this is a real question for mothers that DONT.....?

Question

Im a mother of a 5 year old im 23 and i have been with his father for 6 years now,someday we plan to marry.........like i said im 23 and i dont drive a car and i dont work im too SCARED like a panic scared....i have tryed to get my lience but the thought puts me in a panic! i got a job once that lasted 1 day at mcdonalds, i couldnt figure out the register : / so i went home that day never to return. i know i have learning disabilitys? see i cant even spell it right : [ i was always in the slow classes in school and my fear of driveing i think...is due to being a little girl that lived in one with my mother and brother for months while we were homeless. i dont get thinks like normal people do...my boyfriend is so damn smart so smart he went to college a few months back and before he graduated they gave him a teachers job teaching desk top publishing. and here i am at 23 and i didnt even finish high school. please is there anyone out there in this same situation? dont drive and work?

i really am scared to do these things : [ and i dont think i ever will....... my hands are shaking just talking about it... am i alone please is there anyone out there like me????

"tuff love" isnt the answer people so please dont be mean to me....i feel so alone and so worthless...my man dose everything...works 2 jobs drives me to appointments ect... and it breaks my heart becouse i cant change i cant undo this fear that eats at me.

i tryed writting to a few of thos talk shows before but im sure i sounded like a "retard: becouse i cant put a sentance together and i cant seam to get my emotions out of me on to paper... i use to see a councler but it wasnt working then i tryed zoloft and self help... i dont know what to do im scared and i know i cant change and my boyfriend with out so much as saying it is sick of my **** and that hurts.....

the other day my boyfriend was working on the brakes on the van he said i need your help while im cheeking the pressure i need you to push down on the brakes 10 times to build up the pressure. my heart couldnt stop pouding and i started sweating non stop and i lyed and said i have work to do in the house and i ran off! cryed in my bathroom over it....

Answer 1

You could start by having someone take you somewhere "deserted" and let you try to drive there. There will be no worry that you will wreck the car if you panic. Do that until you feel confident enough to go to a parking lot or someplace like that. This is gonna have to be a gradual thing. Take your time and don't let people rush you, but the one thing that is going to help you the most is your determination. Think about the things that you said in your question and let that drive you( no pun intended) to overcome your fear. As far as your high school degree, make plans to get your G.E.D. Don't try to compare yourself to your boyfriend. My husband is a genius, and alot of times I feel like an idiot around him when certain subjects come up and I think "I should know that!!" But the truth is not everyone is going to be "super" smart. You just strive to be the best that YOU can be. Just find the things that you are good at and run with them. Whatever they are. If you can make a mean chocolate chip cookie, then be the best chocoalte chip cookie maker there is. If you can sew, then be the best seamstress out there. Do you get my point? I hope so, and I hope this helped you a little. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Honey, I'm not a mother, but I would trade my job and my driver's license for a child any day of the week! You should not feel badly that you don't have a job or driver's license. If you live near or in town and can ride with your fiance or a friend, you really don't need a license. And as far as a job goes, if your fiance is supporting you, that is wonderful. Your child needs you, and being a good wife and mother is the most important job in the whole world. By being a mom, you will have more influence than you ever would working a normal job outside the home, because your child who you invested all your love and care for will be the greatest blessing you ever have and he, in turn, can touch the lives of others because of all you did for him... same goes for your husband-to-be; if your mission in life is to help him with his, you both will be as happy as can be.

God bless you!

Answer 3

You need to talk to your boyfriend, your feeling worthless and you should not feel that way. I dont think not being able to drive is your biggest problem. Your biggest problem is the way you feel about yourself. You need to realize you have a full time job taking care of your son and that my dear is harder than working a full time job and driving and taking care of kids. You are very much appreciated by your son and your boyfriend Im sure. If you really want to drive someday you need to see a psychologist and step up and talk to your boyfriend and tell him whats going on or things will not get better for you. You may be a mother but you still can have a life outside of that. You are only 23yrs old. Please send me a message if you would like to talk.

Answer 4

I really do feel empathy for you. I know what it's like to be petrified of something. I was afraid to ride a horse once. What I did was have someone I trusted with me the first few times. If you chicken out a couple of times, so what, just keep trying. If you believe in God, pray about it. Sometimes just feeling like you have supernatural help will get you through it. Believe me, once you've conquered it, you will wonder what in the world you were ever so afraid of! Good luck to you.

Answer 5

( I do not have disabilities. )
I am 33 and I have only had my drivers license for a year now. I was paranoid to drive. Take it slow. Go Through a driving school and take a few driving lessons maybe that will help relax you.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

I was 23 when I got my licensee. No joke. I was afraid of learning how to drive a 5 speed. But I took my time and paced myself and I learned how. A register is hard to learn. Especially in a fast food place. I had to learn how to run one at a gas station. Just believe in yourself and pace yourself . You can do it.

Answer 7

OH MY LORD!!! WHY HAVEN'T YOU LOOKED FOR A SPECIALIST? IF ONE FAILS KEEP LOOKING! SOMEONE SOMEWHERE HAS GOT TO HELP U! I FELL BAD FOR U BECAUSE I AM VERY INDEPENDENT AND I HAVE 3 KIDS WORK, DRIVE AND HANDLE AN APARTMENT WITH RENT 3 KIDS AND BILLS ALL BY MYSELF AND IT BOTHERS THAT U CANT FIND SOMEONE TO ASSIST YOU!!! IF THERE ARE CENTERS FOR ALCOHOLICS AND DRUGGIES THERE SHOULD BE A PLACE FOR PEOPLE IN UR SITUATION, GOD BLESS YOU AND DON'T GIVE UP!!! :)

Answer 8

Maybe you need to get some counseling to help you overcome your fear of vehicles. Go on the Dr. Phil show! He'll help ya.

Just so you know...I was deathly afraid to learn to drive. I didn't get my license until I was 19!

Answer 9

you need to see your doctor. you could have a panic disorder. its not something that you ask for you just get it. there are medications you can take to help.