happens will i ever get her back.
2006-08-18 07:40:05 · 24 answers · asked by james w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u need to talk to her, ask her why she's unhappy and also try a therapist, individual and group sessions...
2006-08-18 07:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just need a break, you need to find yourselves again. In a marriage, you can start losing the reality of who you once were, and time apart is the only way to find that.
Do as she asks, and why you are apart, work on you. Work on making a new you, someone she could fall in love all over again with.
Let her have her space for awhile. Give her a week or two before YOU call her. Let her know that you want to give her the space she needs to want to work on your marriage.
If she calls you first, thats a good sign, that means she missed you and is a very good sign she will return.
But make sure no matter how hard it is for you that she contact you first. When you don't call her...she is going to wonder what you are up too!
Find things to keep you busy, golf, going out fishing...whatever...don't let her think you are sitting home sulking.
Good Luck!
2006-08-18 14:49:24 · answer #2 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, if she isn't lying to you about why she is leaving.
First, the two of you need to talk and discuss what about you is making her unhappy. Are these issues things you can change and improve upon (and are willing to in order to keep her)? If you were able to fix these issues, would she want to come back? Don't forget to discuss things like what initially attracted her to you in the first place. You need to know if she would still be attracted to that person you once were or not.
If you can fix the problems but she won't commit to wanting you back if things are fixed, you have other problems. Perhaps she has already met another and is ditching you for them. Perhaps she has simply learned that she just really doesn't love you. If either of these are the case, chances are you won't get her back.
2006-08-18 14:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by peytonbarclay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say what is going on with your wife without knowing the whole story, but chances are you have had problems in the past or she is feeling smothered by you. If she has it in her head to leave, you can't stop her. But, if she loves you, she will come back. There is nothing that any of us can say to make you feel better. What I can tell you is that you both seek pastoral counseling. There are some non-profit Christian counselors out there who can give you both good biblical principles to help your marriage (that is if you believe in Jesus and have accepted Him). Otherwise, it's left to the power of human nature and selfishness. And, well, look how far human nature has gotten you so far.
2006-08-18 14:52:34 · answer #4 · answered by Christian93 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to be a hard one. I honestly think you should follow advice suggested to you by some of the others, and try to get her to tell you why she is so unhappy with you. Be open minded enough to accept what she says. Do not start closing her out or try to argue with her, as that will definitely send her out the door for sure. Your only priority, while she is answering to you why she is so unhappy with you, is to listen to what she is saying. Don't be afraid to admit to the things you know you have done wrong. Tell her you love her, and want her to stay. After telling her this, prove it by trying to be better in the areas where she feels you have come short in her eyes. There may be somethings she wants you to do, you don't do or haven't done for a long time. Be prepared to accept those things and work on them as well. Do not beg, and do not grovel. Admit where you need to work on yourself, but do it with dignity. She will not respect you if you are groveling and begging rather than facing this as a man who is desiring to save his marriage.
I have no desire to hurt you, but there is one other possibility I want you to keep your ears, eyes and mind open to consideration. You may not have done anything at all to deserve this. The problem may be she has met someone else and is looking at the grass on the other side and is seeing it as being greener. Rather than just coming out and telling you about her new beau, she may be trying this "separation on a trial basis" as a way of gently and easily getting out of your marriage one small step at a time, without having to deal with much of a
confrontation.
I know this must hurt in ways no one could ever understand, and could never really be put in to words. But I want you to know, I am praying for God's most peaceful peace and comfort for you.
2006-08-18 15:34:43 · answer #5 · answered by bowtierodz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she is unhappy and why she wants to move out. You guys need to talk even though it is a hard thing to do. Just sit down with her and have a talk. If not, you can try to show her more affection. Buy her gifts, especially roses, kiss her, hug her, or home-made gifts are perfect! =) Prove that you really love her and don't want her to leave!
2006-08-18 14:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by craz34jason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both decide for a "break" from each other with no other people involved, yes - you could work things out. But if one of you gets involved with another person - it could become real messy.
If this is a true separation and both of you are "free", that's one thing. It takes 2 to make a marriage - not just one working at it!
2006-08-18 14:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by Blond Logic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going through that right now.
Hurts like hell doesn't it! Counseling is helping.
Some therapists are OK with separation, some are not.
If she can't stand the sight of you, separation might work. If she is depressed, confused or just bored, moving out won't help.
Warning!!! There is often an alterior motive...like a paramour.
2006-08-18 14:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by hellsbells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Wants she gets a taste of single life and if she is self supportive, then I don;t think she will be back.
If she has someone else, she will not be back
If she depends financially on you, yes, she will crawl back when she gets her heart chewd up and spit out and when the bills starts to pile up.
2006-08-18 14:46:40 · answer #9 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes the hardest part of love is letting go
anyway you cannot force her to stay with u especially if she isn't happy
she wants to move out and find happiness she is entitled to do that. she probably fell out of love with u
u guys need a seperation from eachother for a while and see what happens.
if she really loves u she will come back but she says she is not happy so honestly she will find happiness elsewere and probably not come back so u need to go out and enjoy your life and move on and find someone who will be happy with u focus on u let her go
2006-08-18 21:12:10 · answer #10 · answered by Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have any kids then I say good riddence to her. You don't need to waste your time on her. Find another and choose more wisely.
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Good Luck
2006-08-18 14:47:27 · answer #11 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋