How come someone can break your heart, yet you can still love them with all the little pieces?

Answer 1

Read "Great Expectations" and you'll understand

"loved Estella with the love of the man, I loved her simply because I found her irresistible. Once for all; I knew to me sorrow, often and often, if not always, that I loved her against reason, against promise, against peace, against hope, against happiness...I loved her none the less because I knew it, and it had to be more influence in restraining me, than if I had devoutly believed her to be human perfection "
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Answer 2

of course you can! even when our hearts are broken, the feelings that we may have for a given person can still be very strong. some people have relationships that have ended where they were crushed by the other person and yet they continue to love them and think about them and want to be with them because all their hearts want to remember is the happy memories that they shared when things were good. Your memories keep the love alive. But when it is over, it is over. And that is when we just have to convince ourselves to put the space in the relationship to give your heart time to heal. When you are ready, someone else will come along and love you so tenderly and so perfectly that they will glue every little piece of your heart back together again. The scars will always be there showing you and everyone that it was once broken, but it will be whole again and functional. You will love stronger the next time and smarter, too! Hang in there!

Answer 3

Very simple, yet quite deep... Love is by definition a choice we make. If love were simply a response to that which gives us pleasure or happiness, then it would not be love, but a self seeking way to fufill "our needs". On the other hand, if we continue to love even after we are rejected, it shows the depth of the love and the fact that it was real. Even if the relationship becomes severed because of the actions of another, we can continue to wish the best for the other person and sincerly hope good things for them. This is the most healthy response. Trying to manipulate them or "earn" their affections back is of little use. If love is to be true, it needs to be unconditional.

Answer 4

Well the way I feel when some one breaks my heart, is that I still love them a little bit also. I think the reason for this is because you look back on all the fun and romantic times you've had with them and you can't see yourself doing that with someone else.

Answer 5

"Wow I.can, your question is poetic ... especially the part about all the little pieces. It brought up all kinds of good reasons to love someone: Their personality, their romantic nature, the affection they show towards you, the respect they show you, their physical features, their sense of humor, the friendships they share with you, the sense of bonding and the security they may provide you. I've felt all of these things to some degree, but, I never got around to feeling all of them at the same time. It seems that no one was as perfect as my ideal of them.
In high school, I got my bell rung by this beautiful girl! She had just about everything necessary, but, finally, she admitted that she didn't love me the way I loved her. It broke me into your "little pieces." For decades I have felt the same way about her; however, I suppose there's no need to feel broken anymore because she is still a pretty good friend ... we still maintain contact and I still have that old feeling about her; although, we can never re-connect the "little pieces" and can never be lovers."

Answer 6

I don't know the answer, except to say that love is very durable.

And I do I think that the guy up there was wrong. It isn't just females that have this problem. Men can, too. (And yes, I'm talking about straight men.) Maybe females experience it more often because they tend to be more honest with themselves about their feelings, but men do, too. I had my heart broken and it took a while to stop loving the girl who did it.

Anyway, all I can say is that time does heal a broken heart. Peace.

Answer 7

Because you're human. Whoever said its because you are female and that men move on is not only an imbecile, but an immature boy. I know plenty of men who have had their heart broken and still love the other.

Maybe you are in love with who you want them to be. Love can be disillusioning. Sometimes we ignore signs just because we are so into somebody, yet who they really are might actually turn you off.

Answer 8

Because when you truly love someone, you will always love them. I think the word love is used way to loosely. It is ok to love someone and still know that they are unhealthy for you. Have you heard of the battered woman syndrome? Women will suffer years of abuse at the hands of the man they "love", some will even die. Do they really love him? I believe they do, however, it doesn't change the fact that they need to protect themselves from him. It is about self-worth and self-preservation. You can continue to love even after your heart has been broken, just recognize when it is healthier to love from a distance.

Answer 9

Little pieces come together to become 1 heart all over...

Answer 10

Love is a very complicated thing as we all know. The thing that makes it hard is the lil things that went on during your relationship. You can think of 20 things that they did that was wrong, hurtful, and just plain dirty. and then you think of that one time when all you did was talk or laugh, that one note, that one look, and then it hurts all over again. It's a very normal thing to go through. But life goes on, and but you will always have memories. it's just which ones you choose to remember that will make everything seem just a little bit easier.