Is everything really my fault? I recently got an e-mail from somebody over a question I asked on Yahoo! Answers... namely:
From: Jose A. G
Subject: boyfriend ?
Message: why would you try and push him to tell his parents, first of all it's none of you business and second you are cousing him problems at home.
take my advice and leave him alone !
... I keep reading things like this from people, and having been on Religion & Spirituality, I've been hearing some pretty hateful things against Pagans and Christians, by Atheists and Christians...
I'm just... so bothered by it all, though... I mean... really... I know the things I say are true... and I try not to be mean to people... (though, I am human, I do get pretty frustrated at times)...
... why does everybody have to be so mean for?
... how can people say things without recognizing or acknowledging the person they're talking to/about has had many hardships before...?
... I guess I really need a pick-me-up.
2006-08-18 09:56:40 · 25 answers · asked by Lady Myrkr 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
The question that the guy from the e-mail was talking about:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AlvLEKQxDcQERcsa6Gp.q53sy6IX?qid=20060817172325AAmcAMo
2006-08-18 10:18:04 · update #1
You are a sensitive person and Answers can be hard place to be. People here are mean, some are wackos, some unintelligent, some looking for attention, some very wonderful, very insightful, loving, kind... All types. Let grouches be grouches and enjoy the good that is here. This is a good place to develop some toughness which will come in handy in the world, because the world is just like Answers! Chin up! HUG
2006-08-19 16:19:57 · answer #1 · answered by novalee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweetie.Lift up your head look out your window on what gives you peace and say to yourself tomorrow is another day.Next week is a different situation.Next month is a different place.And next year, you decide.I am islamic, but that does not at all mean I don't have a heart.My mother is from Taiwan and is a true pagan.But what can you do.I did not read the question about your boyfriend, but I felt your pain.A quality of life people don't even notice that is supposed to be comforted.And cleansed by the human self to "BE".Even dogs can notice simple things like that.You are not supposed to be mocked, stomped, and spit on.And I am talking about your fealings.YOU.I know reading nice answers is a real good pick me up.And I never leave a remark that can hurt another.At least I don't think I do.The situation is you may be a pagan.And in your stage of life it is very helpfull because it keeps you open to the possabilities of "what if?".What if the world used to be full of pagans?Were they at least peacefull?Did they at least have a heart?What if LOVE can lead to great things?What if?That is the question asked by all, but few dare to answer it truthfully.At least I know you do.A noble quality.Things change, people change, but the situation of life will always be the same.May you truly find PEACE one day.And when I say peace, I mean comfort.And LOVE always follows.Peace Be Upon You.
2006-08-18 18:15:36 · answer #2 · answered by Mitchell B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right do the following:
Sit down. Take a deep breath.
Go make some coffee or some hot drink you like. You deserve it, now I would really advise you stop browsing yahoo answers for a while as to avoid further upset. This website allows the world to communicate and sadly as with th e internet any mass communication tool is susceptible to both the polite and the unpleasant, I can only vouch for myself amongst everyone on here, but I do hope there are othe rpleasant people on here.
In the meantime take a well earned break and chill, do something you enjoy for a change, dont elt these people bother you :)
2006-08-18 17:05:00 · answer #3 · answered by englishkeymaster 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I try not to be mean with my answers, but some of the so-called "questions" are just stupid remarks that try my patience.
Here's one example: "I need clean underwear -- what shall I do?" How would you answer a statement like that?
Then someone comes along with a really legitimate concern and wants advice or counsel. Someone like you, for example. By this time, unfortunately, the answerers are thoroughly disgusted with what went before, and find it difficult to get in the proper perspectives again. If you will post your question again, I will be happy to answer it in the way it was intended. No snide remarks or nasty replies, as an honest question is worthy of an honest answer. I'm sorry you've had a bad experience. Maybe we can do better next time. So what was your original question?
2006-08-18 17:13:15 · answer #4 · answered by gldjns 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hon, don't even listen to people who are rude, they are not worth your time. When religion comes into question, people can be close-minded, mean, and can completely disregard your question just because you are a pagan. I am an atheist, and I think you should be whatever you feel is right. If you don't believe in anything, good for you, if you are a christian, good for you, and if you are a pagan, good for you! I think it's a very interesting religion, and I bet you are a very interesting person. Don't let people get you down..that's what I am trying to work on right now in my life too. As for your boyfriend...It might be easiest to avoid religion issues with his parents at all. Perhaps, he should just be a pagan, or whatever he feels he should be, and try to avoid talking about religion with his parents right now. Hopefully, they wont pressure him. And, you can just assure him that whatever he decides, you are by his side. I hope you feel better, and don't let the close-minded half of the world get to you...they are not as lucky as you. :)
2006-08-18 17:38:16 · answer #5 · answered by parachute 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly...I think you should leave him alone. Spirituality is a very PERSONAL thing. If you (or his parents) try and interefere, you will only succeed in pushing him away. Nobody can force a religion on another person, the idea is preposterous!
Personally, I am a practitioner of Kemetic Paganism. It's a very spiritual and moral path. I have a sense of peace with practically everyone and everything--including myself. How dare someone try and take this happiness away from me!
Let him make his own spiritual decisions and support him on his journey to enlightenment. He will love and respect you for it.
2006-08-23 10:16:27 · answer #6 · answered by Ana 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I get stupid close minded emails al the time from people like this! Normally just because I express my Christian belief! Take anything people like that say with a pinch of salt and then reply with an "I couldn't care less what you say, I asked for some advice/answers, not a lunatic to rant and rave at me about how I'm a bad person" or something along those line!
Some of the most close minded people come on Yahoo! Answers don't worry about them!
2006-08-18 19:48:17 · answer #7 · answered by porsche_collector 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are on level 5 do yourself a favor hun and give yourself a break from answers. this world is full of a wondrous variety of people, religions,creeds and colors and with that comes opinion too. you want to do this answers thing then you have to expect some people strongly disagree to the point of nastiness, others just do it for the hell of it its what makes us human, and in a way why yahoo answers works so well. don take it too deep into your heart and soul, i have been there once myself with an addiction to yahoo messenger which took me a long time to shake off. just take a break and come back to us when you are ready
good luck
2006-08-18 18:30:13 · answer #8 · answered by omnigomni 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie.. I think what's happening here is that you're leaving yourself wide open. I told those I taught to keep kind to their heart.. themselves, all others, and what was taught. simple meant.. become a secret.
You're placing yourself right out there, full view. Are you honestly ready to take the hits right now..
I mean you no disrespect, but protect yourself a bit more. Protect those that walk this path with you.. How you behave, and what you say, will reflect on everyone.. so please, be mindful..
Most of all, be gentle and kind..
you are loved..
2006-08-20 20:19:41 · answer #9 · answered by sassy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why people are mean. You can lead by good example though, and be a representative of the Pagan community by your tolerance and kindness.
You are a strong person for choosing your own path. Don't let uniformed people who don't know you get you down. Life is way too short to be bogged down by hatred and intolerance. You have come to your own conclusions, and it is good that you are there for your boyfriend as he makes his own spiritual decisions!
Blessed be!
2006-08-18 17:47:55 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Pears 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋