Ok the thing I don't get about the gay is a choice argument is, let's see. Ok if they are straight starting off why would they have same-sex contact if they are not even attracted to the same-sex wouldnt it mean they have to be attracted to them because why would they just do it, to do it? Also when some are in danger are where it's really hard to be gay why would they choose that, someone fill me in. Because my gay cousin is and I don't know how I should react.
2006-08-18 07:53:23 · 9 answers · asked by dahamu_626 1 in Science & Mathematics ➔ Biology
Homosexuality is a learned behaviour, its not genetic. Some people have been fooled into believing its genetic by doing population studies. They see that homosexuality is often present in a number of generations of the same family. They forget however that it was probably caused by fathers abusing their sons and hence passing the learned behaviour onto the next generation.
Because the abuse often takes place in early childhood, by the time a boy begins to become sexually mature he may think that he has always had an attraction towards other boys. No-one who has grown up in a normal loving family situation will turn gay. All gays have suffered some form of abuse in their past which has warped their perception of reality.
If gayness had a genetic origin then only a very small percentage of the population would be gay. To pass on your genes you have to have sex with a female and bear offspring. A substantial percentage of gays would have to be bi-sexual in order to pass on the gay gene to future generations.
2006-08-21 19:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by uselessadvice 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am completly against any sort of maltreatment of gay people but I want to point out somthing here. Just because a person is not born gay does not mean that becoming gay is a choice. I am not saying this is what happens, I am jsut saying that there are more possibilities other than simply being born gay or not. A person may become gay during childhood development becasuse of certain experiences which are against his control. If this was true, then being gay for this person would not have been his choice, but it would also mean that it was not a predetermined thing. I think that being gay is probably some combination of nature AND nurture.
2006-08-18 10:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by abcdefghijk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People like to argue that it is a choice by saying that they had an overbearing mother, or their father was not in their life, or they were abused and being gay is their way of acting out... like how these bad things in childhood might drive someone to drugs... it can drive a troubled youth towards being gay.
This is clearly ridiculous, because how do we account for all of the gay people in all of the world in different cultures and throughout all of history? Also... if being gay is something bad that people use to rebel with, then how come there are gay people in cultures where it is not looked down upon? Oh, they will argue there that the other gay people in the population molested the young children and made them gay or something equally ridiculous.
There is no evidence that says it is a choice. The people who talk about the ex-gays, well there aren't that many ex-gays, and if they are ex-gays then they are just lying to themselves, or they have made a big sacrifice and choice to be straight like a catholic priest might choose to be celibate despite being a man and having sexual urges... he just uses his faith to bottle up those feelings... but they do not ever truly go away... and, as it turns out, even the Catholic Priests are not too good at bottling up their sexuality!
The best society is an open one, and the negative attitude towards homosexuality is what needs to change... the gay people should not try to change the way they were born.
2006-08-18 09:38:56 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie S 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am gay and I can vouch it was not something I chose. At least not at 4 or 5 year old - as far back as I could remember. I found men attractive before I even knew what sex was. Yeah I had odd parents, but a lot of people do. And they turn out straight.
If your cousin is saying he / she is gay, I would believe him / her. By the time an individual comes out, he / she is pretty certain it isn't going to change or is some phase. If it were a phase, he / she would probably take some time to figure it out first before telling everyone. Like myself, I came out as "questioning". Deep down I knew I was probably gay. I needed time to explore, and sure enough, I was gay.
I am ok with it. Most people, including my family, are ok with it. I am the same old guy I was before I came out. Actually I am more easy going and better. Coming out isn't really a bad thing. It usually makes people more at ease, real, and better developed human beings when they stop beating themselves up over something they cannot control.
I cannot tell you how to react. I just hope you accept him or her. You may actual grow closer because of it because it is probably the biggest secret someone can have. And when you accept them, they appreciate it a lot.
2006-08-20 17:23:41 · answer #4 · answered by sundiegan 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Think about it rationally. The next time you feel attracted to someone think to yourself, "Did I choose to be attracted to them?"
Gay and Lesbians aren't some kind of mutant that is able to choose the objects of sexual attraction any more than you are a mutant that can't.
You are attracted to a person due to a lot of automatic brain chemistry that has nothing to do with choices.
As far as your gay cousin is concerned, treat him like a person and like how you yourself would like to be treated. With respect and decency like any other human being, even if you don't agree with the choices that ARE in his control.
2006-08-18 09:34:31 · answer #5 · answered by slynx000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being gay is not a choice anymore than preferring blondes over redheads is. You can't help who you are sexually attracted to. Whether or not someone decides to act upon being gay is where the choice comes in.
2006-08-18 07:59:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in case you bypass with the aid of the "bell-curve" on which nearly all human features from I.Q. to shoe length would properly be tracked then you rather will discover that approx 10-14% of the inhabitants would be "expectantly heterosexual" and 10-14% would be "expectantly gay" with something in between the two with the aid of various stages. 50% of the inhabitants would fall between the 40% and the 60% marks. The mores of society lead nearly all of those in-between to circulate with the heterosexual component. As a component component, it is people who do sense a gay charm themselves yet repress it that selection into the "gay-bashers". There are some church homes who've claimed that they "cured" human beings of being gay. relatively all they have accomplished is confident somebody who would have been between the 35%-50% mark to stay with a heterosexual life sort somewhat than a gay one..
2016-10-02 06:17:30 · answer #7 · answered by panther 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being gay is not a lifestyle choice. It is predetermined at birth by the chromosones. You can't choose to be gay anymore than you can choose to be male or female. You are born that way.
2006-08-18 08:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its very simple.......just like the hormone estrogen makes a woman very feminine and progesteron makes a man very manly...
lack or over productions of such hormones in a individuals body will cause them to lean towards ..female sexuality (gay) or male sexuality (lesbians).....
2006-08-18 13:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by Martita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋