We sex up 1 to 2 times a week. We don't have any kids, but I have had medical issues that have made me uncomfortable with sexing up. He said he's tire of hearing that excuse. What should I do? (Serious answers and don't say see a doctor, been there done that)
2006-08-18 08:22:30 · 28 answers · asked by ChicaLoca 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry I typed it so fast I spelled enough wrong!
2006-08-18 08:23:08 · update #1
Need more info... as what is the medical issue... is your hubby patience... can you preform oral ?
2006-08-18 08:28:57 · answer #1 · answered by on2try 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well Well.... If you have something like endometriosis I feel sorry for you but life goes on . There is always something you can do about anything if you really want to. 1-2 times a week is an ok sex schedule but it's not all that unless those 1 or 2 times a week are completely satisfying redhot ones. All couples go through stages when they have lots of sex in a short time then no sex for extended times and then find balance that works out pretty good for both involved . Normally when a young couple is newly married, especially before kids, it's not uncommon for some sort of sex everytime you have spare time ( which is most of the tme) Then as you get older and job schedules and kids and bills pile up the stress begins to steal away those precious spare moments and you really have to make a point to have sex once in a while just for the sake of keeping you both connected and sane.Usually it takes about 5-7 years to get to that point. the bottom line here is you aren't the only one in this marriage and if you have some medical condition that is incurable or you don't want to take the nessecary steps to correct then you should let him go find the life he thought he had with you somewhere else.
It's not such a terrible thing to be married to a man that worships your body. As long as he isn't worshiping everybody elses too. So be fair, if you can't or won't get on the same page with your man about sex , then tell him just that . You can't, or won't, whichever the case may be he deserves to be treated honestly . He'll either try to understand for a while, or he will leave you to find what he wants somewhere else and you are going to have to deal with that like it or not.
Good luck
2006-08-18 08:58:11 · answer #2 · answered by RhinoBoy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are medically ok then maybe you should give in to a more sex time with your husband..... maybe sex 2 nights a week and oral on the other nights to keep him satisfied..... on the other hand if there is something medically wrong with you and you are giving him as much as you can medically possible then I don't understand why he would want to hurt you this way, knowing you are scared and that something could happen. If you don't do something and make a move somewhere he may resort to cheating and being with you a few times a week........ I feel bad for your situation but only you know the whole story and only you know what you can and can not do........ I wish you all the best.... blessed be.
2006-08-18 08:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel like 1-2 times a week is avg. for a working couple, but I would just add some more romance and maybe some excitement to those times b/c quality is much better than quantity! So buy some sexy lingerie, fulfill a fantasy, play dressup, try something new, and surprise him once in a while by you initiating sex. Be waiting in a bubblebath for him one night. Oh, and there is always good old fashioned oral and manual pleasure on the off nights. Spice it up girl! And I bet soon he will be thankful and appreciative of his great sex life!
2006-08-18 08:32:54 · answer #4 · answered by foxxyy44u 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It all boils down to this. IN business unmet demand is the enemy...so it is with marriages. The worst thing you can do in a marriage is allow your husband to go to work with DSB (Deadly Sperm Build-up). You can take it to the bank that eventually someday some woman at work is gonna "answer the mail" for him. Afterwhich it will all over for you. It's human nature.
Now I don't know your medical issue...but I am in heathcare. If you don't mind that I speak frankly....is you mouth medically compromised? your hands etc. You can always do something inventive to relieve the stress your husband is undergoing.
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Good luck
2006-08-18 08:50:58 · answer #5 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you just need to give him more sex!
1-2 times a week sounds about reasonable (most married people I know don't have sex that often, tho) - but if his libido is on the higher side, and yours is on the lower end of the scale, this will always be an issue... Indulge him every once in a while even if you don't feel like it... but take time off at other times. It's a give and take.
2006-08-18 08:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have sex 1 or 2 times, start having sex 3 times, then 4, you have to increase it gradually. But anyway 2 or 3 times a week it´s good. And try to change places, positions, make it different. Good Luck!
Mario
2006-08-18 08:36:33 · answer #7 · answered by Bruce W. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if this is something that you can't help and he doesn't understand that and try and work with you on it then he is a selfish bastard. Therefore he may not be the man for you and you may want to move on and find someone that will respect that you have medical issues and can't really deal will a lot of sex.
2006-08-18 08:38:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you what to do. Tell him to grow up for Christ's sake! If he can't deal with your physical issue tell him to handle it himself. And I don't mean go out and get a girlfriend. If this is all he has to complain about then start to re-evaluate your marriage. In fact, leave him and come live with me. I can at least sympathize with your problem and show compassion. As amazing as it sounds, sex isn't everything. One to two times a week is better than none.
Either that or maybe he should get HBO on cable.
2006-08-18 08:31:16 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hi!
Don't worry so much about the spelling....we all do the typo thing from time to time!
Maybe throw in an "Oral session" on him once or twice a week? Would you be open to that idea? Would he? That way, you are still providing him pleasure and the two of you are connecting physically......
2006-08-18 08:31:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think the more you give the more you will receive and the more you both will be happier. does not work in all cases. some people are just not capable of truely putting someone else. before themselves. {most of the time} that to me is love. if 2 people that love each other put {each other} first. then you have a exellent , very stong bond.
2006-08-18 08:52:31 · answer #11 · answered by womenspantiesrule 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋