He said no. But he's been so distant lately. I asked him if he even wanted to be a part of this marriage and all I got was silence. When I asked him about his silence, he said he does want to be with me. Am I missing something here?
2006-08-18 08:03:12 · 15 answers · asked by ~SSIRREN~ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's a rough question to have to answer, but he should have done it adamantly. You two need to sit down and have a long talk, I'd say that something is definitely going on. Good luck.
2006-08-18 08:20:56 · answer #1 · answered by Sausage Fingers™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes silence can say more than a lot of talking. His silence clearly means there is something wrong. Just because you are anxious to find out what the problem is, doesn't mean he is ready to talk about it. Maybe the problem is not as big as you are thinking it is. As long as you are committed to this marriage and doing everything you should be, then you have to accept that maybe the problem is not you. When your husband is ready to talk, he will, or he will find another way to deal with whatever it is that is bothering him. Be kind, not pushy, and time will take care of the rest.
2006-08-18 15:18:23 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are missing something, his answer. You have valid concerns when you see your spouse pattern change.
At some point, he will need to speak and address your concerns because silence only make you try to figure it out by yourself whether right or wrong and what damage to the marriage can be done if your wrong.
He need to open up and communicate and tell you why he is so distant and if he doesn't, he only has himself to blame if his marriage silently crumble.
2006-08-18 15:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the silence probably means that he had to think of what he was going to say, he may not know what he wants at the moment, if he has been distant, he may just need some room
2006-08-18 15:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go see a counselor. There a many things that could be bothering him. money, age, work, the house, other family problems but not you two. Might be an old skeleton coming out of the closet and he don't want any one to see it. He may have been cheating on you had he lost his girlfriend. Go find out, save your marriage if you can. good luck.
2006-08-18 15:16:50 · answer #5 · answered by big T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him his silence concerns you but that you are there for him whenever he needs to talk. Then let it go. Deal with it. Pressure him and you may not like the answers you get.
2006-08-18 15:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by morrowynd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you aren't discussing anything with him, you are attacking him with accusations. And that is pushing him away. Realize that his distance could be caused by a lot of things - like stress at work, fears of aging, financial concerns, etc. and you throwing accusations at him just makes him feel more isolated and pressured. TRY asking him to go to counseling with you where you BOTH have to face what you BOTH might be doing to distance yourself from each other. But throwing accusations at him are only going to push him away further.
2006-08-18 15:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by KB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communicate, try listening to him maybe hes going through some personal problems and just needs some time or some space or just needs you to say its going to be okay with just a simple kiss or back rub. You should talk to him something could really be bothering him. and remember listen.
2006-08-18 15:09:34 · answer #8 · answered by LILMAMA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try paying attention to his needs... men cheat not because they see a beautiful woman... they cheat cuz something is missing in their relationship that another woman does.
Sorry for the honesty.
2006-08-18 15:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by on2try 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be alert and just watch him dont ask to the point of annoyance youll only make it worse he'll pull away even more be supportive. not whiny . ask him to do thing and have "couple time" i hope everything goes good for you best of luck !!
2006-08-18 15:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋