Am I wrong? My husband was supposed to be fixing his moms floor in her new house today and I'm home all day do

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Am I wrong? My husband was supposed to be fixing his moms floor in her new house today and I'm home all day taking care of our 17 month old son. My husband went out to breakfast with his buddies, then did half the floor and then decided that he was going to go to the lake with his friend and just do the work later. I have schoolwork to do as well as take care of a very energentic child and I don't get any break. Should I be jealous or mad (because I kind of am)?

Answer 1

Relax...don't look for something that may bot be there. If hubby wants a break, sobeit.

How r u doing....Find anything on the net worthwhile ?

Answer 2

JEALOUS NO.

ANGRY.. HELL YES,
I AM SURE THERE ARE OTHER THINGS GOIING ON THAT YOU WOULD LOVE LTO BE A PART OF.. RIGHT?

Yes a seventeen month old is very energenic,, and you are busy,
Even though your husband was just thinking about himself
and you are "stuck" WITH responsibility, don't make a big deal out of this.. unless this is a constant thing.

if he is a good guy, and treats you good, then just look at it like this, he had a chance to do something fun.. and no harm meant for anyone,..
be fair, and understand,..(give slack) To him sometimes, and then ask him to do othe same for you..
he owes you one,
if you love this man the father of your baby,, look at the big picture..
Love is give and take,
so give
just turn it into aa "give daya" KEEP A RECORD LOL
and be cheerful
or HAVE A LITTLE FUN WITH IT,

WHEN HE GETS HOME, BE SO HAPPY, HE WILL WONDER WHAT YOU ARE HIDING, AND TREAT HIM LIKE A KING,, EXTRA GOOD,
BE SO HAPPY, HE WILL THINK YOUR BRAIN HAS BEEN BORROWED BY THE BODY SNATC HERS,

or be whatever, but be loving , kind, and show no resentment (gosh thats hard) IF YOU GET WEAK, AND WANT TO WHINE,.......UUMMMMMM. GO EAT A CANDY BAR, or go buy yourself an outfit,, ordo soomething kind to yourself,

ok try it,
love him, and hold him.. and if you have a hard time emotionally.. covering up your irritation,, then think of this,how much does lhe lmean to you?
WHAT WOULD YOU THINK IF YOU WERE TOLD HE IS GONE,, WHAT WOULD YOU WANT TO SAY TO HIm?

You had to do schoolwork anyway, so the time you are without him, just reflect on how great he is,
and you have a baby to care for anyway,,
and that is a miracle and blessing,, and no one is doing anythiing "to you" IT IS JUST ANOTHER DAY, AND YOUR HUBBY, HAD A LESS STRESSFULL AND MORE FUN DAY, AND YOU HAD A "WHAT ABOUT ME DAY"

now, don't you feel better? OK THEN HAVE A GREAT REST OF YOUR DAY,,
SOUNDS LIKE YOU HAVE A LOT LTO BE THANKFUL FOR
ENJOY

Answer 3

OK for the record I'm a guy that being said I'm not going to try to take sides but i have a few questions myself you may want to ask yourself.

#1 Did his Mom show up and ask hI'm to do the floor with the expectantcy that he would regaurdless weather he said no.

#2 Did you take moms side just because your both women and your showing a united front.

#3 Did you ask him what he had planned for the day

#4 Did you play the guilt thing on him.

Sometimes im in that position not always but sometimes and i may say OK I'll do it to get you off my back then do what i had planned with my friends Which you may have ignored or dismissed because you thought the floor was more important

OK don't get me wrong I'm not a jerk but if someone wants something done in a timely manner you may want to have a contractor do it as opposed to a relative.

Signed Tim

Answer 4

My husband like to work so much and I am always home with my two children. I understand what you are going thru, but to be honest you are jealous. Why we stay home and take care of the children the men get to be out there having a life with other adults. I understand that my husband is out there trying to make money for the family but when he is gone almost all of the time it sucks. I am jealous that he gets to run and do what he thinks he needs to do for the family . But sometimes he also needs to focus on being home with us too. We are more important then making that dollor. Good luck. It is hard being a mother. but no one can tell you what to do. Just try talking to you husband about it. I have learn to live with it. He is the one missing out on our children growing up. I am hoping things will soon change so he does not feel like he has to go chasing that money.

Answer 5

Sounds like he is unsure as to how be a good husband and father, it IS a scary thing at first! Instead of feeling resentment, start building up his confidence and let him know about all the things you like/love about him. People have been having families for a long time, it Can be done! Be his partner, don't give the impression that he is a free agent who can choose to skip out on his family. You need help from him. But do it with kindness and understanding, plan on what your future together will look like. Sometimes when babies are young it looks like you'll be a parent forever, but it goes by soooo fast. Help him to enjoy his role as husband and father, he's just learning, too. Good Luck.

Answer 6

no you are not wrong. he is selfish and obviously he doesnt think of you or the baby. if i were i would get a way to go out there and grab him by his ear and say hey. I have school work to do. and here you are haveing fun. well i would actually I would purposely get an f or a bad grade on the assignment and see if i could make it up then i would blame it on him just to mkae him feel horrible. but that is just me.good luck hun and take care. also id like to add. i saw some ones comment and i say yes make a big deal out of it. he has to learn you have important stuff to do. if he doesnt learn now then he will more then likely keep doinf it cause he knows he can get away with it.

Answer 7

He had good intentions, helping his mom and fixing the floor isn't an easy thing, but when opportunity knocks what would you rather do, I am sure the same thing....your time will come...try not to ruin his opportunities or he will do the same next time you get a chance to take a break from your obligations.

Answer 8

I think the best thing anyone could tell you is not whether you are justified in your anger but that you need to talk to your husband, explain that no matter what he was doing you are frustrated and don't want that to come between you. Open, honest communication is the only way any relationship can survive.

Answer 9

Your husband sounds like a child. Why couldn't you go to the lake too. I know why he didn't want you to go with him. I see trouble down the road for you two. Stay into your school work, sounds like you are going to be in need of it later on.

Answer 10

Neither---u chose to have this child...this child should be your #1 responsibility in life....nothing else and i do mean nothing should come before your child....this is life...do not be mad....but he should also allow u time to go out with your friends as well...and if he does...then he is fair...this is life....u make the best of it...and don't cry over the little things...worry if he is cheating on you...then u got something to worry about...life is too short to worry about the little things...enjoy the time with you youngun...they grow up quick

Answer 11

First, what kind of talk together have you both had in regards to the household chores (and that includes watching and caring for the infant child)?

I'd be somewhat mad -- but first, you need to calmly sit down with him and discuss how much you need to have some time to study and prepare for your schooling, and please think of this before you think of spending many hours enjoying yourself and leaving me here all alone with the infant ...

THAT is what any couple should do.