my mom saw me kissing a girl?

Question

my mom is a very firm faith christian and telling her that i am bi just seem out of the question. but now it seem very important that we talk since today she saw me kissing my gf. btw That reacted wasn't .....let say "christ like". i don't know what to say to my mom. i know i should have talk to her earlier but she has always looked down on lgbt. saying "there going to hell". we should say. note: yes i am still in high school and still have to leave at home with my mom.

Answer 1

I love it!! just like i Tell all the bible thumpers on here... ITs all a sin until its your daughter, son, grandchild....... Sorry honey now back to you... If she keeps bringing it up I would talk to her, Other wise at this point I would close your eyes and pretend like she didnt see anything. I'm sure she will probably try to do the same... She just might have intal shock right now, It will sink in later and I'm sure it will come up again later on... Say nothing, go rent the lesbian movie I want to be a cheerleader.....

Answer 2

It is hard to "come out" to family and because of that girl with girl kiss you are not going to get to pick the time, but it will be better to let your Mother know how you feel. Coming out as bisexual can be even harder and I like the "coming out" as bi page from the Human Rights Campaign, it's good.

Also there is a Lifetime movie called "The Truth About Jane" and in the movie a girl is caught kissing her first girlfriend by her little brother and from there her Mother finds out. You might want to watch it and see the reaction and life after such an event. Of course it's a movie but still, it works.

Answer 3

I feel for you, hun. I really do. I'm in my 30's and my parents dont know either! They are very strong Christians and to tell them that I am a lesbian would break their hearts all to pieces. Fortunately, I do not live in the same city as them so I can hide this farily easy from them. They are older and I see no reason to disrupt their lives at this point in their golden years. Anyway, you have a some choices here with your mom. 1) Ignore it and sweep it under the carpet or 2) Talk to her about it or 3) Wait for her to bring it up. Either way, this isn't going to be easy but know you got some friends in cyber space rooting you on either way.

Answer 4

my parents are the same way. they are very strict christians which makes me a extremely scared to come out. I have to keep in my that i am still in high school also and i know that once i tell them they will disown and throw me out. In you case, now that ur mom has seen you kissing a girl, you should probably not worry about it or tell her the truth. In my situation i wont be tellin my mom until i graduate and i am able to support myself ya know just in case she takes it hard. I have no idea what you should do, either tell her the truth or dont tell her at all.

Answer 5

hmmm tough one to call. i'm a mother of 6 and though none of my children have ever told me they were bi or gay i decided to tackle this question from a mom's point of view. your mom is probably a little shocked at the moment. i would wait until it sinks in and she brings it up. then i would tell her the truth. i honestly can't tell u how she will react but i can tell u if she truly loves u like she should she will accept. she don't have to like it or even talk about it again but she will accept it. now if homelife becomes difficult to deal with and u know this is the reason then u need to go ahead and bring it up. try to explain as gently as u can but make sure she understands u didn't intentionally go against her beliefs that it's just part of who u are. now i am a pretty liberal mother. i would take it in stride and be proud of my child for who they are and i would back them up. however the part u forgot to mention was how will dad deal with it. my husband would have a big problem dealing with it. like most fathers he has the idea that his kids will grow up, get married, and give him a whole string of grandkids to enjoy. however in the long run i feel like he loves our children enough to accept who they are. agree with it or disagree with it when u love someone u love the whole package. good luck with this. i know it's tough but u will get through this.

Answer 6

Well, either you can dance around the subject until you move out, or you can sit down with her and have a little talk about your orientation. With the first one, you'll be in a really akward situation until either you move out or an explosive conversation occures in which she kicks you out. With the second one, either you'll have that explosive conversation where she kicks you out sooner, but without the akward dance beforehand. Or she'll work through it and at least tolerate your orientation. Then again she could also allow you to still live there, but ban you from dating other girls. It's really up to you depending on your situation which way to go.

Answer 7

Unless you have one of these know-it-all, I'm right and you're wrong christians in your family, you really can't understand the stress they are capable of inflicting on someone. The constant preaching alone is enough to make you crazy!!!!!!!! I wouldn't even mention it. Start making plans to move away as soon as school is over and you have enough $ saved up to do it.

Answer 8

if your parents are the good christians they portray, then they would easily understand that "God" made you this way, and besides, what about turning the other cheek and excepting and not judging. "judge not and ye shall not be judged". I think you should tell them if they ask and just say "Mom, Dad I cant help it I am bisexual, i see the beauty in women as I do men." Just remember, YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE AND NOONE SHOULD NOT EVEN TRY TO CHANGE YOU. otherwise they are not "christ like"

Answer 9

Honey, ou need to prepare her for it, slowly opening her eyes to your life and allow her to realize that there is NOTHIGN wrong with it. It's love, that's all it is. I would wait for her to make the first more in talking about it, and she should approach you when she's ready to deal with it. Make sure you're ready for when she comes to you, and don't lose your temper. The "going to hell", "the bible says" talk is ridiculous, but don't let it get to you.

Answer 10

i think the only thing you can do is try to educate her ... bring her a book for parents of glbt. if she loves you and has your best interest at heart, which she probably does, she'll have to get over it and accept you. don't give up. worst case, move out as soon as possible.

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