How would you react to your husband?

Question

How would you act if your husband called you the "c" word? I want to see if it bothers you as much as it does me.

He wasn't teasing. He does it every time we fight. If I go up against what he says... I get called that. I've been called many things and I've told him how it makes me feel. It doesn't matter, he still does it.

Thank you all who have answered so far, I can't kick his butt b/c of my bad back but I want to leave. I'm working on it now. He can't keep treating me like this. I know!!

Answer 1

Let's see, He would die a very violent death, then I would reincarnate him and do it again. That's the ultimate no no for any man. talk about disrespect. Give me your address, I'll take care of him.

Answer 2

Sorry to but in , it's kind of scary here right now , but I couldn't resist adding a male point of view. I don't know what is going through your husbands mind but he has some serious issues if he would call you such a name. I think you should be on your guard seriously with this guy because he sounds like a control freak or wife abuser , he may even hit you next or something . You can not let this continue without taking some sort of action or it may get progressively worse if you do. Does he hit you already? I think it a fair question to ask if he would call you such a name . I would give him the silent treatment for as long as it takes to get an apology and a promise never ever to do it again ! He should maybe be in anger management classes or something but he could be a danger to you . If he doesn't apologize or stop doing it , leave him before he hurts you ! That's my advice , sorry if I sound so harsh but this man is way out of line, be careful !

Answer 3

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He wants to win the argument, and he's using emotional abuse to win. Sounds to me like it works...you are upset, and so you lose.
Now, what you need to do, is either tell him that "name calling" is ABUSIVE, and SHOWS his
"insecurity" and lack of belief in the strength of his own argument,...and that is when you know you're argument is the strongest
THEN when he name calls LAUGH, or at least SMILE
IMMEDIATELY when he names calls
OR
tell him that you want to continue the argument AS ADULTS later when he's not TRANTRUMING, then walk out of the room.
This SHOULD work.

Most arguments can be avoided when you treat your partner (both of you) with the respect that they understand when they are wrong, and
you know they can understand your BOUNDARIES
of what you will and what you won't allow in the relationship.

If you've never started this MATURE metod of dealing with differences, there is no time like now to get started.

Sometimes, couples can also AGREE TO DISAGREE.

Set your "reasonable" boundaries in a relationship, and stick to them. NEVER get ANGRY...but do let your IRE be known, when something is really wrong.
You will be surprised how quickly, "offenders" begin to fall into line with what is made clear as to "expectations".

If ALL else fails, and he still continues to use nasty words to you...use the REWARD method. Let him know, that the use of such words will cost him something like dinner.
If he calls you "c" when dinner rolls around slap a loaf of bread and some balogna on the table, and walk away. When he asks what the ***, you tell him that is what "c"'s serve for dinner.... and laugh.

stw
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THEN

Answer 4

Well we all have fights and we all say bad things. As a man i don't get why women hate that word as much as they do and i don't understand why women take certain words to a level they do (I'm just being honest). I will say this are vocabulary changes threw time and the cu*t word is a french word that means cat. so its not to far off from the normal P word we use today all over.

Answer 5

First I had to answer this. I am a Male and one thing that is never done is to call a woman the C word.

You are owed an apology and at least any present you want.

My last opinion. You should kick his Mother F---ing Butt out and over a cliff. He went over the line.

Answer 6

Just from the information you have shared it seems as if your husband is verbally abusive towards you. There is lack of respect and that is awful. Please do not accept or tolerate his rude behavior. It will only escalate.
Spousal abuse is not just physical it can be mental or sexual as well. Name calling (especially that name) could be considered both. It is sexually degrading and emotionally harmful.
Seek some professional help and also check out domestic violence information in your area. This type of behavior is unacceptable.
On a side note.....never, never, never stoop to his level. Always speak to him as you would want him to speak to you. In this way you are putting all the responsibility on him.
Good luck......

Answer 7

I would be really upset if anyone called me that- especially my husband! I think you should let him know that it bothers you (when you're not in an arguement) and then if he does it again, ignore him. I think the reason he uses that word is because he's gettting a reaction. But since he is calling you that, it shows that he doesnt have as much respect towards you as he should.

Answer 8

O man, my husband would never and I repeat Never call me that. That is the one word I would never tollerate. I am known for throwing heavy ashtrays at a guy (when I was younger) because he called me that word. I made sure I told my husband when we were dating. I think that is the most horrible word anyone can say to a woman.

Answer 9

Tell him he is a b******d and see what he says. When he reacts tell him how you feel when he tells you that. Tell him that you are out one more time he uses this foul word. When you promise that to him be prepared to do it also. Just walk out and let him come back after you like a lost dog. He will never do it again if he really needs you.

Answer 10

I guess it depends how he said it... at the end of the day if it was said in the heat of the moment it's just a word, if it's something he meant as a cold and deliberately hurtful name then I think its time to gently flick one testicle and inflict some pain! (trust me... the delay and then the searing pain will make you feel much better!)

Answer 11

If I really want to get a good fight started, all I have to do is call the wife the "c" word, and LOOK OUT!!!!!

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