some quality time with the baby so that you can get some things done around the house. This way you get a little break from the baby (and from her). And let her know that she is more than welcomed to help out if she would like. I compleatly sympathise with you. I can't stand my mother in law so i moved away and brought her son and the kids with me. Sounds mean but she would be at our house all the time. No really ALL THE TIME. Now she is constantly at her other son's home and his wife calls to complaine and cry all the time. Some Mom's just don't know when to cut the cord.
2006-08-18 17:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by SEXY MAMI 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mother-in-laws will always be jealous of they "son's wife" they just want the best for they son's so they are going to do what ever to make sure u learn how to do it they way ..dont worry about it and try to open ur eyes and listen carefully each time she says something about you'r house and then u try to go over what she was talking abt and re-do it the way she likes it in that way you wont only be learning something new you'll be making peace cause she'll see that u do listen ..
good luck..
2006-08-18 17:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she only sees you occasionally, she doesn't know how hard you are working, so she really shouldn't judge. Just remind yourself that you love her, and that she's not trying to be hurtful. You can always try to avoid it, or say things like "oh, I'm sure I'll get to that soon" and try to appease her without giving in. I'm sorry it's so hard, and I hope you have a wonderful day with your baby.
2006-08-18 17:36:15 · answer #4 · answered by Amber E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time she criticizes, say something like, "Oh good! I could appreciate the help with cleaning! when can you come over to help?"
She'll stop.
2006-08-18 17:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by Meatpies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should tell her to mind her own business. You need to ignore her comments, and he needs to address them. It's his mother...not yours. You have to deal with your parents when they misbehave and he has to deal with his. Those are the RULES!
If he won't say anything to her...then you need to sigh hugely and say "I keep telling your son he needs to clean better, but he doesn't listen to me...maybe you could have a chat with him." Treat it lightly...and don't take it to heart. Some people are just twits.
2006-08-18 17:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time she says something, hand her a bucket, mop, vacuum cleaner, or dust rags (whatever is needed to address her complaint), and say, "Thanks for offering to help. The baby keeps me tired and I really appreciate it."
2006-08-18 17:36:57 · answer #7 · answered by Otis F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have grandparents like that. Go to her house and criticize her, see how she likes it.
2006-08-18 17:47:09 · answer #8 · answered by tabatha1333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋