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Question

Me and a friend have have this what has now become a tradition of going to a certain truck show on the first day. well now his wife is finnaly deciding it's not fair that she can't go and says he needs to break the tradition and take her yet she is always going over and talking to one of her friends house to talk without him or going running someplace with this friend for an hour or so. I understand they are married but I also understand they are to seperate indviduals as well
My question is does his wife have a legitimate reason to throw a fit
for something that happens one day a year when she constantly does her own thing?

Don't yell at the messenger just because he doesn't have internet otherwise he would be asking...

Answer 1

once you got married there's a lot of do's and dont's,but it depends on the couple since now they have the right to each other.in your friend's case i guess his wife is so selfish for not allowing ur friend to hang out sometimes.if she can do it she must give her husband right to go out sometimes with his friends too.

Answer 2

a SERIOUS Breakdown in communication has happened here. We (my hubby and me) used to have the same sort of thing. When they get to where they aren't talking or sharing or stuff, then it is really serious. We don't live in someone else's marriage so we don't know the whole of it. Does he take her other places and make her feel "like a wife?" No matterr what SHE does or HE does or how the time is divided. If she feels it is important to their relationship, then it is. It is between them, not you. And there is nothing worse than being the cause of a "fight" between them. Do you and he get into "trouble" when you go to the truck show? Can you make a group thing of it - a bunch of people so that no one needs to feel like they are "a couple" or a "single"? Do some negotiating, but really, remember it is a decision for your friend and his wife to make, without others' butt-ins.

Answer 3

hmm what is different about this time? As a wife I believe in having your own space but many women I know tell me that I just don't care what my hubby does. (which is not true) I trust him but there are times that I want to go with him. I think she may be threatened by your closeness. It doesn't matter how long this has been going on and she is just now whining about it. Maybe your friend can ask her BUT if he is willing to change the tradition then he wants her to go. He is not really a good friend or husband if he is giving in JUST to shut her up. It is easy to give advice it is harder to actually do it. So good luck..

Answer 4

What is the big deal here...and why is this your business? Why can't she go and have some fun too. And I will bet that if you BOTH tell her in detail what goes on, what you want to see, what booths you want to spend time at, she will see that she will be so bored with it, she will back out quickly. IF she doesn't, the more the merrier. Make sure she understands that in for an ounce, in for a pound...there is no turning and wanting to come home early.

Answer 5

I think guys need their guy space too.If she trusts him she should not throw a childish fit over something like that,its not like its a bar or party.My husband is going to races tomorrow and I would feel like an *** if i threw a fit over it when he is here with me everyday just because you get married doesn't mean you have to throw everything else away for that person.If there are trust issues that is another story.

Answer 6

This is obviously between him and his wife but wow, a once a year event and she can't let him do his own thing? Sounds unreasonable and selfish, especially since she can't seem to make up her mind whether to go with you folks or not.

Answer 7

She is crazy, i would see if this was a every day thing, but it is only one day put the year. She needs to give him some space to do his own this cause as you said she is do things with out him.

Answer 8

No, she doesn't. I would let my now ex-husband go on day trips with his friends. I went shopping with my friends and did things with them a lot so it was only fair that he got to go do things with his. Yes, they are married but they should also be able to have their own individual time as well.

Answer 9

Sounds like your friend may not be spending enough time with his wife and she is trying to demand his attention. Guys need their space, and its unfortunate that she has to go and ruin your fun. Try telling him to set up a traditional date with his wife once a month. This may discourage her jealousy.

Answer 10

Sounds like a bigger issue than going for a couple of hours to a truck show. They need to discuss what is really bothering her. Or just say so sorry I AM GOING TO BE GONE FOR TWO OR THREE HOURS AND I WILL BE BACK AFTERWARDS. YOU CAN CALL ME ON MY CELL IF YOU NEED ME. LOVE YOU. Done.