My husband has a job that requires him to only go to work when they call him. If he doesn't get called he can stay home. For the last 2 weeks, he's been getting up in the morning and "leaving for work" I'm having a really hard time believing this. Is he really going to work?
2006-08-18 07:49:30 · 34 answers · asked by ~SSIRREN~ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He uses having to turn in paper work or get something fixed on his truck as an excuse.
2006-08-18 07:50:33 · update #1
the advice is nice but I can't very well pile 5 kids into a car and follow him.
He is a heavy duty tow truck driver and only has to go to work when he is called out. The only thing he needs to be in the office for is to turn in paperwork.
2006-08-18 07:58:47 · update #2
i'm a truck driver as well,i can't speak for him, but nomatter what whether i had a load or not i had to be at the yard,to turn in paper work or get my truck fixed,'cause if you don't stand over those mechanics,nothing will get fixed.maybe he is maybe he isn't.but if you don't trust him mfollow him once just to see
2006-08-18 08:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by Mike S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems that you've already asked him about the sudden change in his routine. Since he is a truck driver you probably can't call his job like everyone is suggesting because it's more like a switchboard operator that will patch you through to him or will take a message until he gets back to the garage. So here are a couple of different things that you can try to come to your own conclusion. Now they are sneaky and a bit conniving but they can give you some insight.
1) I learned this one from a guy friend of mine who thought his girlfriend was cheating (she was and this was the proof he needed). Buy a cheap pre paid cell phone with the auto answer and silent ringer function. This is so you can program the phone to not ring and automatically answer or "pick up" when its called. You then place the phone under one of the seats. When he leaves the house in the morning call the phone to see if he is contacting someone else so that he can set up a rendezvous. If he is cheating most likely he will call that person and inform them that he is on his way to meet with them. Now you won't be able to hear what the other person is saying (unless he has his phone on speaker) but you can gauge if he's talking to a woman, man, friend, family etc.
2)Have a good friend with a car be waiting around the corner for your call. Have the friend watch your children and borrow her car to follow him.
Either of these should help you get some of the answers that you want unless he is cheating on you with someone he works with then that would be much harder to prove. Good luck.
2006-08-18 08:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♪ TrickNice ♪♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you two aren't having marital problems and you're able to talk honestly with him, tell him your concerns and see what he has to say. If you truly love him, you should probably believe him. From the sounds of your question, you sound like you have some doubts about your feelings.
Sit him down and have a real heart to heart. Don't accuse him of being unfaithful, just let him know that you're worried that he's going in to work on a regular basis even when he's not called in. You should be able to tell by his response and the look on his face when he answers.
Good luck.
2006-08-18 07:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by DragonL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if something seems to be "out of place" it probably is. You need to get some answers. I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that he's having an affair but you need to sit him down and find out what's going on. The fact that his behavior as of late is "not the norm" there's probably something going on that he's not telling you. If he won't tell you straight-up, try to get his work number and call when he "leaves for work in the morning" to see if he's really there. Follow him if you have to. Bottom line: trust your instincts.
2006-08-18 08:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is NOT going to work. NOw is the time to get a Private Eye involved! When something does not seem just right it's NOT. Listen to you gut, it will tell you what to do. Get a good friend to go to his work or follow him. You may think this is being sneaky but if you had to ask on Yahoo, there is a reason to be sneaky. Goog Luck! Better to know now than to find out later. Get yourself ready if you have to leave, money,housing, clothes, food,etc. Don't wait till it's on his time. Believe me he is setting himself up for what if.
2006-08-18 07:58:57 · answer #5 · answered by cindy s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
working as a truck driver is not all fun and games.the way the economy is,a driver just can't sit back and wait for jobs to fall into his lap.he needs to be available immediately,if he wants to work.other truckers are waiting around the dispatcher.cause most times it is first come first get.and if he is there early he can get the good jobs.or maybe he is having an affair with a customer.
2006-08-18 08:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by spocklogical1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are always signs if a man is cheating...this can't be the only one. Is he still acting interested in you? Is he acting odd in other ways? You know the saying, if you think he's cheating he probably is. Well, keep one eye open and don't , I repeat don't, accuse him unless you are sure he is cheating. Nothing is worse than acting jealous without reason. The truth will come out in time, maybe, just maybe he really is dedicated to work.Don't jump to conclusions, but at the same time don't be stupid either. Remember keep one eye open.
2006-08-18 08:00:57 · answer #7 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's going to work when he doesn't have to then he just enjoys being out of the house. A lot of men feel more comfortable in the work environment then at home, especially if there are any kind of problems at home. Men are men, avoid, avoid, avoid. Talke to him about it.
However, if you think he isn't really going to work them be sneaky and follow him or have a friend follow him.
2006-08-18 07:58:06 · answer #8 · answered by ang s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a private investigator! They are pretty reasonable and you should get your answer in a few days. Sounds to me like something is fishy if he has just started to do this when he hasn't before. If you cant afford a investigator, hire a sitter for the kids and follow him. Or ask a friend of yours to follow him!
2006-08-18 08:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he doesn't have to go to work and does - follow him! Give a friend that you can trust the low down the night before. She can be waiting down the block, pick you up and follow him. Then you will know what's happening!
2006-08-18 07:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by Blond Logic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋