ok here goes my husband came to me a few days ago and suggeted that he wanted to have a threesome with one of my friends, he states that he's never doen it and always wanted to try it says it all males fantasy and wants to get it out of his system, stated that hes totally statisfied with me and loves me very much but wants to do this and asked if i would BUT heres the kicker you ready i am 18 1/2 weeks pregnant and he states that i am beautiful but i think otherwise, so what you think should i or no i am scared that if i do this hed like it too much and want to do it again which i am not crazy about, or he want someelse CONFUSED what do you think....
2006-08-18 08:39:15 · 44 answers · asked by liz_bonilla2000 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think you should consider it, after the pregnancy. He may feel like you will never have time or the inclination once the baby arrives, but if it is something you would normally consider doing, then ask him to ask you again when you're back to normal.
Now it's time for the smart alec answer you didn't want...
Say yes, only on the condition that you get to choose the lady friend, then pick your least attractive friend and see what he says
2006-08-18 08:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by corwinnn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is such a loaded ordeal. I do think that men and women both have many fantasies....But sometimes it needs to be just that... Dealing with the reality after the fantasy can be a very sticky ordeal.....My first question to you would be Is this something that YOU want to do? How do you feel about monagamy? Is this something you would be willing to do again and again.... I am a bisexual woman and have had relationtionships with both men and women. I am also a former exotic dancer, so I get that men have fantasies. And I also understand as women this backs us into a corner because we want to satisfy our men..... HOWEVER...Understand this is risky behavior and you are pregnant... Could you deal with your husband sleeping with another women? Understand the insecurities that will naturally arise. Are you attracted to women? If not than this will only make the situation worse and it will not be an enjoyable experience for you. What is it that is making him want to do this at this particular moment? Know that it is never just sex... You all (including the third party) will have feelings about this.With women there is usually not much pleasure without a connection or some emotions. What if he enjoys her to much? What if you enjoy her to much ? What if there is continued contact after the ordeal? Is it then an open marriage?....
From my experiences I do not recommend a threesome for anyone that you see a future with, anyone that you are in love with, or definitely not anyone you are married to... IT WILL NOT BE LIKE WHAT YOU SEE IN THE MOVIES. Think about this very deeply before you agree. also think about what this says of your marriage.
2006-08-18 08:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by success 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO THIS PLEASE!!!! he is being an *** especially if you are pregnant. Tell him you'll do it if he lets some guy ^ his @%% he'll drop it real quick. You are pregnant and in a very self-concious state your marriage will never be the same. And he will definetly want to do it again, there is no such thing in this situation as getting it out of your system. When my husband and I were together for only 1 year he suggested this same thing, I thought about it and decided no. We are still together 11 years later and we are BOTH glade we did not do it. He still respects me, and I am not constantly worried about other women. If he loves you he will respect your decision. I am not sure if this is his 1st child or not but if it is he might be having 'cold feet' and realizing that he may never be able to be 'free' again my husband says it is normal to feel that way and it should go away once he looks at his childs precious face.
2006-08-18 09:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by rye252000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know it one thing if he asks you just out of the blue, But not when your pregnant. I would be upset by that too. If I were you I'd tell him exactly how you feel, If it's something that you absolutely dont want to do, then dont do it. Let me tell you from experience, I've done the threesome thing and I did for him. I didnt enjoy it, It was all for him and I just dont want to go down that road again. Yeah he had a blast but I still think about it and wish it never happened. Seriously dont do it if you dont feel good about it, especially while your pregnant...Congrats on the baby!!
2006-08-18 08:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm down with simplysexy1300 because she is right. Your hubby got some serious issues. That is a fantasy and that is where it should stay (in his head). I am sorry that this man has put you in this situation but Simply... is right, God loves you girl! Take care of that baby and don't worry about his butt. You got enough to worry about right now.
Don't forget, you CAN do it alone if it comes to that. Your mental and physical health is more important than any fantasy he may have. You have been blessed with life so focus on that.
Have a blessed day!
2006-08-18 09:50:24 · answer #5 · answered by pureblessingfromabove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you this. It can cause alot of problems. It can make you feel insecure, make him insecure. It can make him feel it's Ok to cheat. Threesomes can cause alot of problems. I would seriously think it over and talk to him about it. I think it is totally disrespectful of you and the baby to even ask something like that right now. He should be focused on you and the baby, not a threesome.
You are pregnant an Std is the last thing you should have to worry about.....Good luck
2006-08-18 08:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by mememe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I'd wait till after the baby comes...your emotions are or can run a little to high to be trying these types of endeavors. There is a time a place for everything and in the middle of pregnancy the both of you need to be thinking of the soon to be third little person in your lives. Secondly, that is a huge commitment to both you and your friend. First you need to feel totally comfortable with that person, so I'd say you pick the person, not him.
And you need to think about how it may affect you and your friends friendship. I have a girl friend who did this with her best friend and it nearly destroyed their friendship because they felt funny about it after wards. They are still best friends but it took them some time to get over how it made them feel and they decided to never do it again with one another to save their friendship.
He may be feeling a little left out right about now and its not unusual. You may want to do something special for him, BUT DO NOT COMPRISE YOUR PRINCIPLES. Try a romantic, sexy weekend for two to somewhere. They say a 2nd honeymoon during pregnancy can lift both spirits.
2006-08-18 10:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no way that I would have a threesome especially if I was pregnant. if he truly loves you, he will not press the issue if you tell him no. You don't need the stress that this could cause worrying about him being with another woman even if you are there as well. He must be attracted to your friend and this is his way of getting around cheating. I really would tell him no if I was you. Good Luck to you and congrats on the baby to be...
2006-08-18 08:47:54 · answer #8 · answered by Just Me 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that is horrible, I would be very upset about that. I think this would be a "marriage-ender" and I wouldn't participate if I were you. You don't want to raise that baby by yourself. I am not judging you at all, I think your husband is messed up. He has a beautiful wife and a baby on the way and he wants to jeopardize it for something immature and irresponsible. You get married because you are committed to ONE person. Maybe you both should consider marriage counseling, if not for the sake of your marriage, for the sake of your child.
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