2006-08-18 08:08:25 · 11 answers · asked by charro0295340 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends on the problems that you both have had and how tired she is of trying to make things work.
My husband and I were going to counseling because of issues that he mainly has (I know it takes 2, but even he would admit that it was mostly his fault--cheating, drinking, abusiveness, destructiveness, etc.). After he kept calling to cancel and falling back into old habits, I finally told him that I didn't want to be on that rollercoaster ride anymore and that I would take the chance of divorce over that emotional disruptiveness.
He gets a little worse each day as he falls back into old habits, and I still think of life without him everyday.
2006-08-18 08:16:37 · answer #1 · answered by Christian93 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There could be many reasons she might not want to go. They are:
1) She feels that the relationship is over
2) SHe doesn't want to uncover some dark secret from her past (i.e. rape by father, brother or BF)
3) She's having an affair and she doesn't want to become accountable for it. Women have a need to be on the "moral high road". IF she went to a counseler she might be "guilted out" to confess. Even though she doesn''t have to let that secret out she would be forced to accept her actions and some women don't want to do that.
4) SHe just doesn't want to. Some women don't like to talk about their feelings to a stranger.
Regardless of the fact you can't make her go to counseling. You need to take a look at your marriage and see if it still meets your needs. If you have no children then you might want to dump her. Don't waste your own life on a fruitless relationship.
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Good luck
2006-08-18 08:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have some problems there bud.
But don't fall apart- keep your self respect. Be man enough to admit when your wrong and what you've done- DON"T GROVEL for pete sake she'll respect you less if you do.
Go to counseling yourself if you think it will help, Identify your part and if she still doesn't want to go then it's all on her- you've done your part.
God Bless bro.
There's a verse in the Bible that says better peace alone in a small room than in a house with a contensious woman
2006-08-18 08:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by Sounder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means she isn't ready to face up to the problems you are having. Maybe you should try individual counseling until she is ready to go with you.
Someone who avoids counseling is someone who is avoiding the truth, someone who is afraid to see that they may be doing something wrong (a marriage takes 2 people and problems are seldom only one person's fault)
2006-08-18 08:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has already made up her mind and sees counselling as a waste of time. Sorry dude.
2006-08-18 08:16:03 · answer #5 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I had refused to go to counseling w/my ex... bcuz I was in love w/someone else.
2006-08-18 08:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by Julie G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby is the one that does not want to tend to it, Sorry, best of luck to you keep trying, I do
2006-08-18 08:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means she's done, I wouldn't go either, I got out.
2006-08-18 08:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband says the same thing to me, I thought it was a male thing....I wish I knew more....
2006-08-18 08:14:48 · answer #9 · answered by Lnola 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means there is no problem.
2006-08-18 08:15:09 · answer #10 · answered by B Rad 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋