I am a married man who has more or less given up on marrage (she has a boyfriend). I just found my high school sweetheart again, who is in a seemingly solid relationship. But in the recent conversations, I get some mixed signals. I am confused in my own feelings and am scared to scare away/push away a good friend, but I feel like if I dont do something, I lose all. Like I said, my marrage is history, and has been for quite a while. My HS sweety knows somewhat how I feel, but I am not sure she fully understands. I should add that I have two kids, 7 and 5, by my now wife. Any input here???
2006-08-18 09:13:31 · 7 answers · asked by Don F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I should add that mentally, I have been divorced from my wife for more than 2 years, the paper is just not filed and done.
2006-08-18 09:42:21 · update #1
Look first I would suggest that you take care of your situation at hand. You said that your marriage is over, end it go get the paperwork and divorce her. I know that you will have a lot to deal with because you have children and custody issues. BUT those are just excuses ,if that is the reason you are staying. By staying with a woman that is OPENLY flaunting her relationship you can lose the respect of your children. It doesn't matter if they are 7 & 5 they know!! Get yourself situated before starting a new relationship, if you call it that because from what I read your "friend" is still married. Trust me she is not leaving her husband for you, and what kind of person would she be to cheat on her husband (sounds like your wife). That is if she is flirting and giving you signals. Like I said start with YOUR life first. Get yourself together. Good luck and I am truly sorry about your marriage.
P.s. BE with your children they are the ones that are going to need you the most.
2006-08-18 09:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by trouble comes a knockin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if your wife is having an affair file for divorce and custody of the kids. Then, talk to the h.s. sweetheart as a friend and see what happens.
2006-08-18 16:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is in a solid relationship she might not want to exit it. But if you say then that you got mix signal then talk to her, ask her and tell her honestly how you feel. If it workd great if it doesn't you'll still be friends and you lost nothing.
2006-08-18 16:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by WICCA 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is a tough situation...first discuss with your kids jus by yourself how they would feel 4 u 2 divorce their mother and date again and then talk 2 ur HS sweat-heart and maybe throw in a couple of romantic things to let her know that you have feelings for her.
2006-08-18 16:21:19 · answer #4 · answered by yup... 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
fist of all...wait till your divorce b4 thinking about being with anyone else. at least give that much to your kids. the last thing you want when they grow up is for them to think you had anything to do with her finding a b/f or the divorce.
and second thing...if ur ex hs g/f has a real realationship goin on...leave her alone. don't mess it up. if you 2 ever get back together...it'll because it was ment to be...not because you messed up her realationship w her "now" b/f
2006-08-18 16:35:37 · answer #5 · answered by Praise the Lord 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just remember the good times.... let the high school memories stay in the kiddie pool. It's time for Adult Swim.
2006-08-19 00:58:27 · answer #6 · answered by Just Ask 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should tell her
2006-08-18 16:28:58 · answer #7 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋