Do you think you can turn gay or is it something you are born as?

Question

A friend of mine said over drinks that she wished she could "turn gay" and would do all she could to "get gay". I laughed and agreed if we were gay our lives would be so much simpler. Does anyone else think its possible to just become gay or is it something you are born as ?

Answer 1

I say you are born gay, just the same way some people are born heterosexual.
To say you are not born gay and it has something to do with your upbringing is an interesting thought but what about when you have twins where one is gay and one is straight? Siblings where one is gay and one is straight?

I can honestly say I was brought up in EXACTLY the same manner as my brothers and sisters yet one of us still turned out to be gay and from as young as I can remember (about age 9) he was always after the little boys and not the little girls, how much can he have experienced at that age that made him want to be with the boys more than the girls?

But enough bad experiences with someone of the opposite sex and a lot of good ones with someone of the same sex can easily turn you gay. Still I dont think its as black and white as "ooh all of a sudden I fancied men and was straight, now after several bad relationships with males I fancy women".

Maybe what happens is you fall in love with a persons spirit, a persons personality and that person just happens to be female?
Thus by default making you 'gay'. Or as I prefer to say Pansexual. You dont see the persons gender you see a human being and you fall in love.

So, after that long winded thing. naaah I dont think you can just turn homosexual

Answer 2

The short answer maybe both born and turned gay. With all the extreme views one way or the other, I'd like to offer my experience and views, and maybe some additional insights. I don't believe the world is black and white, contains people only male and female(from a physical perspective), etc. Genetics is the core of what we are, I believe the existence of a gay gene or gay genes. Does this mean having the genes would make someone gay, absolutely not. Genetic examples like very short mom with tall son, only a fraction of Alzheimer's gene carriers develop the disease, etc. These outcomes attribute to whether a particular gene is turned on or not. Turning genes on or off can happen throughout entire life as it seems, I think most of them happen while still in the womb. So after asking the first question whether someone has a gay gene, the next question is whether that gay gene is turned on or not. If it is, someone would develop gay. The big unknown to me is that we have no idea what turns on or off a gay gene, and how, either through a pre-determined biological clock, or environmental stimuli, or something else. From experience, it seems that a gay gene could stay dormant for a long time, and once turned on, it's not likely to be turned off. So let me ask you back a question, do you think faith can turn on and off a gay gene? I personally seriously doubt that. Can one born gay? Yes, certainly, when you carry a gay gene. But will the gene turn on and you become gay? Not necessarily. It's a developmental process after a gene is turned on. This might explain why we have people filling the entire spectrum between completely straight and completely gay. As far as all religious anti-gay dogmas go, they are all SELF-SERVING. Intrinsically, people have a tendency to think somehow they are "better" and "above" others. This seems to be particularly true among those die-hard religious anti-gay activists. This sort of institutionalized religion is little different from politics. Personally, I would not let politics run my life, nor my children's lives. Thanks for reading, and you may contact me via email with comments.

Answer 3

I feel it's something you're born into. The idea that somehow it's a choice when something happens to you... only an idiot would see that as a choice since you don't control what's happened to you. Now, as for turning from God, I know too many people that have come to God because of the realization that God can still love them if others do not. It is when people turn their backs to groups of people that they hurt faith in God, not when they seek that kind of love. You can not choose who you fall in love with, it's an occurence that can not be controlled. It's not everything you saw on television, it's not what you've heard and unless you've walked a mile in the shoes you'll never know cause no one will ever be able to equate the feelings into words.

Answer 4

Everyone is going to have a different opinion on this, but this is what I think

I don't think a person can make a decision to be a certain sexuality. I think our sexuality is part of what makes us up, as much as our eye colour. We can put on contacts that change it, just as we can put on an act and pretend to be straight/gay, but it doesn't make us so. At the end of the day, if a person isn't attracted to a particular sex, they can't change that.

I do think though, that like eye colour, our sexuality can change in our lives. It probably wouldn't happen often, in a large way and definately not to everybody, but it can happen.

But hey, that's just what I think, from the study I've done and personal experience.

Answer 5

Can You Turn Gay

Answer 6

You don't choose. It's just something you "are."

You may or may not realize it right away. Some people know even when they're kids that they're gay, while others don't realize until later such as high school or college.

But no one can "turn" you gay.

For example, I am a women, and I like men. I do notice women, and I do think some women are beautiful, but I am not attracted to them sexually. And even if I hung out with lesbian women, I STILL wouldn't be attracted to them sexually.

Secondly, you're friend telling you that she wishes she could "turn gay" may actually be her way of telling you that she IS gay, without REALLY telling you, in case you were to reject the idea.

And thirdly, why do you think your life would be easier if you were gay?

Answer 7

I don't think that I turned gay, nor could I if I'd tried. I don't think I can turn straight, nor can I if I try. I try not to generalize these conclusions to other people,though, so I guess it's theoretically possible for SOME people. Haven't heard much by way of research though, so... inconclusive.

Answer 8

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Do you think you can turn gay or is it something you are born as?
A friend of mine said over drinks that she wished she could "turn gay" and would do all she could to "get gay". I laughed and agreed if we were gay our lives would be so much simpler. Does anyone else think its possible to just become gay or is it something you are born as ?

Answer 9

You are born gay, straight, or somewhere in between. There's no "turning" about it. Anything else would not be true to your nature as God made you. Do you recall anything "turning" you straight?

Of course, there are some people who ignore their true nature and sexual orientation. Imagine the stress and trauma they go through!

Being gay is not a choice, it is how you were (or were not) made. I think it's great that you think life would be simpler - this tells me that you must treat LGBT people well. I can tell you for a fact it's not. Just imagine a small but vocal group of evil people constantly preaching hatred, bigotry, discrimination and therefore violence against you, and then having the gall to call themselves 'christian.' What haters! What hypocrites!

Thanks for your question!

Answer 10

I always think of it like- some people like blondes, I like red-heads. (That's just how I think of it) When a friend of mine came out, another friend wanted to be gay too. I think to show her support and possibly understand homosexuality better. Well I can't say she turned gay but I think after really considering it she realized that she could just as easily be happy and satisfied with a woman. I don't think it's a choice, I think my friend just dug a little deeper and realized somethings about herself she hadn't known before.

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