married for 24 yrs. alot of lies and decption.said she had only meet him at a conference and they wewe just friends. they never kissed or had sex.
2006-08-18 07:58:28 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well duh! Don't be silly..of course they are having an affair. 100 phone calls??? business..yea, right. Good luck
2006-08-18 08:03:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you do this to yourself? And if they did have sex then what? Women "can" have "men" friends but if she hid it from you that she was having dinner with him and gave you some excuse what does that say to you? She didn't want to hurt your feelings? Sure! You've lived with lies and deception before and it's just a continuation and it's going to keep continuing because your "allowing" it! If it were me I'ld call "her" up from work some night and tell her not to wait up for me that I'm having dinner with a friend! Let "her" think about it! If she takes off running to her "friend" while you're out to dinner I'ld pack my stuff and leave while she was gone so I wouldn't be there when she got back! Don't do it to yourself anymore! 24 yrs is too long! Whether she's bored with you or not, whether she'd had sex or not , it's still "cheating when it's hidden and lied about! No excuses!
2006-08-18 08:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by noditz57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married women typically don't have dinner alone with another man and people don't normally call their friends 100 times in two months. It doesn't really matter if they had sex. She was sneaking off and being with this other man, then coming home to sleep next to you.
2006-08-18 13:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont even call my close friends... why would I call a "simple" friend over 100 times? I cant say she is cheating on you but obviously she is lying to you. if after 24yrs of marriage she can't tell you about something like this, then it means there's no trust or communication and you two need to talk and figure things out for the best.
good luck.
2006-08-18 08:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by chikis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut. Chances are she's having an affair or about to have one - 100 phone calls in 2 months is a serious commitment
2006-08-18 08:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she lying! Why the 100 phone calls if hes just a friend? I don't even talk to my best friend that much in a month! And going to dinner with him without your knowledge, out of control! Dump her and let him have her! Find someone who will treat you right and respect you!
2006-08-18 08:06:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My love of 18 years had more than 100 calls between the "two of them". She was my best friend.
I know for certain there was no sex, (long story).
It turned out that he was dealing with a pathological fantasy of his own creation.
He turned every thing she said into an "I love you").
Anyway he was nuts about her. It is over . The pain lingers.
No, there was no sex.
2006-08-18 08:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by hello_ms_moore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am thinking that they have had sex...yes.... I don't know the whole story but from what it sounds like I would say yes... I think she is covering up and does not want to admit what is happening.. If she has not had sex it sounds like it is heading in that direction.. Sounds like you need to have a heart to heart with her and find out what is going on no matter what she says just listen, take time to think about it before you say something that you might regret later... people fall out of love just like you fall in love.. I have been there.. it sucks... But you need to talk to her and find out what is going on..maybe things can work out..but you really need to be open and honest about everything and how you feel too...good luck...
2006-08-18 08:07:54 · answer #8 · answered by motorcyclelovinmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you particularly love her you wont divorce her only yet .talk mutually with her and positioned your self in her difficulty ,attempt to be as honest and independent as conceivable.earlier you even commence the communicate practice to forgive her if on the top of the communicate your forgiving spirit only cant enable you to forgive her then supply one yet another a destroy. i'm married ten years now and am 34 yrs old each and every time i imagine about my husband napping with yet another it really is the answer i imagine up yet am already practice to stay interior the marriage i wont get separated or divorce except he choose it also to address the man who remark that once a cheater continually a cheater it truly is not continually authentic.i'm not a cheater yet and if my husband do what i choose quickly i probable should not be.even if if he insist on doing purely what the church approve in mattress room am gonna cheat once probable take the finished day yet am gonna do it to journey what am lacking,and that i recognize after I get that journey i wont cheat back. situation is am responsible already and that i do not even do it yet
2016-11-05 02:44:38 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres is alot of lies and deception in your marriage so basically u dont have a marriage and for sure ur wife is lying to u she is cheating big time on u the samething happened to someone i know they are devorced and now happy and yeah they had to have had sex many times whenever they see eacother
2006-08-18 14:03:54 · answer #10 · answered by Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may not have had sex yet. I believe women stray for different reasons then men (ie) emotional intimacy. If women don't feel cared about or paid attention to at home - they look elsewhere to satisfy this need. Eventually, it may lead to sexual intimacy, you better deal with your issues at home immediately. Seek counseling if need be, before it is too late and she "falls out of love with you."
2006-08-18 08:08:56 · answer #11 · answered by I'mDone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋