Any clues on how to deal with my husband's fears. He is obsessed with 1. Viruses (nearly everyone who comes to the house has a "virus". 2. Drafts/cold air causing aches in his joints (closes every door and window). 3. Catholicism - nearly every conversation turns to this subject. Warning people about the fact that it is evil. Thanks, M.
2006-08-18 07:42:11 · 6 answers · asked by Marceau 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Having arthritis I can assure you that cold air draughts can cause aches in the joints so I don't think that one is necessarily an obsession just him not wanting to live in pain which sounds quite darn normal to me.....
Many people do believe catholicism is evil, if you believe something with all your heart and you feel you are fulfilling your moral obligations to yourself or go or humankind by warning others of evil it may appear to be an obsession to others but it will just feel like you are doing your duty to that person doing it.
as for the virus thing it ma or may not be an obsession and there is a good chance that an awful lot of people who come to the house do in fact have some kind of virus...viruses an fel scarier than bacteria because in most cases there is cure for a virus unlike bacteria which can be treated with antibiotics...
I guess it depends on whether he has a weak immune system and this may make him afraid if getting sick... if he has been very sick from a virus in the past it may actually be reasonable for him to be afraid of viruses.
I know that doesn't help.... but at least it sheds a little light on a differing perspective..
Sit him down and have a longggg talk about these issues.. his fears and the responses to them ma very well be reasonable... at least to him... so give him your undivided attention about each issue as its disussed then let him know how his actions make you feel... perhaps if he is going to close some windows and doors that you have opened make a deal with him that he will let you know that is what he is going to do... if friends ome around let him know that once he has told these partiular friends about the evils of catholicism he ca't tell them again... because afterall they do have choices too... and if he insists on keeping on about a subject they have already heard they may simply choose to not be your friends any more..
I am wondering here if he has spent any time in either a catholic boys home or a catholic college..... talk to him about this...
If this problem persists beyond the point of a little ecentricity to which we are all enittiled... then do get him some help.... even if you have to say it is you that needs the help and you'd really appreciate his support... go to a psyhologist for help....
hope this helps..
2006-08-18 10:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a therapist but am familiar with this type of psychosis. I forget the actual name of it but it is a form of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder related to afflictions and phobias concerning disease, germs, etc.! Not sure what the religious beliefs are in regards to things like this but I have to say that any religion that says people are evil for any reason is one that should not be respected. No offense. It sounds to me like, since his seemingly OCD is very erratic and spontanious, in that it is not a focused thing. Not on ONE thing but to several in the extreme. I have OCD to an extent but nothing like that. Well, then again, I have an affliction about odd numbers. I can not stand them at all. I unconsciously go out of my way to make sure that I do not have to deal with them. It is rather hard to explain and is very wierd even to me. I used to have to take meds to control it as it would distract me in the extreme and I had a hard time functioning in every day life. I started on the meds and went to a Specialist who specialized in this area and with meds and therapy I was much better within about a year. I would suggest this for your husband. However, if he denies a problem and refuses to get help, I'm not sure what you can do for him, unless something major happens and he is, in some way, forced to get help either legally or some other way. Sorry I could not help more but I hope I at least gave you something to go on.
2006-08-18 15:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like paranoia. Could be a personality disorder. Difficult thing is that he would, therefore, be quite unlikely to voluntarily enter therapy. May wish to consult a psychiatrist to see if meds relating to dopamine levels in the brain could help.
2006-08-18 14:49:44 · answer #3 · answered by Whattodo? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has OCD, over compulsive disorder. This needs to be treated with medication and therapy. Don't dismiss what he says, his fears are very real to him, but do get him help immediately. With proper treatment, it gets better.
2006-08-18 14:50:35 · answer #4 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
work on your own stuff. get self-esteem training or counseling, etc. to fix YOUR issues first.
2006-08-18 15:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol
thats pretty funny. no offense.. sorry but you have to admit...
2006-08-18 14:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by lilboss416 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋