I recently got married, moved to a new town (where I know no one). I have a 7 month old son (who I stay home with during the day) and I have a 10 year old daughter. A lot of the time, I'm fine. But when I get lonely or talk to my family that live where we used to live, I get bummed out and start getting depressed. I love my new husband, I love our new home together. Its just hard adjusting. Any suggestions on making this easier?
2006-08-18 10:10:30 · 13 answers · asked by Ang 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Of course you get depressed. You have gone through lots of changes recently! And you might want to check with a doctor about post partum depression.
If that isn't an issue I'd say it is time to get out more. Join a YMCA that has babysitting and excercise or take classes. Start going to a church that has lots of families -- they will have day care and hopefully social activities in which you can participate and meet new people. Invite a neighbor over for coffee or lemonade. Get your daughter involved in school sports or music or drama programs and take your baby to watch her practice or play games -- and again, meet some of the other parents.
God bless. If you need to talk any more please contact me.
2006-08-18 10:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as soon u get a chance join a church join activities, go to the library with your kids get with other like your self on live chat rooms in your home town, when you do looking to Make friends try to meet at a natural place and have lunch ,dinner and a movie. try having chats with your neighbor's introduce your self were u from. have your kids join some programs club were you can meet other mom, like the Library and school club for your oldest daughter. join the p.t .a sounds great? when school start try having a birthday party for your dauther class mate and give invitations and ask for some parent help
2006-08-18 17:47:53 · answer #2 · answered by cece 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and about. School is starting soon, volunteer to help out in your daughter's classroom at school. You can meet other mothers that way as well as some of the school staff. I know a few that volunteer in my children's classes have to bring their babies along. Sign up for a mommy and me class at a local community center. some places offer free or low cost child care a few times a month for Mother's morning out. You could get out and possibly make friends that way. You just have to be outgoing and willing to adapt. Don't focus on how badly you miss your old life, concentrate on how wonderful you can make your new one.
2006-08-18 17:17:32 · answer #3 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try make time for yourself have a coffee morning. Phoning home worked for ET because that's were he lived you don't live there anymore. Find that something special about where you live and try to be a part of it. you may not feel like an outsider as much
2006-08-18 17:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by froggerty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join some social clubs in the area where you can meet some women your age to hang out with. Maybe even some other stay at home moms. Try going to church and meet some other young couples to hang out with.
2006-08-18 17:18:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your children to a nearby park, maybe you can meet some other adult mommies! Join a fitness club or something that your sure to meet ladies with children. That is definitely a hard thing to do! Good luck honey!
2006-08-18 17:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by StacieR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to set up a time every day/ week/ whatever to call and talk to your friends back home and if your budget allows it maybe go home and see them once a month until you can make them some new friends.
2006-08-18 17:21:50 · answer #7 · answered by ~*~marine~*~chick~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a part time job and get some friends. you need to give time to yourself as much as your family. you'll be burned out in a few years and resent yourself and those around you. go to the gym or the park, join the pta at your 10 yr. old school. get in a group or a club just plain get out.
2006-08-18 17:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by groverlovers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make friends..you're in a new place and it seems like you don't get out much. Maybe join a "mommy & me" group, or go to the library - somewhere. Just get out & make yourself some new friends & start loving where you are.
Good Luck
2006-08-18 17:15:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out who lives next door to you or in your neighborhood. Make friends with the women.
Take your kids to the nearest park/playground and you'll meet other moms like yourself.
Good luck !
2006-08-18 17:16:12 · answer #10 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋