How can I trust my gut?!?

Question

I've come to a point in my life where I seem to question alot of things. I make a convicted decision about something or someone, then I back peddal. Lately I"ve been back and forth with a boyfriend. I've even asked here if I'm wasting my time. Sometimes I'm certain we're not meant to be, and then I question it. He may do something rude or suspicious and I get a bad gut feeling. Later when he tells me his side of a situation, I back peddal on my gut instincts and think "What if I'm just too paro?" , "What if I"m wrong about my feeilng?" or "What if this is the wrong decision?"
How do I know if my gut is telling me the truth or if I"m too paranoid/untrusting? How do I filter through second guessing myself?

Answer 1

This is the exact same thing I have struggled with. What I have learned is that my gut is never wrong. NEVER. I can definitely be paranoid and un-trusting but the truth is there is cause to be. When he explains his side of the story do all the pieces of the puzzle fit in or are you still left with questions and doubts ?? Your gut can even tell you if his version of the events are right. What is your gut telling you ? Its hard to listen to our gut because if your anything like me you always want proof. I have to learn that all I do is waste time by staying around looking for proof. Look at your track record. Has your gut been right in the past or can you look back and say boy was I paranoid ?? I'm sure if you go through your history you will see that the gut was right. Keep telling yourself that and hopefully you will get better at listening to it.

Answer 2

YOU are hearing that little nagging voice in your head trying to tell you to LEAVE, LEAVE NOW and let it go -- because you will only experience pain and suffering throughout the years if you continue in this relationship.

If the voice (or gut feeling) is making you twist inside -- it is DEFINITELY WRONG -- and get away! This is not paranoid or untrusting -- it is a SAFETY Response and mechanism designed in the human brain to protect that individual from potential harm.

Answer 3

your mind is telling you to leave.. but you heart is saying please stay, because you know there is going to be a painful situation to deal with if you leave, but on the other hand if you stay there will be a miserable slow painful situation to deal with. and if he does something rude suspicious trust your gut especially if there is a reason to trust your gut. You know, prior cheater...don't spend to much time energy trying to figure him out if you think...get proof first and if your gonna cause yourself so much anguish it's not worth it...be true to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!