If you had to choose between popular or nerd what would you choose?

Question

i'm really smart and i get really good grades. but i wear glasses. i dont wear makeup and i dont dress preppy. i usually just tie my hair up and im really simple. is that bad? i have friends and stuff but i can tell that people i dont know think im a loser. and i know im a loser but..if you had to choose between being pretty and popular or being smart but a loser, which would you choose?

thanks for all the advice!!

Answer 1

A smart loser hands down. After school you'll be the one with the good job, nice house, and happy life.
Pretty and popular are only good in school. Looks fade, dumb is forever.
As far as the popular jerks in school, they can't see past the end of their noses. Fashion, style, beauty... these are all things that you can learn later in life if you want to. But you can't ever have another chance at an education. Once it's over, that's it. Your grades are there for good. Your poor test scores are permanent. And doing poor in school in favor of popularity won't get you into a good college. A community college won't get you the great high paying jobs in the field of your choice. A minimum wage job won't get you the 4 bedroom house in the suburbs.
While none of those things are everything, they sure help. It's hard to make a life past high school when you didn't accomplish anything while you were there. Same for college.
Your looks are fine hun. There is nothing wrong with glasses, and makeup is not a necessity of life. Your skin probably loves you. Wear whatever clothing you like, it's on your body.

An example of a girl that didn't date in high school, and was very similiar to you. She wore glasses, she got good grades. She's my older sister.
She got her PhD in genetics. She's the head of a lab in ST. Loius over 40-50 people, all of them older than her. About half of them are old enough to be her parents. She is engaged to be married to a sports manager. She is 28.

Answer 2

That is a really tough question. Being popular does not mean that you are a great person or student, and it does not guarantee success in the future.

I would much rather be smart than popular. Once people get older and leave high school, then it's like they are starting all over. People won't always be popular, but they will always be smart. Being intelligent gives you a better chance at giving you the job you want, and having a happer and more productive life. What good is being popular? You could be popular and smart, or a loser and stupid, but most people associate nerds with being smart.

Don't make a big deal of how you dress, just be yourself, simple is good, it means that you are low-maintenance, and are happy with yourself. People who dress "preppy" with fancy clothes are often insecure.

Answer 3

Well, I was nerdy - still am at 38. You are only a loser if you think you are; and if you think you are a loser then you are just giving in. I never had any desire to be popular. I had friends and they were good friends and that is all I ever needed. I have a 12 year old daughter now who feels that being popular is important. It isn't. Just think, being a nerd, you do not have any pressure to wear the right clothes or have the right hairstyle. You don't have to have the best car or the hottest boyfriend. You just have to be you and that is all you and your friends need to care about.
I asked how the popular girls treat her and she says that they treat her badly. I told her that maybe only a few -the leaders, that actually don;t like her but the others HAVE to be mean to her just to look cool to the others. I told her that to be popular she would have to be mean to her friends (some of her friends are SPED).
So my question is; Would you rather be popular and not know if your friends really like you or your 'coolness'? Or would you rather just have a few good friends that only care about the person you are?

Answer 4

I would choose to be a nerd. In middle school, I was ranked one out of 250+ eighth graders for the first semester. Although I wasn't valedictorian or salutatorian, I was proud of my accomplishment. Friends I had few, but that all paid off when our Science Olympiad team won first place in the Southern California tournament. My popularity has dramatically risen. Now I am much more respected.
And you shouldn't call yourself a loser. It lowers your self-esteem. I've stated this in another post, but I'll state it again. Don't waste your time trying to be popular at school; don't change for anyone because you might end up not liking yourself. You will be popular by doing what you do best, in this case, academics, and encouraging others to do so too.

Answer 5

I don't know much about that stuff because in my country, we don't look at others in that way. We all get along regardless of color or the way you look. We all go to school together, no white schools, no black schools or any other. But I want to tell you one thing, DON'T YOU EVER and I mean EVER tell yourself you are a loser. You are NOT a loser. You are a WINNER because you are smart and you will make it in this life. You can always change the way you look, but only do it to please yourself. You know how many people wish they were as smart as you, even the popular ones. Some of them are only popular because their family has money or just because of looks. Their looks will change in time too and it might not be so good then. I am very proud of you that you let your studies come first and you are doing so well. That is what is important. Don't worry about all that nonsense. That will all pass in time. Just enjoy life. You don't try to fit into other people's world, you let them fit into yours. That way you will have control of your life, not them. If you try to please them, you will be struggling with that for a long time. Just accept who you are and you know that you are a beautiful person. God bless you.

Answer 6

The nerd - duh.

Down the road, a money grubbing, self-absorbed socialite maniac is not a good choice for life partner.

Y'see, the problem with being the intelligent and non-flashy type is that you aren't immediately noticed, and frankly - that's a good thing, since most of the people you're likely to be compatible with (read: you don't rip your hair out at their absurdities) are the ones that'll notice you.

Otherwise, the meek rule the important parts of the earth, usually blossom into wonderful humans later on, and the popular crowd ends up in mediocrity.

So don't sweat your current social position too much. Look ahead towards your goals, desires, and greedy Gollum-like hedonism you'll get to practice without criticism.

Answer 7

Being a nerd is so much better. Ive been out of highschool for 5 years and all the "popular" people are doing exactly what they did in highschool. They don't hangout with different people and they are really boring now. All the nerds I knew are living in cool cities have good jobs, or going to grad school. Most of them have been overseas. The cool kids wasted thier college time going to bars or frat parties which is pretty lame and now they don't do anything but look for the next party.. Oh and most of the girls who were really hot in highschool are fat now and look like they peaked in highschool. Hope that makes you feel better.

Answer 8

Being smart is one thing, having style is another. When I was in high school,all of our smart kids had style. Try out different hair styles. I had a horrible hair style for years until I started practicing and found a really good one. Try to experiment with simple, natural makeup;like a tinted lip gloss and a eyeshadow that closely fits your skin color. That's just for help, but being smart is always better than being popular.

Answer 9

Most nerdy girls are actually more sucessful, when they become grown-ups, ironically its the popular girls that often end up being the losers, coz they don't know how to keep a job let alone plan for a career other than beauty college.

Stay focused on your grades, and if you must - explore you potential for physical beauty, just as a hobby.

Don't worry about wearing glasses. My dad says girls that wear glasses are sexy.

Answer 10

being a nerd is not bad, first off those people who think youre a loser cause of your clothes: you dont need 'em anyway. they wouldnt be true friends. the ones you have are hopefully true to you..and that may change or stay that way. just be yourself..and your grades are more important than who you know in highschool...people think it helps, it doesnt, because those who partied and didnt get great grade on the weekends, yeh they are gonna be trying to get the same jobs as you one day, but you kiddo, the smart nerdy one gets the job, they dont!