I had no idea she was illegal until after. But did not take long for me to realize that she tricked me into this whole scenario for a green card. How do you explain that to a child you want nothing but the very best for: I do everything I can to make his place in this world a good one and make sure that he knows undoubtedly that he was no mistake for me. I love my son more than anyone can imagine. How am I going to avoid the realities of his existance? I, along with my wife try to arrange interventions from family therapists and attorneys. My ex will have no part of it. All she wants and continues to use my son for is child support. I am even willing to continue paying if she just allows him to be a boy ..growing up n an already difficult world.
2006-08-18 08:12:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wish you well n good luck,u should really try to get full custody of your son if any was possible simply because of what he is going thrue with his mom n for what she is doing to him by useing him against you is in NO way right ,i got divorced 2 1/2 yrs ago and my x tryed to use my kids against me as well to get more money than what i was already paying to suport for the kids ,she wold tell me she is out of food n needs money to buy more food for the kids ,until 1 day i got smart and i fought for full custudy and i won now they live with me and see there mom when ever they want to it is up to them when they want to see her i dont stand in there way i support them in every sence of the word.
2006-08-18 08:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by joker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, guy you are a piece of work.
She is the mother of your son. She loves your son as much as you do and NO mother will ever give up their son like that.
Youa re intimidating her because you ahev control. You obviuolsy have the funds to keep on treating her with taking her son away from her etc.
You had the "masculinity" to make a baby, now have the balls to pay up. Everybody has to pay... what makes you so special that you feel that you don;t have to pay or that she doesn not deserve court orderd child support to provide a household and food for your son.
You have to get over your grudge. You are the one making things difficult for everybody.
You cannot "avoid the realities" of your son existence, but rather be accepting of how things are. So he has a mother that loves him, because she is not a US citizen then that makes her less worth it of child support? Dignity? Her own son?
Check yourself.... see what are you doing.... acceptance and tolerance are the only paths for love..... babies needs thier mothers and you cannot replace that bond with your "picture-perfect" new wife.
Your son will forever resent you if you deprive him of the mother that loves him so much.....
I'm advicing you from my heart. I hope that you see the other side of the story and see how much pain you are inflicting and how much damage you are doing.
Get over yourself. Nobody put a gun to yourhead to marry you,. You did it because you wanted to and because it was the right thing to do. Now be a gentlemen and accept that even though you made a mistake, your son was well worth it.
Respect the mother of your child, your son will be grateful for that.
And be a gentleman.... is never too late for that.
2006-08-18 08:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your ex wife making your son privy to this information? If so, it is in your best interest to just not address it if he doesn't. She is showing herself up to be insensitve and nasty, not you. If she hasn't I don't see why you should ever bring it up. Just continue loving your son. I don't see why therapy and attorneys are needed here unless there is other abuse going on. Save your money and spend it on your son. Continuously let him know you love him no matter what the circumstances of his birth and just be there for him always. He will grow up understanding what is what.
Good luck.
2006-08-18 08:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly that can make me sense actual good....he needs to get married for his eco-friendly card. Your 16 and function the responsibility of taking care of a toddler, your existence has replaced no longer for the more effective efficient and he needs a eco-friendly card. he's making use of you, for crying out loud do not get pregnant with yet another toddler.
2016-11-26 00:30:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can report your wife to the proper authorities - tell them that she tricked you into marrying her for a green card & she's been using your son to extort money. That should get her deported. And then you could get custody.
Or just threaten to report her to the INS if she doesn't cooperate.
2006-08-18 08:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look you cant make her change. You got this women pregnant so you have to take some responsibility for the fact that she is your sons mother. It sucks that she is like this but there is nothing you can do to make her a better mother. Just be there for him like you have been.
2006-08-18 08:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be his father... be honest with him and love him. You can't avoid the reality of his existence... but you can still love him and provide for him. How he got here isn't the issue, it's how you are going to be a role model and parent to him through his life that does.
2006-08-18 08:25:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand your main problem. So you love your son. And your ex-wife/gf is after you for money. You dont mind bearing child support. What is the main problem you are facing ??
2006-08-18 08:23:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you go after your son? You be the care giver.
Think about it!
2006-08-18 08:19:08 · answer #9 · answered by Blond Logic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the same as a jailed inmate saying, "I'm innocent".
2006-08-18 08:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by hardtoy99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋